Just by the fact that not EVERYONE here in ATOT is blasting you with "You whiny, spoiled brat!" should indicate that you have a legitimate complaint. With only the information provided, your dad sounds like a jerk. If he was only offering $200 from the beginning then I would consider it generous and you sound like the kind of person that would agree. What triggered the change in his plans?
Growing up, I was given a lot of false hope about "things to come", but I've never had them ask me to prepare for that big of a lifestyle change and then pull the rug out.
Growing up, I was given a lot of false hope about "things to come", but I've never had them ask me to prepare for that big of a lifestyle change and then pull the rug out.
Wanting your son to get an education = Good.
Wanting your son to get an education != Letting him completely change his life around based on a false premise and then pulling the rug out.
I know it's ATOT tradition to just jump on anyone who complains one iota about a parent, but don't you think he has a legitimate complaint at all?
Everybody's just too anxious to jump on the "I worked full-time and went to school full-time bandwagon" that they don't give a sh!t about what the father did. I did it for two years too, big fvcking deal. I've got loans and money saved up where I don't have to do it this year.
When a parent makes a decision and tells you something that you have to base your life around, and then goes back on their word without any time to prepare for things, it's pretty fvcked up.
On top of that, if he cannot get a loan, he'll probably be kicked out of school for not paying tuition under the alotted time.
Now if people want to bash the OP for being a sucker and falling for his dads shenanigans again, go right ahead.
No, i am a vet but i do not qualify for the GI Bill.
um for some of the other responses our there...
i am 23...
reason i am complaining is because he does this sh1t, if he had just not made the deal or changed his mind 2 months ago i would have had time to figure out another way but he did it 2 weeks before school starts
yes i live at home! i live in ficken Los Angeles making 10.35 an hourworking about 32-35 hours a week there is no way i can afford to live on my own especially if i have other bills like insurance and the gas out here AND go to school, i know of only 1 person who lives on his own and he still gets a lot of help from his parents, a LOT and he is married now and living in another state. I had 5 of my friends try to live in a house together which was owned by one of their parents so the rent wasn't too high and it lasted a year before they all had to move back home.
Exactly CKdragon, if my dad told me at the time "i can only give you $200 a month" i would NOT be complainingright now "boohoo my dad is not paying for all of it that cheap bastard" not at all! I also would have been able to plan everything around that but no he PROMISED something it was HIS idea not mine i never asked him for help! I do not know why he changed his mind either he got cold feet or this was his idea the whole time to lie to get us to start the ball rolling and then when he pulled the rug out we would sitll try to go and not back out.
Good luck to ya man. Ignore all the bandwagon people that can't comprehend that regardless of if they worked 8 hours a day and went to school 8 hours a day it doesn't make what your dad did right.
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That's all well and good, but he has 2 weeks to make a very important decision. The dad thing is bad, and is important, but he needs to not miss this semester. There are two issues here, kids: The dad issue and the school issue.
The dad issue isn't going away. The school issue has a very important deadline.
That really stinks that your dad ended up doing that to you. Having your dad go back on something that they said they would do always really really sucks. It's why I no longer pay for something on my CC for my dad if he promises to pay me back for it. Because it never happens for the full price of what was paid, let alone intrest. My dad still owes me for $300 that he borrowed from me to pay for our dogs surgery 5 months ago. The dog had to be put down since then, sadly.
I worked a crappy job my first semester freshman year, about 32 hours or more depending a week. 4x8hour shifts a week, ontop of 15 credit hours. I did okay, but ended up withdrawing from one of the classes because I couldn't keep up with 5 of them, putting me down to 12 credits. I quit the job for the second semester and my dad was picking up a little slack, but I had saved up money to pay for gas throughout the semester. I ended up doing worse the second semester because I didn't feel the need to manage my time better, so I spent alot of it slacking off.
Whatever happens, just be sure you dont start slacking off. Good luck to ya OP.
I worked a crappy job my first semester freshman year, about 32 hours or more depending a week. 4x8hour shifts a week, ontop of 15 credit hours. I did okay, but ended up withdrawing from one of the classes because I couldn't keep up with 5 of them, putting me down to 12 credits. I quit the job for the second semester and my dad was picking up a little slack, but I had saved up money to pay for gas throughout the semester. I ended up doing worse the second semester because I didn't feel the need to manage my time better, so I spent alot of it slacking off.
Whatever happens, just be sure you dont start slacking off. Good luck to ya OP.
that is a very good point, about doing worse 2nd semester. It is why even though my dad suggested i quit my job and go back to school fulltime i decided to stay and work 2 days a week anyway because 1) yes it is extra spending money, 2) i might actually look forward to working because it means a break from school 3) my dad won't have 100% control, and 4) because of what you said, i might feel too free and slack off more
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