My friend is being domesticated

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Stuxnet

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They're good for certain things.

Ahh... and there it is, my friends. It's pretty obvious now that no matter what type of person his friend's wife was, he'd hate her. Afterall, she's a woman and obviously crippled physically and intellectually. I'm sorry that little girl in the third grade took your apple and gave it to another boy.

Enjoy yanking it for the rest of your life, chump ;)
 

Narmer

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Ahh... and there it is, my friends. It's pretty obvious now that no matter what type of person his friend's wife was, he'd hate her. Afterall, she's a woman and obviously crippled physically and intellectually. I'm sorry that little girl in the third grade took your apple and gave it to another boy.

Enjoy yanking it for the rest of your life, chump ;)
Yanking what? My dick? No need to. Anyway, I'm not sexist. I love my gf. However, I'm the leas PC person you'll ever meet. I'll call a spade a spade and not flinch if it warrants.

Look, since you like following orders why don't you leave me alone and go back to being under your wife and live your "happy" life. As for me, I get to decide what I do.
 

Meghan54

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Poor puppy lost his lead dog to a female and is now whining in his corner.

And, yes, I'm married......and enjoy it immensely. Although I'm a tad older than most here, our marriage is one of shared responsibilities. She cooks, I wash dishes. I keep the house semi-straight, she washes clothes..

I wanted a new boat.....got it without complaint. Wanted a motorcycle.....got it without so much as a "why?"

She wanted a new quilting machine....she got it.

Kinda how it works. I put the seat down on the toilet, always. Just courtesy. She never asks why I spend any $$ on computer crap......

Then again, we're adults.....unlike some posters in this thread.
 

yh125d

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I wanted a new boat.....got it without complaint. Wanted a motorcycle.....got it without so much as a "why?"

She wanted a new quilting machine....she got it.


Kinda how it works. I put the seat down on the toilet, always. Just courtesy. She never asks why I spend any $$ on computer crap......

Then again, we're adults.....unlike some posters in this thread.

That's all finance based stuff though. If you're doing well for yourself and can afford mentioned items easily, of course there's not gonna be a problem, even if your wife were one of the pushy "training" types
 

Stuxnet

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Yanking what? My dick? No need to. Anyway, I'm not sexist. I love my gf. However, I'm the leas PC person you'll ever meet. I'll call a spade a spade and not flinch if it warrants.

Look, since you like following orders why don't you leave me alone and go back to being under your wife and live your "happy" life. As for me, I get to decide what I do.

LMFAO ... says the guy bitching about a choice his friend made.

Pot, meet kettle :cool:
 

Narmer

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LMFAO ... says the guy bitching about a choice his friend made.

Pot, meet kettle :cool:
I'm not 100% sure if my friend made these choices. I'm not married and don't have kids so I don't understand completely. However, I find it hard to believe someone can turn into a saint so fast. Even Jesus H. Christ would say "Come on" to this. I don't believe it. I also don't like the crap his wife is putting into my gf's ears. If he doesn't straighten her out I will.
 

dank69

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In this case nuthin = $, so he probably doesn't care.

I know guys that work and actually get allowances from their not-working (or barely working) wives. And they get 1 or 2 days a month when they're allowed to go out and do something they want. If they violate that rule they get yelled at. Like kids or dogs.

Sorry, that's not being "mature". Just the opposite I'd argue.

So you're telling me my friendships & relationships with people who I've known for a decade or more, who've been there for me when life has sucked & who I've shared some of the best times of my life with mean nothing? Yeah, ok.

Jesus Christ, you kids these days don't know nuthin 'bout nuthin. I just posted a common saying, related to your post ichy. It means if you have a wife and you have kids then you got nothin. Because your wife takes everything and your kids break everything of value.
 

shopbruin

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I'm not 100% sure if my friend made these choices. I'm not married and don't have kids so I don't understand completely. However, I find it hard to believe someone can turn into a saint so fast. Even Jesus H. Christ would say "Come on" to this. I don't believe it. I also don't like the crap his wife is putting into my gf's ears. If he doesn't straighten her out I will.

No kidding.

