My friend just met my Ex's fiance for the first time today....actually so did my Ex

Confused

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My GF of 4 months (at the time) broke up with me in February, cos she had "fallen in love" with some bloke she met on the internet while playing a game.

Obviously i was really pissed with the fact that i'd been dumped cos she was "in love" with this bloke she'd only talked to on the internet! Then, in about April, i find out that they've become engaged! Of course myself and all my friends...and most of her friends too...think that she is stupid to be engaged to someone that she's NEVER met, and only talked to on the internet and on the phone a few times!

They have been planning to meet since about March, it's been difficult cos she's in the UK, and he's from , and he's had a counter online until the time they will meet...i mean how sad! These two have spent probably the last 5-6 months sitting at the computer every spare minute of the day "talking" to each other via MSN Messenger!

They finally met earlier today, and one of our friends went with her, and after waiting for 7hrs with her, and my friend finally met my Ex's fiance for the first time...so did my Ex as well!!

Almost immediately after meeting him, my Ex left her "friend" hanging around, and didn't talk to her since, and has made no effort to apologise!

I mean how sad can it be to be ENGAGED to someone you've never met! I understand getting talking to someone online then meeting, as that's how my mum and her new husband met, but before they declared their undying love for each other and got engaged at least they met! That's how it should be done! I think it's so sad and pathetic them "falling in love" and getting engaged before even meeting! :Q


Feel free to discuss internet relationships and how stupid they are! Myself and my friend will be monitoring this thread for your input and comments! :)

Confused <---- Thinking his Ex is a stupid *&^$%!!!! :)
 

pyonir

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i think you need to let her go. who gives a fvck about her life now, she is your EX.
 

Confused

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Yeah i don't care, i just think it's funny and that you ATOT guys would like a laugh! It certainly makes all my friends laugh!
 

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Hmmm... seems to me she's off having a blast with somebody she's been waiting eagerly for.. and you're here alone whining on ATOT.. now who's "stupid" ? :)
 

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In some cultures, the two betrothed dont even talk to, or see one another till their wedding day.
 

Confused

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
I mean how sad can it be to be ENGAGED to someone you've never met
Almost as sad as being dumped by her for some guy she's never seen:)

I guess you got me there! ;)

And if anyone uses the "why don't you have a GF again yet" i knew back then that i was moving away from that town, and wasn't gonna get into another relationship and have to leave her behind. And, i only moved a couple of weeks ago and have not been able to get out much in new town, been sorting out house, decorating etc, and so that's why i'm here "moaning on ATOT" ;) :)
 

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Originally posted by: Confused
Yeah i don't care, i just think it's funny and that you ATOT guys would like a laugh! It certainly makes all my friends laugh!

I'd have to agree with other people here.... looks like you're NOT laughing about it. looks like you're having a hard time dealing with it. If their relationship broke apart, you might have something there. But if the relationship turns out to be 'perfect' would you still call it "stupid"?

It looks as if you base the sucess of the relationship on the way people 'look' instead of how they feel. They probably didn't care about how they each look like before they met. Or maybe they knew already from the pictures they sent each other?
 

Confused

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Originally posted by: Shelly21
It looks as if you base the sucess of the relationship on the way people 'look' instead of how they feel. They probably didn't care about how they each look like before they met. Or maybe they knew already from the pictures they sent each other?

No, i don't base relationship on looks (as much as some people do, for me i do like a nice looking girl), and this isn't about it. It's about how i think it silly that they got engaged without meeting each other, getting to know the real person, their habbits etc. Finding out the kinds of things that make a person tick and whether they can put up with it. I would love dearly for them to be happy together, don't get me wrong here. I just think it strange, silly, stupid whatever that they made all these (i feel) important decisions before meeting each other, only basing their judgement on their online personnas.

I would have the same reactions if it wasn't my ex, if it was one of my other friends, i would let them know that i think it's stupid/silly to make these important, and big, moves purely based on how they are online, i feel that you really should spend some quality time in each other's company before making these decisions.

And another thing i find weird is that she said the reason she dumped me (or the one she told me anyway) was because i couldn't find a way of talking to her during the evening on MSN. I would have quite happily spent every night with her, but she wouldn't come out/go out anywhere to be together, so we talked online, or i tried to at least, but all i really wanted to do was spend time with her!
 

spanky

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ok i understand now. yes it is sad. but please... continue on... i have no life so i must know about ur's :D
 

Shelly21

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ah, okay... things like that can happen really fast.

love at first sight or IM in this case right?
 

Confused

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Originally posted by: spankyOO7
am i the only one confused as hell reading this post?

Probably not! I'm not the best at saying things, which is why i only really post on DC forum where there's not as much to say! ;)

This is my first topic in OT!
 

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
I mean how sad can it be to be ENGAGED to someone you've never met
Almost as sad as being dumped by her for some guy she's never seen:)

That's what I was thinking...

I'm just chuckling at the fact that you use the word "bloke" and "mum". :)

Sucks, dude... she's not worth anything.
 

GasX

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This thread represents a discussion that would NEVER happen in the real world. We ALL need to get out more...
 

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I agree with you confused. Your ex-gf is lame, foolish, and pathetic. There is a lot to be said about getting to know someone in person. Only so much can be conveyed and disguised in an online persona.
 

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Originally posted by: baffled2
Hmmm... seems to me she's off having a blast with somebody she's been waiting eagerly for.. and you're here alone whining on ATOT.. now who's "stupid" ? :)

OUCH!!!
 

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Originally posted by: Zakath15
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
I mean how sad can it be to be ENGAGED to someone you've never met
Almost as sad as being dumped by her for some guy she's never seen:)

That's what I was thinking...

I'm just chuckling at the fact that you use the word "bloke" and "mum". :)

Sucks, dude... she's not worth anything.
I believe he is from the U.K.

 

Confused

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Originally posted by: Gaard
as that's how my mum and her new husband met
cos she had "fallen in love" with some bloke she met on the internet
Blimey! ;)

As i said, one difference, my mum actually met him before deciding whether or not she really liked him! So not same thing at all, they got to know each other in RL before making these big decisions, this girl didn't, plain and simple! :)

And as for the moaning on ATOT, i explained that already :)
 

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This is a case of geek love at it's finest. I have the utmost respect for relationships, no matter how they start. But cases like this are rediculous.

Ryan
 

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I know how bad it feels... I agree that it's terrible and sad. But, unfortunately, this is pretty normal nowadays. Such blind relationships start on a daily basis. Blind weddings are also commonplace, when people have talked only on the 'net and are married blindfolded on the TV. I know it's ridiculous and sad, but it's life.