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w00t

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My dad just called and i answered the phone he asked for my mom and than i told him she wasn't here he than asked to speak to jamie i told him that this is him. he asked me whats was up i said it was good he said that he couldnt understand me. I than told him that he had no right calling here that he cheated on my mom twice and hasn't been in my life since she divorced him. he finally got the point and said umm, ok bye.

I dont know if i should feel bad for what i said or did he deserve it?
 
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AdamSnow

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Well we can't make that call for you... You're the only one who knows what happened - you have to do what your heart tells you.
 
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meltdown75

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i guess you needed to get that off your chest.

i'm not around but if you need to PM someone to talk about this ****** you can message me any time. hang in there kiddo, parents are ____heads sometimes.
 
JulesMaximus

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Sucks to be him. If he really feels badly about it he'd make some effort to be in your life though. Sorry if that's a little harsh but that's reality.

Hopefully, he'll realize that life is short and it's important to be a part of your kid's life. Don't let it get to you. This one is entirely on him.
 
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w00t

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well i want to be mad at him he hasn't been in my life only called twice i dont even rember this guy. from the stories he was a real ass to my mother been caught twice cheating on my mom he wasnt there when my mom was having birth he was in mexico getting drunk and doing who knows what.
I love my mom alot she has always been there for me it just bugs me how he calls and wants everything to be cool when he calls trying to ask about me and stuff that is just wrong maybe if he called like at least once a month but two calls in my life i repeat two that is two calls in 16 years.
 
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sonoma1993

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hopefully you two will get together some day and make up and just move on from what happen in the past.
 
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w00t

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mom just walked up and she wanted to talk to my father i said no and mentioned how much he called in my life.

edit: I hope he feels bad.
 
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w00t

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now he wants my e-mail i am not telling him it.

edit: going to go play some hl2 to get my mind off of it.
 
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JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: w00t
now he wants my e-mail i am not telling him it.

edit: going to go play some hl2 to get my mind off of it.
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Well, whatever you do, realize that he is your father. Maybe he realized that he f'd up and he just wants to be a part of your life. You might want to cut the guy a little slack?

My .02
 
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I don't know your situation at all... but cheating on your mom had nothing to do with you, don't use that against your dad. It sounds possible that your mom turned you against your dad... take anything your mom says about him with a grain of salt. My grandfather had a daughter from a previous marriage, and he always wanted to be a part of her life but the mother wouldn't let him. It wasn't until she was in her 30s that she reunited with her father. Don't dismiss the possibility of a relationship with your father, you may regret it later. I know you feel hurt, but he wants to make ammends... maybe give him a shot?

Again, I know nothing about your situation, so my advice may not apply. :)
 
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w00t

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: w00t
now he wants my e-mail i am not telling him it.

edit: going to go play some hl2 to get my mind off of it.
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Well, whatever you do, realize that he is your father. Maybe he realized that he f'd up and he just wants to be a part of your life. You might want to cut the guy a little slack?

My .02
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its kind of hard to cut him some slack all the stories i have really heard about him is him being an ass. he cheated on my mom twice he treated her like ****** and he hasnt cared before why care now?

 
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JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: w00t
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: w00t
now he wants my e-mail i am not telling him it.

edit: going to go play some hl2 to get my mind off of it.
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Well, whatever you do, realize that he is your father. Maybe he realized that he f'd up and he just wants to be a part of your life. You might want to cut the guy a little slack?

My .02
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its kind of hard to cut him some slack all the stories i have really heard about him is him being an ass. he cheated on my mom twice he treated her like ****** and he hasnt cared before why care now?
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After 16 years and no contact with your Mom do you honestly expect him to care about her? The reason he's doing this is because of you. Wow, this really hits close to home with me for some reason...maybe it's because I have a 3 year old son.

I think what Mugs said above is good advice. You don't have all the information.

Good luck whatever you decide.
 
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w00t

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Originally posted by: mugs
I don't know your situation at all... but cheating on your mom had nothing to do with you, don't use that against your dad. It sounds possible that your mom turned you against your dad... take anything your mom says about him with a grain of salt. My grandfather had a daughter from a previous marriage, and he always wanted to be a part of her life but the mother wouldn't let him. It wasn't until she was in her 30s that she reunited with her father. Don't dismiss the possibility of a relationship with your father, you may regret it later. I know you feel hurt, but he wants to make ammends... maybe give him a shot?

Again, I know nothing about your situation, so my advice may not apply. :)
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my mom actually wanted to talk to him she would never do that it doesnt apply like this.

 
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Originally posted by: w00t
my mom actually wanted to talk to him she would never do that it doesnt apply like this.
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ok. Just think about giving him a shot. I'd like to say you won't regret it, but that's obviously a possibility. But he's your father. It's not worth being angry at him your whole life if you can find a reason to like him.

(it sounds like your mom wants you to give him a shot if she asked if you wanted to talk to him... that should tell you something)
 
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Bryophyte

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You have every right to be angry with him. He hasn't given you any reason to love him. Your heart will never heal, though, until you clear the air with him and see if you are willing (or are not willing) to have some kind of relationship with him, or perhaps even forgive him. He owes you an apology and some kind of explanation. Accept it whether or not you forgive him.
 
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ngvepforever2

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I think that your reaction is understood, but please....."than" is not the same as "then".

Regards

ng
 
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Bryophyte

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Originally posted by: ngvepforever2
I think that your reaction is understood, but please....."than" is not the same as "then".

Regards

ng
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Aw, give him a break. He's pretty upset.
 
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