My GF of about 3 years just moved 500 miles away

bacon333

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background: For about a year we were 110 miles apart and visited each other at least once a month. That worked out fine and dandy.

Now she moved an addtional 400+ miles away. I'll be starting graduate school and she'll be taking classes for the GRE so we'll probably not see each other for the next few months.

Well the day before she left, she hinted at a promise ring. I haven't heard of such a ring until one of my friends from college gave his GF one when he moved to the other side of the country.

One of her co-workers told her I should've given her one (grr). It really didn't cross my mind. I love this girl very much but I really don't have the money to buy her a ring atm (I heard you have to spend at least $1k?). I also didn't think it was necessary.

What do you guys think?



 

AnyMal

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No promise ring (or any other ring for that matter) will ensure that she'll stay faithful to you or the other way around. Communication is the key to sustaining a relationchip, not a piece of metal wrapped around your finger.
 

nakedfrog

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I think you were supposed to break it off before you end up posting a YAGT about how your GF moved 500 miles away and doesn't feel connected and then you find out that she's been seeing another guy.
But I could be wrong.
 

fbrdphreak

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Originally posted by: Maximus96
move on. long distance relations never work out.
False

LD relationships are fvcking hard, but they can work out.

<---Almost 5 years now, living together, started as 5 hour LD relationship
 

Maximus96

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Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Originally posted by: Maximus96
move on. long distance relations never work out.
False

LD relationships are fvcking hard, but they can work out.

<---Almost 5 years now, living together, started as 5 hour LD relationship

good for you. but you must admit your example is not the norm.
 

maximus maximus

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Tell her that you want to buy her a ring, but you do not have the money to buy one..

She will be happy that at least you considered buying her one... though you did not buy one.
 

Baked

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Yet Another Break Up Thread. Man, this trend's going full throttle the last 30 days. Hooray :beer:
 

bacon333

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Originally posted by: AnyMal
No promise ring (or any other ring for that matter) will ensure that she'll stay faithful to you or the other way around. Communication is the key to sustaining a relationchip, not a piece of metal wrapped around your finger.


exactly what I was thinking, but I've asked a few girls in long distance relationships and they said the ring matters a lot :confused:
 

bacon333

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Originally posted by: maximus maximus
Tell her that you want to buy her a ring, but you do not have the money to buy one..

She will be happy that at least you considered buying her one... though you did not buy one.


That's exactly what I told her and she looked disappointed *shrug*
 

Feldenak

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Originally posted by: maximus maximus
Tell her that you want to buy her a ring, but you do not have the money to buy one..

She will be happy that at least you considered buying her one... though you did not buy one.

He wanted to buy a promise ring? F that. Promise rings are nothing but a gimmick to rid you of even more cash. Either do it right and get engaged or don't. Promise rings mean nothing except a lighter wallet.
 
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Originally posted by: AnyMal
No promise ring (or any other ring for that matter) will ensure that she'll stay faithful to you or the other way around. Communication is the key to sustaining a relationchip, not a piece of metal wrapped around your finger.

Yes, but it is a reminder of their relationship. And I agree to the communication part. That's extremely vital to sustaining a relationship. And promise rings aren't necessarily $1k - if you don't have that kind of money, get her a simple, yet nice, ring. I bet she'd respect that more than nothing. Also, be ready to put a lot of work into that relationship. If it's worth it, stay with it; trust me, that's the one thing I will stress to you. Good luck with everything, man :)
 

jlbenedict

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a promise ring doesn't mean $hit when she is lying on her back getting banged by someone else

Promise rings are for high school
 

AnyMal

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Originally posted by: bacon333
Originally posted by: AnyMal
No promise ring (or any other ring for that matter) will ensure that she'll stay faithful to you or the other way around. Communication is the key to sustaining a relationchip, not a piece of metal wrapped around your finger.


exactly what I was thinking, but I've asked a few girls in long distance relationships and they said the ring matters a lot :confused:

If it takes a ring to keep that relationship going, you should get out. You're neither married nore engaged, hence no promises invloved.
 

lokiju

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What are your long term goals together? Have you two ever discussed getting married or anything like that?

Do you want to get married to her or what?

If not then why bother getting her a promise ring?

Life goes on.
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: jlbenedict
a promise ring doesn't mean $hit when she is lying on her back getting banged by someone else

Promise rings are for high school
:confused:

he loves the girl. she obviously loves him. is it so hard to fathom that they won't be cheating on each other?

OP, tell her you can't afford a promise ring atm, but you'd like to promise her that your relationship can bridge the distance. if she loves you that is all she'll need.

 

PinmasterJay

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Originally posted by: Baked
Yet Another Break Up Thread. Man, this trend's going full throttle the last 30 days. Hooray :beer:

:beer: Seriously, whats with that?

Luckily my hand will never leave me :eek:
 

Dubb

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do a homemade one - think child-like and cutesy. Shows you at least tried and is dirt cheap. get creative- make one out of layers of cdr shiny stuff or something