Moral Issue? 2 wks since ex gf, now w/ girl at work..

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zixxer

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Okay..

I was going out with this fine ass chick. She was fvcking hot.

She cheated on me twice. I was ALWAYS the best b/f she could have..
I really think I was too nice. I think if I put my foot down more often, and did not -act-
like I liked her so much (not so much attention) it might not have happened..

anywho..
she cheated on me, twice.. (long long story) ended up breaking up about 3 or 4 weeks afterwards (about 2 wks ago..)

SO. I work 40-50 hrs a week as a systems tech at a company in atlanta. I work 6 hours a week at best buy (1/2 for the social life, 1/2 for the discount..) as a tech.

So there's this girl that works in customer service at best buy.. 'Rebecca'.. and she has flirted with me here and there for about 5 or 6 months (since I started there..) So now that 'Melissa' (ex gf that cheated on me) are not going out, 'Rebecca' and I have been getting really super close really quickly.

I ended up finding she is HEAVY into drugs. not just using them, but dealing them as well. I, have not done anything past weed (and that only once or twice).. She has done 'everything that doesn't need to be injected'

I'm not sure.. where I stand.. I'm somewhat against heavy drugs, but she's a really.. nice.. person. We've actually been really close .. we've had sex twice. From what we've talked about I don't need to worry about std's, nor pregnancy.


Any suggestions? She's not really super good looking.. she's okay.. probably a 6 or 7 out of 10.. which I don't really judge people on too well (but I think I've been spoiled by 'Melissa') But 'Rebecca' has the BEST personality of any girl I've met. I talked to her a bit about drug use, etc. and she offered to back off of it, but I told her I wanted her to be her. She said she could be her without doing that stuff. I just don't know. Is it wrong to ask that of her?

Pursue a relationship or back off a bit?
 
Nocturnal

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Well I think you're gonna get yourself caught up in the drugs and possibly get addicted to OxyCotin and ruin your life. But that's just me.
 
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boyRacer

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i think you should get yourself checkout out at the hospital first before you go any further... seriously. can't really put any value into someone saying they're clean. sorry.
 
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I don't need checked out at any hospital.

I know that.

I don't have any pics of the girl from best buy, I do have pics of ex gf though. They are all on my laptop at work, and will post tommorow
 
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conjur

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"somewhat against heavy drugs"

uhh...might to think about that a bit.

Not trying to preach or lecture but ANY type of heavy drug use is just plain stupidity. And why people think they have to smoke pot to get a high is still beyond me.

I get high on life and the good things therein. ;)

Stay away from this chick...unless you feel like making a sequel to Requiem for a Dream.


oh...and avoid the ex like the plague...unless you just want some ex- sex. She's cheated on you twice and will continue to do so. The E&I factor with that one is very high! And probably just about as high with this druggie girl.
 
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zixxer

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And my main thing is this:

Is it okay to ask her to not do drugs anymore?

She offered.. but iunno
 
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trmiv

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As if the drug thing isn't enough, you work with her too. Trust me, don't ever get involved with a girl you work with. Unless you work far enough apart where you can avoid her when the relationship goes in the crapper. (Or when she rips your heart out and sticks her vile, evil woman claws through it, crushing it until there is no life left, leaving you high and dry...........no I'm not bitter.............)
 
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zixxer

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That movie was god damn crazy.

Now. Okay. I think you all might be right, I might need to back away.

We've had sex twice. I am not an asshole and will not just not answer my phone anymore.

What's a good way to back off w/o hurting her?
 
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zixxer

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even if it was a hard break up, I don't feel as though she would be evil about anything.. just hurt..
 
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Originally posted by: Nocturnal
Well I think you're gonna get yourself caught up in the drugs and possibly get addicted to OxyCotin and ruin your life. But that's just me.
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Yep, before you know it you're selling your children on the black market to be trained as islamic militiamen who will fly planes into your own house, just so you can buy more OxyCotin. I've seen it happen.
 
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zixxer

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I lurk. I've been around for a long ass time, reading through stuff.. just don't post often unless I need help or have a constructive comment.

I really need help with this. I've never been presented with a situation where I really liked a girl but could not be with her because of something like drugs.
 
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Soybomb

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Heh a drug user trading in their substances for someone, yes thats the stuff fairy tales are made of. She'll quit when she really wants to, not because someone else wants her to, and only then no matter what she says or thinks
 
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trmiv

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Originally posted by: se7enty7
even if it was a hard break up, I don't feel as though she would be evil about anything.. just hurt..
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All women are evil on some level, they love playing with your emotions and breaking your heart in two. Again, I'm not bitter. ;)
 
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fatkorean

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1, shes probably a rebound and 2, you probably will get caught up into her drug life/scene. Not a good choice.


-fk
 
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zixxer

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Originally posted by: Soybomb
Heh a drug user trading in their substances for someone, yes thats the stuff fairy tales are made of. She'll quit when she really wants to, not because someone else wants her to, and only then no matter what she says or thinks
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She would quit if I asked her to.

But is it right? I don't know maybe she wouldn't... sigh

She's not 'addicted' to anything. She smokes weed, she's rolled, and has done other hardcore sh!t, all before we got serious. Since we've been serious all she's done is pot.

Okay. I won't be with her. How do I explain this after sleeping w/ her twice?
 
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