So my friend is offering a room at his 2 BR condo for 700/month with all utilities included. I can't say he's my best friend but I have known him since junior high school and we're pretty good friends. I've never had a roommate or lived alone and always lived with the parents. I've been searching for a Studio or 1BR apartment near work and it'll cost between 800-1000 without utilities included. I need to let him know if I'll be moving in with him soon and I'm having a hard time deciding. Should I pay a few hundred more a month to live alone or live w/ my friend at his condo he bought?
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ViviTheMage
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let me add that you will probably have some 'issues' like whose going to clean what, whose food is what, who actually owns something, just too much of a headache to save 1-200$.
Jeff7
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Devil you know vs the devil you don't. How is it living with your parents? Is it worth several hundred dollars a month to be away from them?
You've never lived with this friend, so you don't know how he is at home. Will he have women over all the time, making various noises you'd rather not hear? Closet drug addict? Does he tend to leave underwear in the kitchen sink?
I've had different roommates throughout college, and I'd finally had enough of the social living scene. I've got a decent apartment by myself now, a few miles from campus. It is about $75 more per month than on campus, though it varies depending on my utility bills, but it is so very much worth it. No loud neighbors, no month-old piles of dishes festering in the kitchen sink, the stove is not encrusted with a grotesque assortment of oils and crispy food, there is plenty of space in the refrigerator, I can operate on my own schedule, and my car is parked about 5 feet from the front door. (With campus parking, it was anywhere from about 150 to 750 feet away, very approximately.)
I wish I'd lived off campus from the start, but at least it gave me some perspective on just how good it is to live alone. Damn freshman go totally nuts once they're away from mommy and daddy for the first time. Respect for neighbors? Hah, it doesn't exist. It's more like a bunch of orangutans in a competition for dominance, accomplished by seeing who can make the most noise, or drink the most alcohol without needing a stomach pump. (First semester, someone in my dorm was hospitalized for alcohol poisoning. Brilliant people.)
You've never lived with this friend, so you don't know how he is at home. Will he have women over all the time, making various noises you'd rather not hear? Closet drug addict? Does he tend to leave underwear in the kitchen sink?
I've had different roommates throughout college, and I'd finally had enough of the social living scene. I've got a decent apartment by myself now, a few miles from campus. It is about $75 more per month than on campus, though it varies depending on my utility bills, but it is so very much worth it. No loud neighbors, no month-old piles of dishes festering in the kitchen sink, the stove is not encrusted with a grotesque assortment of oils and crispy food, there is plenty of space in the refrigerator, I can operate on my own schedule, and my car is parked about 5 feet from the front door. (With campus parking, it was anywhere from about 150 to 750 feet away, very approximately.)
I wish I'd lived off campus from the start, but at least it gave me some perspective on just how good it is to live alone. Damn freshman go totally nuts once they're away from mommy and daddy for the first time. Respect for neighbors? Hah, it doesn't exist. It's more like a bunch of orangutans in a competition for dominance, accomplished by seeing who can make the most noise, or drink the most alcohol without needing a stomach pump. (First semester, someone in my dorm was hospitalized for alcohol poisoning. Brilliant people.)
secretanchitman
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definitely go at it alone...even if you have to spend 100-200 more. im living with my parents for my first year of college then im moving out. luckily, i have 2 of my best buddies who might rent an apartment with me for next year so that might be awesome.
although some people would say go out and live with friends, cause you'd get real lonely and the money situation isnt so bad.
although some people would say go out and live with friends, cause you'd get real lonely and the money situation isnt so bad.
I would go with the roommate but it really is personal prefrence. I like having people around, and going home to an empty apt would be rather depressing for me. Having your own room is nice, and making sure your roommates are responsible is important too. Just think, do you want someone around all the time, or do you want to be alone?
also if he bought it, that means you have a lot more flexibility then if you had a land lord...given that he isn't a dick or a hard ass
also if he bought it, that means you have a lot more flexibility then if you had a land lord...given that he isn't a dick or a hard ass
Cdubneeddeal
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If you can afford it, definitely live alone. Nothing worse than coming home and having trash everywhere or having to pickup after somebody. And what if the roommate is late on rent or doesn't have the funds to pay his/her portion of the bills. Then what? Living alone - you control everything.
