My brother is a loser Rant

[leftyman]

It hasnt changed in years, i dont recall him ever having a job. We both used to get in trouble with the law all the time but i realized it was time to change...
I tell him he cant keep bumming money of me, if we go to a bar he's always begging quarters off me to play the damn claw machine, of all things :disgust:
So now he's living with me, because i just cant throw him out on the street, because he is my brother and i do love him, and i kinda feel responsible for getting him in trouble when we were younger.
So the other day i tell him to get the want-ad's out and look for a job, he finds an ad for an airline pilot and the idiot asks me if he should apply...
A friend of ours is a waiter at a local resturant/bar and offered to help him get a busboy job, but my brother thought he was too good for it :|
Anyways he finally took the job i hope everything works out...

 

[Wapp]

Good episode last night, huh?

 

[xanis]

Well at least he took the job...

 

[arcenite]

Originally posted by: Xanis
Well at least he took the job...

 

[Whitecloak]

good luck

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: Wapp
Good episode last night, huh?

whats this "episode" you speak of??

 

[squirrel dog]

Every family has one.At least you are there for him .You ever look at a homeless person and wonder where in the hell are you supposed to be ?

 

[Syrch]

atleast he got a job

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Wapp
Good episode last night, huh?

i thought of the same thing!

karma...

 

[GasX]

People get that way from 3 things. The first is inherent laziness and the second is low self-esteem and the third the feeling that friends and relatives will take care of him if when he fails. Self-esteem issues are harder to fix than the other two.

Be wary of becoming an enabler. By helping him get a job and giving him a place to stay, you are enabling him to continue his behaviour, which sucks because you want to give him a place to stay and help him get a job... If you truly worry about your brother's ability to turn into a man who can and will fend for himself and have some ambition, you may want to sit him down and talk about it. THAT will be a tough conversation, I assure you.

 

[OdiN]

Does he get a discount on pie at the restaurant?

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: OdiN
Does he get a discount on pie at the restaurant?

on topic please

 

[brxndxn]

I hate those types of people...

My family is currently paying for a no-good uncle (who happens to have an English degree) to sit around and do absolutly nothing all day while living in a condo my parents would like to rent out..

The guy literally will not lift a finger. If you try to talk to him, he'll slam his door shut and sit in his room.. The guy could easily make enough to pay his way - and he doesn't even try.

You should tell your brother that he has to pay rent. And, be strict.. Tough love teaches where love fails.

 

[J Heartless Slick]

Move away from home. He will not be able to move with you and will have to care of himself.

 

[Wapp]

OP: What is your job? If it is important work, you may want to have your brother around to help you.

 

[robphelan]

if someone doesn't do something with this guy, he'll never change. He really needs to come to the realization that he can't go through life that way.

My middle brother was similar, except he was into heavy drugs, drinking and driving, couldn't hold a job for 6 months, and wanted to party all the time.

he finally grew up, somehow and he does really well for himself. owns a house, a few acres, and has custody of his wonderful daughter.

it's hard to be the 'bad cop' but he will continue to take advantage of you, and the rest of your family until you all turn off the tap.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: OdiN
Does he get a discount on pie at the restaurant?

on topic please

I see.....it's okay for you to come in a thread and derail it with your pie neffing, but you can't take it when it happens to you?


PIE! PIE! PIE!

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: OdiN
Does he get a discount on pie at the restaurant?

on topic please

I see.....it's okay for you to come in a thread and derail it with your pie neffing, but you can't take it when it happens to you?


PIE! PIE! PIE!

and i though you were cool :disgust:

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: Wapp
OP: What is your job? If it is important work, you may want to have your brother around to help you.

im between jobs, but i have a to do list....

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: OdiN
Does he get a discount on pie at the restaurant?

on topic please

I see.....it's okay for you to come in a thread and derail it with your pie neffing, but you can't take it when it happens to you?


PIE! PIE! PIE!

and i though you were cool :disgust:

I am, it still doesn't negate the fact that I'm right.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Wapp
OP: What is your job? If it is important work, you may want to have your brother around to help you.

im between jobs, but i have a to do list....

Gotta ask dude, how long have you been outta work? Fired or quit. I ask this seriously, not sarcastically

 

[DaShen]

Best thing you can do is stop supporting him like a crutch. Better for you, and if he isn't totally worthless, better for him.

Help him out only to the point where he can start supporting himself. i.e. - Help him find a job (have him keep looking for a job even with the busboy), help him find an apartment, help him realize that he can't be lazy forever and think things will come his way someday.

 

[Wapp]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Wapp
OP: What is your job? If it is important work, you may want to have your brother around to help you.

im between jobs, but i have a to do list....

Are you a Carson Daly fan, too?

 

[Cruisin1]

Originally posted by: leftyman
It hasnt changed in years, i dont recall him ever having a job. We both used to get in trouble with the law all the time but i realized it was time to change...
I tell him he cant keep bumming money of me, if we go to a bar he's always begging quarters off me to play the damn claw machine, of all things :disgust:
So now he's living with me, because i just cant throw him out on the street, because he is my brother and i do love him, and i kinda feel responsible for getting him in trouble when we were younger.
So the other day i tell him to get the want-ad's out and look for a job, he finds an ad for an airline pilot and the idiot asks me if he should apply...
A friend of ours is a waiter at a local resturant/bar and offered to help him get a busboy job, but my brother thought he was too good for it :|
Anyways he finally took the job i hope everything works out...

Let me try out my sixth sense. Your name by any chance might not be Earl is it?

 

[Gillbot]

Originally posted by: Cruisin1

Originally posted by: leftyman
It hasnt changed in years, i dont recall him ever having a job. We both used to get in trouble with the law all the time but i realized it was time to change...
I tell him he cant keep bumming money of me, if we go to a bar he's always begging quarters off me to play the damn claw machine, of all things :disgust:
So now he's living with me, because i just cant throw him out on the street, because he is my brother and i do love him, and i kinda feel responsible for getting him in trouble when we were younger.
So the other day i tell him to get the want-ad's out and look for a job, he finds an ad for an airline pilot and the idiot asks me if he should apply...
A friend of ours is a waiter at a local resturant/bar and offered to help him get a busboy job, but my brother thought he was too good for it :|
Anyways he finally took the job i hope everything works out...

Let me try out my sixth sense. Your name by any chance might not be Earl is it?

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