My "friend" is hopeless

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Rufus12

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For many years now I have known this kid that we'll call "Bill". Bill is your stereotypical internet nerd. He spends all his free time on the internet looking at digg/4chan etc. He continues to do so despite me asking him if he wants to come hang out after school/on weekends.

In school people constantly pick on him, because of his acne and the way he's always arguing with other people on everything. The other day I typed his aim name into google, and I found some articles he had written for a Magic: The Gathering website. After everything I've seen this kid go through I truly want to help him.

What should I do ATOT? Should I introduce him to the bottle?
 
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Originally posted by: Rufus12
Think it'd be a good idea to have him make an account here and start posting?
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stop lying. we know by "My friend" you actually mean "myself"

 
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Originally posted by: StinkyPinky
Does he seem happy? If so, leave him alone. Not everyone likes to party.
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As far as I can tell he's unhappy. Seeing me log in on aim after I get home from work is one of the highlights of his week. He just sends me links about random stuff, and I feel guilty if I don't respond.
 
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It's really hard to help people like that. And even if they do want help, it can take years to change.

I have a friend - not quite as bad as that - whom I'm introducing to "girls" right now. He still talks to them about circuits and programming and physics experiments, and asks them permission for everything he does... but at least he talks to them?

Don't try to change everything all at once. Lead by example and pick perhaps one new thing to introduce into his life. e.g. have him play a sport with you, or come to a party with you, or something like that.
 
Modelworks

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Sometimes with people you have to use reverse psychology. So don't ask him if he wants to do something after school. Show up ready to do something and make it seem like he is making you feel bad if he doesn't come along. Some people are happy the way they are, while others want something different and just don't know how to go about it.
 
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Originally posted by: Bignate603
Originally posted by: CrazyLazy
Seems like a really cool kid.
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You parodied the guy's thread and now are messing with the original. You're a tool.
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I think there is a specific line for this type of pwnage:

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Originally posted by: Rufus12
For many years now I have known this kid that we'll call "Bill". Bill is your stereotypical internet nerd. He spends all his free time on the internet looking at digg/4chan etc. He continues to do so despite me asking him if he wants to come hang out after school/on weekends.

In school people constantly pick on him, because of his acne and the way he's always arguing with other people on everything. The other day I typed his aim name into google, and I found some articles he had written for a Magic: The Gathering website. After everything I've seen this kid go through I truly want to help him.

What should I do ATOT? Should I introduce him to the bottle?
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Is he Tall?
 
irishScott

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Hard situation. You could try going in stages. Take him out to a LAN or something and work your way up to more mainstream social experiences from there. The argumentative personality is going to be a problem (I know from firsthand experience). Unfortunately there's not much you can do in that regard. Sounds like it's probably deep-seeded and will require a hell of a lot of effort to uproot. He probably doesn't even realize he's doing it. Just on a different wavelength.

Get him to see a dermatologist for the Acne. On that note, how old are you/he? The last time I heard anyone make fun of anyone for Acne was 8th grade, and I went through public schools.

What he really needs is a good psychologist, and that requires, among other things, money and a willingness on his part.
 
Saint Nick

Saint Nick

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My room mate is a lot like this. He is very argumentative and very anti social. He spends all of his time surfing the web, playing online games, and listening to black metal. He never has any friends over, or really ever goes over to anyones place.
 
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