My GF wants me to laser off my tattoo

[gregshin]

I was 16 years old when i got this My tattoo

it says "Grumpy" which was my gang nickname way back when...now im 28 professional stayed clean off drugs, back to school, making money etc.

My GF hates the tattoo she thinks it ugly and it doesnt fit me anymore. But im attached to the tattoo...some of my best memories and friends were during that time period. It something that was in my past and made me grow up. I really do like this girl alot we talk about moving out of state and getting a house...i told her i'd remove it if i was married and my wife wanted it removed. Am i holding on to my past too much? or is it my pride?

girls of AT what do you think?

 

[buck]

Originally posted by: gregshin
I was 16 years old when i got this My tattoo

it says "Grumpy" which was my gang nickname way back when...now im 28 professional stayed clean off drugs, back to school, making money etc.

My GF hates the tattoo she thinks it ugly and it doesnt fit me anymore. But im attached to the tattoo...some of my best memories and friends were during that time period. It something that was in my past and made me grow up. I really do like this girl alot we talk about moving out of state and getting a house...i told her i'd remove it if i was married and my wife wanted it removed. Am i holding on to my past too much? or is it my pride?

girls of AT what do you think?

Get a better tat over it.

 

[DnetMHZ]

I've seen some people that have had the laser done, I think it looks worse because it doesn't completely go away, it just looks faded out and crappy IMO

 

[HN]

my initial reaction would be to tell her hell no.
however, reading the description of the tattoo, maybe it would be a good idea to get it removed or to somehow modify to reflect that it was your past (i'm thinking a strikethrough, but i'm not artistically inclined). i mean, really, it was your gang name. do you really want that reflected on you?

 

[buck]

Originally posted by: DnetMHZ
I've seen some people that have had the laser done, I think it looks worse because it doesn't completely go away, it just looks faded out and crappy IMO

:thumbsup:

 

[Dumac]

How long have you and said girl been together?

I think it's reasonable to wait on her request until marriage.

HN's idea sounds good too. If you have it modified to reflect that you have grown from that time period, you could keep the tattoo and keep the symbol of your past while at the same time pleasing your SO and growing upon the tattoo further.

 

[ballmode]

that type of tat means to get rid of your old lifestyle

i would laser it off it

 

[Ika]

Haha, this is a completely opposite request regarding tattoos. Most people want a tattoo FOR their girlfriend... your girlfriend, however, wants you to get a tattoo OFF for her...

 

[ViviTheMage]

keep it...memories are priceless!!

 

[Stuxnet]

My kneejerk reaction is that your tat is part of who you are. I personally don't admire tats that much, let alone where yours in particular came from, but it was there when she met you and helped shape the man she allegedly fell in love with (and if she's not in love with you, she DEFINITELY has no business asking you to remove it).

 

[TallBill]

I wouldn't get rid of it. Theres no reason to. I dont even see how its an option.

 

[tfinch2]

Grumpy???

hahahahahahahaha

What are you? One of the seven dwarfs?

 

[psydancerqt]

I wouldnt make you have it taken off. you can't erase those memories and "Grumpy" is a part of your life. I could never ask my husband to get his tattoo removed for me... unless it was some other girl's name!

 

[jlbenedict]

Originally posted by: TallBill
I wouldn't get rid of it. Theres no reason to. I dont even see how its an option.

Exactly.... I mean.. that would be like your GF not liking your penis, and asking for you to cut that off..


OP: instead of removing the tattoo; remove the girlfriend

 

[Miramonti]

Tell her that you understand that looks are important, and as soon as she looses some of her fat @ss and fixes her saggy boobs you'll address it.

Until then "stfu".

 

[Ulfhednar]

Simply tell her "no." It's your body, and if you're emotionally attached to that tattoo then you should never get rid of it.

She might as well be asking you to kill one of your pets, it's no different IMO.

 

[j00fek]

just cover it up with a nice looking tribal piece. if you didnt already know when you get a tat lazered off it will be the same outline(s) as it is now. so i dont really think its worth it...

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: jjsole
Tell her that you understand that looks are important, and as soon as she looses some of her fat @ss and fixes her saggy boobs you'll address it.

Until then "stfu".

LMFAO

"I'll ditch the tat when you get some salene in those things."

 

[toekramp]

it's a reminder of a lifestyle you don't want to fall back into... keep it

 

[Babbles]

Personally think there is much more to memories and your past life than a simple tattoo. If you really think that removing a tattoo will somehow make you lose memories that you had, you may want to re-evaluate exactly what those memories are. Who you are and who you were is much more than a mere tattoo.

Anyhow, I can see both sides of the argument. I would lean toward keeping it simply because as somebody else mentioned, those laser removal procedures sometimes don't work out real well.

 

[Inspector Jihad]

Originally posted by: toekramp
it's a reminder of a lifestyle you don't want to fall back into... keep it

yeah, and also it shows where you came from and where you are now...keeps you grounded in a sense

 

[Ulfhednar]

Originally posted by: Babbles
Personally think there is much more to memories and your past life than a simple tattoo. If you really think that removing a tattoo will somehow make you lose memories that you had, you may want to re-evaluate exactly what those memories are. Who you are and who you were is much more than a mere tattoo.

Anyhow, I can see both sides of the argument. I would lean toward keeping it simply because as somebody else mentioned, those laser removal procedures sometimes don't work out real well.

Do you have any tattoos? Just curious because nobody who has one would say "just a mere tattoo", tatoos are monuments and dedications to times past which one wishes to remember in a way that isn't just thinking about it.

 

[pinion9]

I ain't no girl but...
Only do it once you are married. Holding onto your past is a good thing sometimes. Do not do it for a girlfriend. If you break up, the vacant spot where you had a tattoo will be a constant reminder of your ex.

 

[Siva]

I think you're good with what you said. If you marry this girl, then getting rid of the tattoo is something worth doing. Until then, keep it if you like it.

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

Keep it, that way when you're old, it will be poinent again. Just add "old man" to it and you're set.