If you have only lived with your parents then I would say get a roommate. It will teach you things you will need later in life
It depends on how well you end up getting along with your roommate, but I wouldnt want to live alone. That would just be depressing.
Thanks, I was leaning towards living alone but some friends recommend I don't spend too much money on rent because it'll just go to waste and I should use the money to invest and try to buy a property instead.. I'm already a grad making 50k btw so I'm passed the college phase but just a little late on moving out from parents.
Also, I wasn't sure how me moving in w/ my friend would affect our friendship. That's another important factor as well.. but now if I tell him that I dont wanna move in with him and rather live alone I hope he'll understand.
Also, I wasn't sure how me moving in w/ my friend would affect our friendship. That's another important factor as well.. but now if I tell him that I dont wanna move in with him and rather live alone I hope he'll understand.
Live alone if you have the $$$. Nothing beats being able to walk around nekid and fap fap fap whenever you want.
Cdubneeddeal
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That would be something to consider. Since you're making good money this early in your life saving would probably be a good idea so you can be homeowner at an early age.
Moving in with a friend can sometimes be a bad idea especially if you two have different living habits which could cause ill feelings between the two of you and eventually cause your friendship to dwindle.
NikolaeVarius
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I find that if you spend too much time with your friends, alot of tension can build up due to different living styles.
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Roommate. Cheaper and I wouldn't like living alone - personally, my house feels too quiet/dark without someone else in it.
the first place I moved into after my parents' was with a roommate.
it had its ups and its downs... having someone to hang out with was nice, having to clean up after someone else's mess was not.
we ended up "breaking up" as roommates because I couldn't stand his pig of a girlfriend, who he basically invited to move in with us without asking my permission.
living alone is nice, though. expenses are higher, but I never clean up anyone's mess but my own, no one's over at the apartment unless I want them there, I can do whatever I want decorative-wise, and I can walk around naked whenever I feel like it
it had its ups and its downs... having someone to hang out with was nice, having to clean up after someone else's mess was not.
we ended up "breaking up" as roommates because I couldn't stand his pig of a girlfriend, who he basically invited to move in with us without asking my permission.
living alone is nice, though. expenses are higher, but I never clean up anyone's mess but my own, no one's over at the apartment unless I want them there, I can do whatever I want decorative-wise, and I can walk around naked whenever I feel like it
I've lived alone a lot and I prefer it at this point. When I was younger it was cool to have roommates.
To all the posters saying it's only an extra $100-$200. It will most likely be an extra $500 minimum when you figure in all utilities and amenities like internet and cable.
You're probably what, 25 years old? You said you're a grad, does that mean graduated with a bachelor's degree or a grad student still in school? I'm going to assume you mean graduated with a bachelors degree and are now working.
If you're making $50K a year then you make more than enough to live on your own and support yourself, even with $700-$1,000/month rent. Many families of 4 make that much and do just fine paying that much rent.
Much of this depends on what area of the country you live in. If you're in a high priced area then "investing" to purchase a property probably isn't going to happen anytime soon and you don't want to wait until you're 35 to move out of your parents place. If you live in an area that is cheap enough that you can afford a mortgage with $50K then talk to some lenders and see what you can manage. If you have to rent a room out in order to pay for that mortgage, then it's better than paying someone to live in their place.
Most of this depends on what you WANT to afford.
To all the posters saying it's only an extra $100-$200. It will most likely be an extra $500 minimum when you figure in all utilities and amenities like internet and cable.
You're probably what, 25 years old? You said you're a grad, does that mean graduated with a bachelor's degree or a grad student still in school? I'm going to assume you mean graduated with a bachelors degree and are now working.
If you're making $50K a year then you make more than enough to live on your own and support yourself, even with $700-$1,000/month rent. Many families of 4 make that much and do just fine paying that much rent.
Much of this depends on what area of the country you live in. If you're in a high priced area then "investing" to purchase a property probably isn't going to happen anytime soon and you don't want to wait until you're 35 to move out of your parents place. If you live in an area that is cheap enough that you can afford a mortgage with $50K then talk to some lenders and see what you can manage. If you have to rent a room out in order to pay for that mortgage, then it's better than paying someone to live in their place.
Most of this depends on what you WANT to afford.
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