What is his wife telling her? "Dump this loser if he won't commit?" Sounds like pretty good advice to me, if her goal in life is to get married and have a worthwhile relationship, when the guy she's with doesn't sound like he wants these things...
 

TheVrolok

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I'm not 100% sure if my friend made these choices. I'm not married and don't have kids so I don't understand completely. However, I find it hard to believe someone can turn into a saint so fast. Even Jesus H. Christ would say "Come on" to this. I don't believe it. I also don't like the crap his wife is putting into my gf's ears. If he doesn't straighten her out I will.

You "want your friend back," and are planning to "straighten his wife out?" Yep, that definitely sounds like a good idea.
 

Narmer

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No kidding.

What is his wife telling her? "Dump this loser if he won't commit?" Sounds like pretty good advice to me, if her goal in life is to get married and have a worthwhile relationship, when the guy she's with doesn't sound like he wants these things...
So the goal of every woman is to get married?
 

Wyndru

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It also annoys me when women say things like "I trained my husband". I still hang out with my friends regularly, and my wife has her ladies nights a few times a month also (sometimes I even cook for them if it's at our house :D). We just trade off spending time with our daughter while the other is out. It's important to balance friends and SO's, otherwise you end up despising each other.
 

Narmer

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You are a complete idiot. You are never allowed to criticize another person's intelligence, reading comprehension, logic, or reason.
Back for more, ehh? You must've become immune to the abuse your wife gives you.
 

actuarial

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I'm not 100% sure if my friend made these choices.

So you're greater than 0% sure that his wife holds a gun to his head? Otherwise, he's still making his own choices.

I had a friend like you who disliked my wife when we started dating because I did less stuff with them. It was definitely rooted in jealousy, and it sounds like it's the case with you. It's not that you're jealous of him, you're jealous of her that he likes spending more time with her than you.

I used to go drinking and smoking weed every night. Now I go home and watch Glee, a show I would never watch on my own. My wife watches 70+ Raptors games a year, even though she had only seen one basketball game before we started dating (and only went because she thought her father got free tickets to the museum).

Just because you can't understand how just spending time with someone can make you happy doesn't mean it's not true.
 

CraigRT

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It also annoys me when women say things like "I trained my husband". I still hang out with my friends regularly, and my wife has her ladies nights a few times a month also (sometimes I even cook for them if it's at our house :D). We just trade off spending time with our daughter while the other is out. It's important to balance friends and SO's, otherwise you end up despising each other.

100 billion percent agree.
 

lsv

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I might be a bit late on this one but; has your friend recently bought a Jeep of which his wife posted on Jeepforums.com for advice?
 

Narmer

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So you're greater than 0% sure that his wife holds a gun to his head? Otherwise, he's still making his own choices.

I had a friend like you who disliked my wife when we started dating because I did less stuff with them. It was definitely rooted in jealousy, and it sounds like it's the case with you. It's not that you're jealous of him, you're jealous of her that he likes spending more time with her than you.

I used to go drinking and smoking weed every night. Now I go home and watch Glee, a show I would never watch on my own. My wife watches 70+ Raptors games a year, even though she had only seen one basketball game before we started dating (and only went because she thought her father got free tickets to the museum).

Just because you can't understand how just spending time with someone can make you happy doesn't mean it's not true.
Glee? Really?

Seriously, I'm not jealous. I believe she is taking over his life. She is also trying to influence my gf. Worse, if he's being domesticated this fast I'm not sure if he can keep things that were meant to be confidential. The last thing I want is this bitch telling my gf about things I did because her husband has found his soulmate and is now emasculated. HE CRIES now. I don't want to be around married couples. Honestly, I don't like that world. I don't want to be in it. I don't want to plan things or talk about how little Timmy is doing in school. I don't want to hang out with women unless they're family or I'm going to fuck them. WTF does? I don't do small/bitch/emotional talk. I just don't.
 
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purbeast0

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this thread is so full of win and fail (but the fail in this thread is what makes it full of win!)
 

blackdogdeek

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is your friend happy? does he complain to you about his wife or his marriage or his child?

if you're really his friend, you'll do whatever you can to support the choices he's made for himself, and, yes, getting married and having children were his choices. if the marriage fails then be there to support him. if the marriage continues then be there to support him.

if you do anything to rock the boat like complain to him about his absence in your life or his wife's conversations with your gf then i can guarantee that you will end up causing him major stress and friction in his relationship and will end up seeing and hearing from him even less.
 

shopbruin

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Glee? Really?

