My friend's been LURKING on AT watching me.

Hauk

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So I have this friend, highly cynical, critical, and negative. He normally points his negativity at the rest of the world and I just ingore it.

I used his PC to check a couple posts in the vid forum about two months ago, turns out he checked my browsing history and visited Anandtech. He's been lurking for two months now watching my posts (he guessed my handle was the same my email handle). He casually mentions yesterday that he "saw" the recent post on my new build. I asked him how he found AT and he told me from when I used his PC.

The pisser is, over the past two months he's been casually asking me "so what kind of upgrades have you done lately?" "Do you still have the same graphics card?" Because he's so critical, I say none, same stuff. In the past when I've shared details with him, he says things like "so do you notice any difference with that new card?" "Seems like a waste of money."

He's been watching my posts, seeing that I was upgrading, then casually asks me if I've done any upgrading. It's like he's trying to catch me in a lie. He does the same thing to his girlfriend. He's a bit of a control freak.

I don't answer to anyone on what I spend my money on, and I certainly don't want to be criticized someone insignificant. It's a public forum, but with him watching what I'm doing then asking me questions to see what I'll say, I'm kinda pissed!

What should I do?
 

iamme

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so he's read that post last week about your midget fetish?

that sucks.

*waves hi to SteelSix's friend*
 

Hauk

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Originally posted by: iamme
so he's read that post last week about your midget fetish?

that sucks.

*waves hi to SteelSix's friend*

MMmm, midgets.... :D
 

Blain

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Originally posted by: SteelSix

What should I do?
If you don't care much for the guy, why worry at all about it?
Cut him loose and move on with your life. Let him lurk all he wants.
 

vi edit

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I tempted to move this to Love and Relationships.

;)
 

Exterous

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Originally posted by: Blain
Originally posted by: SteelSix

What should I do?
If you don't care much for the guy, why worry at all about it?
Cut him loose and move on with your life. Let him lurk all he wants.

I think this thread is the passive aggressive way of doing that. I think his roommate might catch on when he reads it.

 

olds

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Originally posted by: SteelSix
blah, blah, whine, whine....

What should I do?
Grow a pair and either tell him to mind his own fucking business or better yet, stop being his friend. Life's too short to have tools as friends.

 

Hauk

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Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Originally posted by: SteelSix
blah, blah, whine, whine....

What should I do?
Grow a pair and either tell him to mind his own fucking business or better yet, stop being his friend. Life's too short to have tools as friends.

Nice summary.. ;)

Tough to do, been a friend of the family for years. His girlfriend is actually my cousin. Solid advice though.
 

hiromizu

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Tell your cousin he's been looking at gay porn. Unless your cousin is of course, a dude...If that's the case, tell him he's been looking at straight porn.
 

Hauk

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Originally posted by: hiromizu
Tell your cousin he's been looking at gay porn. Unless your cousin is of course, a dude...If that's the case, tell him he's been looking at straight porn.

:laugh: She's a chick, but she does wear the pants..
 

Legendary

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Tell him the type of honesty he's looking for in his friends (that's what he's testing you for, stupidly I might add) cannot be built when people pull shit like that. It goes both ways and he's a hypocrite because of it.

Your friend sounds like the type of guy where a hypocrite assertion will work really well.
 

T9D

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It's obvious he's just gay and wants to stalk you until you be his lover. Not that big a deal.
 

CraKaJaX

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My GF always searches my name to read what topics I've posted in because she says I "weed out" the bad ones. I tell her every time I'm going to make her a damn login name... then I never get around to it.

Can't wait until she sees this one. :D
 

zeruty

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hmm, that's a tough situation.
I recommend you go to an internets forum and cry about it.

oh wait...
 

BoomerD

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We promise not to tell him that you've been talking about how good his GF is in bed...or that she lets you do things to her that he can't...



oops. sorry dude.