My dog is dying

BeauJangles

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Got a call my from mom's fiancee today. My dog, Gus, is dying.

A few days ago, we took him to the vet because he's been extremely short of breath and lethargic. The vet did an ultrasound and found out that he has a large mass on his spleen that's bleeding. Unfortunately, it looks like the mass (probably cancer) spread to his kidneys too. The vet said he has two months left.

Today, my mom took him to the animal hospital to discuss the possibility of surgery and how much it might cost. They got him in there and found out his bleeding has accelerated. The good news is that it's painless for the dog, he just gets more and more tired until he dies. The bad news is that he is unlikely to survive the next several hours.

I'm about 300 miles away. There's no way for me to say goodbye. The last time I saw him, was last weekend as I walked out the door to visit my girlfriend :( Shit, I wish I'd known and could have said goodbye better.

I've had him since I was in sixth grade. I picked him out of the litter myself. My parents wanted a female dog, but Gus crawled into my arms and fell asleep and I was sold. Yes, I named him Gus, mostly after the mouse in Cinderella.

I know most people say this about every dog, but Gus was really one of a kind. He was an idiot. He fell down staircases. He was afraid of brooms. When he was younger, he couldn't even figure out how to mount our other dog properly. He loved to jump, but he'd misjudge his jumps and slam into things. He once fell out of my bed while he was asleep. He was never much of a sleeper though, you'd wake up at just about any time after 4 am you'd find him looking at you, staring out the window, or pacing around. He never barked or growled, except at one man when I was walking down the street (I was sure to cross to the other side). He was gentle and sweet, even though he was big and clumsy. He had an annoying habit of pawing you when he wanted attention, but then when you started petting him he'd pull his head away until he was out of reach. Then, he'd look at you like it was your fault. Every day, for 11 years, he'd get so excited about his food that he'd wait at the top of the stairs and then prance around the kitchen while you brought it to his place.

My favorite story, though, is as follows: My mom and I have owned a few dogs (four in my lifetime) and she's become very good at training them. She trained all of them sit by giving them treats. She'd force them to sit before they got their treat. Anyway, Gus picked this up pretty fast (he's eager to please) and applied it liberally to the rest of his begging. When my mom would bring food from the stove to the counter, she had to walk across the kitchen and good old Gus would be there trying to stay next to her and sit down at the same time. Pretty hilarious.

I'll miss him terribly.

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Gus 1
Gus 2
Gus 3
 

E equals MC2

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So sorry to hear.
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Am I a cruel bastard for not wanting to get attached to a dog because I know in mere 10-12 years, I'll be heart broken once the dog dies?
 

Vehemence

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Originally posted by: E equals MC2
So sorry to hear.
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Am I a cruel bastard for not wanting to get attached to a dog because I know in mere 10-12 years, I'll be heart broken once the dog dies?

Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all?
 

BeauJangles

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Originally posted by: dNor
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Originally posted by: E equals MC2
So sorry to hear.
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Am I a cruel bastard for not wanting to get attached to a dog because I know in mere 10-12 years, I'll be heart broken once the dog dies?

Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all?

I generally think that's true, and I'm sure in a few months I'll think that's true again, but losing a dog / cat / pet is awful.
 

Kyle

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Sorry for your loss- sounds like he was a great companion
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Vehemence

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Originally posted by: BlinderBomber
Originally posted by: dNor
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Originally posted by: E equals MC2
So sorry to hear.
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Am I a cruel bastard for not wanting to get attached to a dog because I know in mere 10-12 years, I'll be heart broken once the dog dies?

Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all?

I generally think that's true, and I'm sure in a few months I'll think that's true again, but losing a dog / cat / pet is awful.

Yeah, definitely. :brokenheart:
 

xboxist

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Kills me to read stories like this. I didn't get a pet until I moved out at 24. My first cat got sick within 1 year and I had to put her down. Hardest thing I've ever done. Naturally I got another cat, and it pains me to think how much harder it will be to lose her in ~10 years or so if she lives a long, natural life.

My heart goes out to you, OP.
 

Maleficus

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The effect pets have on our lives always amazes me, I would be lost without my dogs. I'm sorry to hear about your friend :(
 

SaoFeng

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oh man.... :(

i almost lost my dog last year, but surgery saved her. i've had her for over 13 years!

i know how you feel man. i lost my first dog, and while it was a few years that i had her, i was heartbroken.

hang in there...it's super tough....but it sounds like you had some wonderful memories w/Gus and that you loved him. :)
 

insect9

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I'm sorry for your loss. I know how you feel, my dog is getting put down at 11am tomorrow morning. It's never easy to say goodbye. I'm surprised at myself how difficult it is every time. Cherish the memories...
 

Twista

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hang in there man.

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Just found out my cousin family is putting down the ONLY dog in our whole family (there dog). He has cancer and its sad because hes smaller now and breathes irregular and doesn't eat his food. Its a damn shame and you can tell hes starting to stuffer(sp). So, there going to put him down very soon.

Pretty sad. You can see tears in his eyes when he stares at you.

 

hiromizu

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I went through the same exact situation except first time around, we had him go through surgery to remove the splenic mass. Kills me to remember it. He too was a golden retriever. :(
 

Linflas

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Really sorry to hear that, sounds from your description that your dog has Hemangiosarcoma. We lost our cocker Katie to that in January 2007 :(.
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Pacfanweb

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Originally posted by: E equals MC2
So sorry to hear.
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Am I a cruel bastard for not wanting to get attached to a dog because I know in mere 10-12 years, I'll be heart broken once the dog dies?
The payoff is that you'll get a GREAT 10-12 years from most dogs.

"If there are no dogs in Heaven,
then when I die I want to go
where they went."
Will Rogers, 1897-1935

"Heaven goes by favour. If it went by merit,
you would stay out and your dog would go in."
Mark Twain


"The dog is a gentleman; I hope to go to his
heaven, not man's."
Mark Twain, letter to WD Howells 1899

Once a dog has entwined himself round your heart
he is not only yours for life, but you are his.
When he is gone, his place is forever sacred.
Other dogs are just as precious
but they all have their allotted spot in your
affections kept for them or their memory.
A heaven without one's dogs
would not be the heaven we hoped for.
A dog is always man's best friend.
Anonymous
 

JulesMaximus

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Sorry to hear that.

Our dog is getting old too, she's 10 now and she has a mass growing on her neck that we need to have checked out. Her hips bother her and she has trouble getting up after she's been laying down for a while. She creaks and groans when she walks and she can't go on long walks anymore. I'd be surprised if she lives more than a few more years.

I lost a siamese cat in a similar way to you a few years ago. She was at the vet and died during surgery. I was at work when the vet called me to tell me. That sucked...:(
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Pacfanweb

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Originally posted by: RichardE
Damn thread almost made me cry, specially since my dog is almost there :(
Yeah, those quotes I posted above are near and dear to me...I have two dogs in the 14 year old range. They're fine, but obviously at that age something could happen any day.