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[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: geckojohn
Dezign: as a guy, i would totally understand if a girl was afraid to meet me at my house. You should just tell him that you aren't comfortable about meeting him at your house on a first date. You should meet at a coffee lounge place first, that's in between both of you. I wouldn't recommend driving over to this person's house.

True... he suggested his house, and initially, I had no problem in accepting. If anyone can recommend a nice lounge/coffee shop in the Los Angeles area with chess sets, please let me know... preferably before 9pm tonight...

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: huesmann
Honey, you're playing Russian Roulette if you go to his place first.

Is there any reason you can't play chess at a coffee shop or a public park?

I suggested a coffee shop, but neither of us know of any... and he says the chess set he has is a heavy marble one that isn't transportable.

Stop at walmart on the way to a public place , they are 5 bucks

 

[Ogg]

Yeah Dezign we dont want him to rape/kill/kidnap you........YOu know the phrase, everyone repeat with me


Better safe than raped/killed/kidnapped!!!

And we would "die" w/o your pics/posts.......that reminds me, post some hot pics

 

[Lager]

What do you mean by getting burned once? He or she stood you up?

By the way, you should carry a stun gun or something.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Dezign
I suggested a coffee shop, but neither of us know of any... and he says the chess set he has is a heavy marble one that isn't transportable.

Red flags going up. Lame excuse. Any hardcore chess nut would have a portable set. "Heavy Marble" eh ... so that he can hit you over the head with it and drag you off to his room?

Bring a friend and a weapon.

- M4H

 

[TekChik]

I meet people from the internet on a regular basis, too...I just have ground rules:

1. I have to have talked to them on the phone more than once or twice
2. I ONLY meet them in a public place - restaurant, bar, airport, etc
3. I ALWAYS make sure they know that I'm not getting together for any reason other than strictly friendship/hanging out. If that changes at some point, fine, but that's how it starts out and until further notice that's the way it is.
4. I never drink more than a couple drinks - i.e. make sure I have my wits about me so I don't do anything stupid, and
5. I never leave my drink alone

I've never had anything bad happen and have made some really good friends...even dated a couple people...

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: huesmann
Honey, you're playing Russian Roulette if you go to his place first.

Is there any reason you can't play chess at a coffee shop or a public park?

I suggested a coffee shop, but neither of us know of any... and he says the chess set he has is a heavy marble one that isn't transportable.

LOL. It's the only chess set in the world, too!

I'd be shady, but only you know the truth.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: geckojohn
Dezign: as a guy, i would totally understand if a girl was afraid to meet me at my house. You should just tell him that you aren't comfortable about meeting him at your house on a first date. You should meet at a coffee lounge place first, that's in between both of you. I wouldn't recommend driving over to this person's house.

True... he suggested his house, and initially, I had no problem in accepting. If anyone can recommend a nice lounge/coffee shop in the Los Angeles area with chess sets, please let me know... preferably before 9pm tonight...

California Chess Club
11610 W Olympic Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90064-1408
Phone: (310)473-2435

Chess Club Institute
Los Angeles, CA 90024
Phone: (310)470-8203

 

[r6ashih]

I got dibs on the next date with Dezign!

be safe.
AS

 

[geckojohn]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: geckojohn Dezign: as a guy, i would totally understand if a girl was afraid to meet me at my house. You should just tell him that you aren't comfortable about meeting him at your house on a first date. You should meet at a coffee lounge place first, that's in between both of you. I wouldn't recommend driving over to this person's house.

True... he suggested his house, and initially, I had no problem in accepting. If anyone can recommend a nice lounge/coffee shop in the Los Angeles area with chess sets, please let me know... preferably before 9pm tonight...

I would recommend just getting a bite to eat first and then playing chess on a second date. Tell him that something has come up and make an excuse that you have an interview or appointment tomorrow morning and you can't stay up late and play chess. There shouldn't be any rush to play chess, and if he's a cool guy, then he'll understand and YOU'LL wanna see eachother for a second date.

 

[TekChik]

P.S. Hi M4H

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: TekChik
P.S. Hi M4H

PM window's over there, hun.

- M4H

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: white
why can't you play at a coffee shop? anyway, be careful. maybe ask one of your friends to give you a call at a specified time to make sure you're still alive. and if the guy creeps you out, use it as an excuse to leave.

I concur.

 

[Lager]

What kind of precautions should you take when meeting RossMAN?

 

[geckojohn]

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: white why can't you play at a coffee shop? anyway, be careful. maybe ask one of your friends to give you a call at a specified time to make sure you're still alive. and if the guy creeps you out, use it as an excuse to leave.

I concur.

you conjur, not concur

 

[ChurchOfSubgenius]

Here we have a clear :camera: of this guy, he looks harmless enough, even a little classy in an old school way.

 

[CPA]

I have a feeling this isn't going to turn out well.

 

[CT2TXtech]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: CT2TXtech

Originally posted by: tnitsuj
That is a very very bad idea. You should meet this person at a public place or with friends.

Great idea. Why dont you try going on Blind Date or Elimidate

I was going to do the Blind Date thing, at some point. Still might. Dunno, we'll see... if only for a laugh (and the measly $250 + "free date").

do it do it do it

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: lager
What do you mean by getting burned once? He or she stood you up?

By the way, you should carry a stun gun or something.

Nah, the guy was an asshat who just wanted sex (he never got any). UCLA radiologist, he came right out and asked me the fifth time we went out, "So, how long does it take before you sleep with a guy?"

Me: :Q *door slams*

Ugh.

That's a good tip, geckojohn... and thank you for those addresses, Nitemare! You guys really do care... thank you, it means a lot to me. I'll call the numbers now... maybe going to his house isn't the best idea... I'll see if we can reschedule to meet in a public place.

*calling*

 

[huesmann]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: huesmann
Honey, you're playing Russian Roulette if you go to his place first.

Is there any reason you can't play chess at a coffee shop or a public park?

I suggested a coffee shop, but neither of us know of any... and he says the chess set he has is a heavy marble one that isn't transportable.

Puhleez.

If you can play with it you can transport it. It's not like it's one of those life-sized suckaz.

Bring your friends Mace and Tazer if you must go to his abode. Sounds like a shady abode, too.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: geckojohn

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: white why can't you play at a coffee shop? anyway, be careful. maybe ask one of your friends to give you a call at a specified time to make sure you're still alive. and if the guy creeps you out, use it as an excuse to leave.

I concur.

you conjur, not concur

Damn...fux0r3d up again!

 

[Spooner]

Dezign, aren't you that good looking asian chick on these boards? The sailor moon one? What the heck you doing meeting guys online?

Come to Beantown

 

[isaacmacdonald]

another vote for starbucks. In nyc, there are hundreds of these coffee shops, so it's easy to find relatively empty shops which provide both comfortable settings, privacy, and chess sets . I prefer the neutral setting as well (I just like the social dynamic).

 

[Lager]

Originally posted by: Spooner
Dezign, aren't you that good looking asian chick on these boards? The sailor moon one? What the heck you doing meeting guys online?

Come to Beantown

Beantown = hot smartie Hah vad girls.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: huesmann

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: huesmann
Honey, you're playing Russian Roulette if you go to his place first.

Is there any reason you can't play chess at a coffee shop or a public park?

I suggested a coffee shop, but neither of us know of any... and he says the chess set he has is a heavy marble one that isn't transportable.

Puhleez.

If you can play with it you can transport it. It's not like it's one of those life-sized suckaz.

Bring your friends Mace and Tazer if you must go to his abode. Sounds like a shady abode, too.

The one that I want to buy weighs 150ish lbs. Care to lug it around for me?