Okay, so my friend sends me a message saying he's in trouble... He goes on to tell me that he thinks that he made a girl pregnant. She told him that, "Even if it was your child, I wouldn't tell you." So far there hasn't been any proof that it's my friend's kid, but I dunno. He's asking me for advice and I don't know what other to tell him than have her prove it.
My friend has a problem...
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paternity test? It's best he find out as soon as he can before it comes back to bite him the ass down the road.
Uh, paternity test? He better establish who the daddy is or he may get nailed for child support for someone else's kid. If it is his kid, tell him to be a man a support her. Either way, figure out who the father is and go from there.
Fausto
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No, no threats on him. He said that she's being really nice to him about it. He hasn't seen her for the past 3 months, so he's not even sure if she is. He just doesn't want to get taken on this.
<< Well what if it is, but she doesn't tell him? Is there anyway he can protect his @$$. >>
Well, if she ever wants to collect child support or anything like that, isn't she going to have to figure out who the father is?
<< Well what if it is, but she doesn't tell him? Is there anyway he can protect his @$$. >>
Well, if there's a possibility that it's his kid, then he should've been protecting his ass in the first place. If it IS his kid, then he has to support it. She can probably take him to court and get child support.
Like others said, have him take a paternity test.
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<< Well what if it is, but she doesn't tell him? Is there anyway he can protect his @$$. >>
Well, if she ever wants to collect child support or anything like that, isn't she going to have to figure out who the father is? >>
Yeah, she'll have to find out if she wants to collect child support. If she decides pursue this where she wants child support but hasn't told him... is there any kind of a law, preamble, or something that can save him.
MichaelD
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Sigh. I hate to see another young man go thru the hell I went thru back in 1995. My ex-girlfriend was pregnant. I'd slept with her (stupid,stupid,stupid!) about two months prior...it was drunk and sloppy, but anyway, she'd been seen by some buds of mine out drinking and dancing with other guys...so i wasn't worried about it.
She was insistent that the baby was mine. I told her, in a nice way; "please, go fcsk yourself. Have a nice day." Well, well, well, well and WELL, 7 months later, my son was born. The first time I saw him he was three days old. And he looked exactly like me! :Q Before I saw him I was SO sure he wasn't mine....we had a paternity test done anyway. I'll never forget this number:
It said: PROBABILITY OF PATERNITY: 99.9994% Sheeeet, they even took it out to the fourth decimal place.
To this day, the fatherhood experience has been the worst thing that has ever happened to me....please, tell your friend to get a paternity test. DO NOT talk to her/sleep with her/touch her/email her at all. Have no contact from this day forwards. Trust me, it's for the best.
After the baby is born, if and when she does come after him, let HER go thru the trouble of filing the papers and arranging for a paternity test. All your friend has to do is show up and give blood.
Then, if it's his baby, all he has to do is give blood for the next eighteen years.
She was insistent that the baby was mine. I told her, in a nice way; "please, go fcsk yourself. Have a nice day." Well, well, well, well and WELL, 7 months later, my son was born. The first time I saw him he was three days old. And he looked exactly like me! :Q Before I saw him I was SO sure he wasn't mine....we had a paternity test done anyway. I'll never forget this number:
It said: PROBABILITY OF PATERNITY: 99.9994% Sheeeet, they even took it out to the fourth decimal place.
To this day, the fatherhood experience has been the worst thing that has ever happened to me....please, tell your friend to get a paternity test. DO NOT talk to her/sleep with her/touch her/email her at all. Have no contact from this day forwards. Trust me, it's for the best.
After the baby is born, if and when she does come after him, let HER go thru the trouble of filing the papers and arranging for a paternity test. All your friend has to do is show up and give blood.
Then, if it's his baby, all he has to do is give blood for the next eighteen years.
<< She was insistent that the baby was mine. >>
Well at least she told you. This girl is telling my friend that she'd never tell him if it was his kid.
Thump553
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Do nothing without DNA test results first-no admissions, payments, etc. As MichaelD pointed out they are pretty reliable.
If he is tagged in the DNA results, he should face his consequences like a man-actually pay the support, etc. Get a lawyer at this point, if not already done so. He is entitled to visitation, maybe even custody, very dependant upon the individual fact situation.
If he is tagged in the DNA results, he should face his consequences like a man-actually pay the support, etc. Get a lawyer at this point, if not already done so. He is entitled to visitation, maybe even custody, very dependant upon the individual fact situation.
maybe i'm just dense, but how is your friend going to "get taken" if the girl won't tell him the kid is his? doesn't sound like he'll get taken, at least financially.
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<< Well what if it is, but she doesn't tell him? Is there anyway he can protect his @$$. >>
That's a big problem.
If it were me, I'd be talking to a lawyer. He needs to find out now what could happen down the road.
Barring a paternity test, your friend could wait till the birth when the mother has to name the father, or alleged father on the birth certificate. If she does not name him, he is in the clear for now. Then again, he does have to wait.
<< Barring a paternity test, your friend could wait till the birth when the mother has to name the father, or alleged father on the birth certificate. If she does not name him, he is in the clear for now. Then again, he does have to wait. >>
If she decides not to put his name on it and her current boyfriend's name or none on it, will it waive all rights for her to try and collect from my friend?
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<< Barring a paternity test, your friend could wait till the birth when the mother has to name the father, or alleged father on the birth certificate. If she does not name him, he is in the clear for now. Then again, he does have to wait. >>
If she decides not to put his name on it and her current boyfriend's name or none on it, will it waive all rights for her to try and collect from my friend? >>
Not necessarily...
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<< Barring a paternity test, your friend could wait till the birth when the mother has to name the father, or alleged father on the birth certificate. If she does not name him, he is in the clear for now. Then again, he does have to wait. >>
If she decides not to put his name on it and her current boyfriend's name or none on it, will it waive all rights for her to try and collect from my friend? >>
Not necessarily, but it would definitely make it very difficult for her to try to collect money.
Well if she plans on going through any social services programs like medicaid, she will have to give a list of EVERY person she slept with in that time frame, and they will require them all to be tested. Even if she doesn't want his money, social services will take it.
<< No, it's my good friend Paul. I'm glad right now that I'm still a virgin.
>>uhhh huh.. This is you actully isn't it?
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