I had something similar at work, I tried to repair the d-sub connector, but the computer wouldn't boot. What I did is connected the messed up end into the monitor and the good one into the video card and is working ever since. If you can't diconnect the VGA cable (it has 2 ends that look the same) you should first try to bend back the pins and if that isn't succesful, buy a D-Sub 15 pins connector and solder it yourself.
EDIT: Ah, didn't see you there YOyoYOhowsDAjello