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My Fiance tested positive for HPV...

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sic wil

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I just found out, and I'm shocked. She said she was tested after her last partner and everything came back clean, and I've only had 1 other partner before her, and I was tested after that, and I was clean...so...wow...

I feel kind of, well, devistated. Her pap smear came back abnormal and show mild displasia, too. Now I'm kinda worried for her.

I love her to death, and this little bump definitly won't stop me from marrying her, but it's just....god I don't know how to explain it. On top of this, I blurted out a selfish comment to her, making her feel way more bad than she already does. I feel like an ass. I AM an ass...

So have any of you fellow ATOT people had a similar situation? How did you deal? Got anything to cheer me up?

🙁:Q

 
Just so you know, HPV goes undetected all the time. It's possible that you do have it and passed it on to her.

(I don't know if you're automatically thinking that she cheated on you.)
 
Its more common than you think, you have it if you have been sleeping with her.
BTW, what did you say?

A few different friends of mine have it, if there is a "breakout" you just get them removed at the doc. I didnt ask if it was painful, but life goes on. Its not a huge deal.
 
Very unlikely I had it and passed it, no blood transfusions, and the only other partner i had sex with was a virgin when i was one way back when i was 17...and i know my fiance hasn't cheated on me, since we're near each other every waking moment (makes people sick, heh).
 
it's not fatal or anything, tho. I guess as long as she gets her regular pap smears, she will be fine, as far as her health goes..?

Or are you more paranoid about where or how she picked it up? Or are you worried about picking it up yourself?

edit: it's hardly the end of the world, if this is the biggest challenge you face going into marriage then you should consider yourselves lucky.
 
Originally posted by: sic wil
Very unlikely I had it and passed it, no blood transfusions, and the only other partner i had sex with was a virgin when i was one way back when i was 17...and i know my fiance hasn't cheated on me, since we're near each other every waking moment (makes people sick, heh).
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Yep. Then it's confirmed. The STD fairy gave it to her.
 
I'm 24, and there's no re-thinking about marrying my fiance. I'd love her if she ballooned to 300 lbs, i'd love her if she got 3rd degree burns all over her body, and i'd love her if she had warts.

No question.

But it does kinda rain on my parade a little, I mean, I'm not gonna be jumpin around and shouting, "Hey! You got WARTS? That's AWESOME! Good for you! Gimme some! Wait, you already DID? How thoughtful!"

:beer:
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
in all seriousness though i dont think i could marry someone with STDs
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Well in all seriousness chances are that you will marry someone with HPV. It is estimated that over 50% of the sexually active population has HPV.
 
Originally posted by: sic wil
I'm 24, and there's no re-thinking about marrying my fiance. I'd love her if she ballooned to 300 lbs, i'd love her if she got 3rd degree burns all over her body, and i'd love her if she had warts.

No question.

But it does kinda rain on my parade a little, I mean, I'm not gonna be jumpin around and shouting, "Hey! You got WARTS? That's AWESOME! Good for you! Gimme some! Wait, you already DID? How thoughtful!"

:beer:
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so you're blaming her?

maybe you gave it to her.

are warts strictly an STD? what about warts on people's hands? How is that passed on? Just by touching? Maybe you, or her, shook the wrong person's hands or something.
 
HPV is hard to detect, basically the only real way to know is when you have the symptoms. And most people are just carriers and never show symptoms so it's widespread, you just don't think it is.
 
Originally posted by: Your Ears
Originally posted by: gigapet
in all seriousness though i dont think i could marry someone with STDs
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Well in all seriousness chances are that you will marry someone with HPV. It is estimated that over 50% of the sexually active population has HPV.
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It's something like you have a 75% chance of having HPV if you have had 4 sexual partners.
 
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