Seriously, I'm not jealous. I believe she is taking over his life. She is also trying to influence my gf. Worse, if he's being domesticated this fast I'm not sure if he can keep things that were meant to be confidential. The last thing I want is this bitch telling my gf about things I did because her husband has found his soulmate and is now emasculated. HE CRIES now. I don't want to be around married couples. Honestly, I don't like that world. I don't want to be in it. I don't want to plan things or talk about how little Timmy is doing in school. I don't want to hang out with women unless they're family or I'm going to fuck them. WTF does? I don't do small/bitch/emotional talk. I just don't.

Other married people. Or other people who know how to interact with people in relationships.

You've made your choice. You'll have to lose your friend, because you guys don't have the same goals in life and you are unable to deal with that. He won't be the guy he was before. EVER. No matter what, he will ALWAYS have a child and that child is going to take precedence over you. They are pretty time consuming, raising them to not be jerks.

This post alone tells me you are jealous you've lost your friend, and even worse, to a woman. How dare he, right? What happened to bros before hos or whatever ridiculous saying people have out there. What happened is your friend grew up. Eventually people reach a point in their life where going out and drinking and partying isn't fun every weekend. Maybe once a month, and apparently that isn't enough for you.

You're also scared of his wife because she plays a big role in his life, and you want that role back, and you're convinced she's out to get you if you think she's conspiring against you with your GF. You are being paranoid. If you think your GF is so easily swayed, once again, you'll have to get rid of your GF since she isn't the one for you in your current state of mind.

By the way, my husband watches Glee with me, along with American Idol and Dancing with the Stars. If he doesn't want to watch it, he'll go online. We also do this weird thing called... compromising. He'll play video games, I'll record Dancing with the Stars so I can FF through the commercials later. OMG a situation that works for both of us! He lucked out that I already watched a lot of sports before we even started dating. I record all the UCLA games on TV, find the Chargers games for him when it's not on local TV, when I'm home during the day I watch Rome, Around the Horn and PTI (I actually like those shows.) Damn all this compatibility!
 

Narmer

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Other married people. Or other people who know how to interact with people in relationships.

You've made your choice. You'll have to lose your friend, because you guys don't have the same goals in life and you are unable to deal with that. He won't be the guy he was before. EVER. No matter what, he will ALWAYS have a child and that child is going to take precedence over you. They are pretty time consuming, raising them to not be jerks.

This post alone tells me you are jealous you've lost your friend, and even worse, to a woman. How dare he, right? What happened to bros before hos or whatever ridiculous saying people have out there. What happened is your friend grew up. Eventually people reach a point in their life where going out and drinking and partying isn't fun every weekend. Maybe once a month, and apparently that isn't enough for you.

You're also scared of his wife because she plays a big role in his life, and you want that role back, and you're convinced she's out to get you if you think she's conspiring against you with your GF. You are being paranoid. If you think your GF is so easily swayed, once again, you'll have to get rid of your GF since she isn't the one for you in your current state of mind.

By the way, my husband watches Glee with me, along with American Idol and Dancing with the Stars. If he doesn't want to watch it, he'll go online. We also do this weird thing called... compromising. He'll play video games, I'll record Dancing with the Stars so I can FF through the commercials later. OMG a situation that works for both of us! He lucked out that I already watched a lot of sports before we even started dating. I record all the UCLA games on TV, find the Chargers games for him when it's not on local TV, when I'm home during the day I watch Rome, Around the Horn and PTI (I actually like those shows.) Damn all this compatibility!
I didn't realize you were female. I'm not jealous of his child or family. That's crazy. And just because you think I'm paranoid does not mean it isn't true. My gf is receptive to her opinion as most women would be. However, I don't think it's appropriate for her to encroach on my world. As for my friend, I think there may be hope yet. We were at The Bitter End yesterday and I sensed an ounce of frustration. Hopefully, sanity will return.