Mistakes you look back and kick yourself for

[Texashiker]

When I was 19, 20, 21, 22 years old I worked a lot of overtime, and I mean a lot of overtime. Sometimes I did not get a day off for 4 - 6 weeks,,, sometimes 8 weeks at a time. The average work week was anywhere from 70 - 80 or more hours.

With working the 12 hour shifts, I let my wife manage our money - big mistake. For some reason we were always broke, and my wife (ex-wife now) did not want to talk about where the money was going.

A couple of years later, I found out my wife had been giving a good chunk of my check to her mother. The mother-in-law had run her family into serious credit card debt, say in the $25,000 range. So my wife being the good daughter (and naive) that she was, she was giving her mom anywhere from $200 - $400 every week to help her mom pay her bills.

I regret not taking responsibility for my pay check and the bills. I should never handed over control of the family money like that.

 

[nageov3t]

telling myself all through college that I'll have time for a social life after I graduate with honors.

 

[Wyndru]

Your regret wasn't getting married before you hit 20?

 

[highland145]

telling myself all through college that I'll have time for a social life after I graduate with honors.

The opposite for me. I'll get a job because I'm an engineer.

 

[CPA]

Not doing something I love.

 

[sdifox]

Leaving a secure job.

 

[Soundmanred]

No regrets here

 

[Engineer]

Falling in love with a bad stock. Have 16 (I think) more years of write offs to remind me of it.

 

[Texashiker]

Your regret wasn't getting married before you hit 20?

I guess your referring to me?

No, I do not regret getting married before I was 20.

 

[hanoverphist]

not taking that job with godaddy back in 98. going back to work a full day an hour after my twins were born. not taking the job building sets for black sabbath on the road in 99. buying that stupid astrovan. not working harder at being married when i actually was married.

other than those, i cant really think of anything else.

 

[JimW1949]

The opposite for me. I'll get a job because I'm an engineer.

What railroad do you want to work for?

 

[hanoverphist]

No regrets here

regrets and recognizing mistakes arent the same thing. i dont regret any of the ones i listed except the godaddy one, they are the decisions that made me who i am today.

 

[highland145]

What railroad do you want to work for?

This one. I'm the good looking one.

 

[JimW1949]

No offense "texashiker", but I guess if you can't trust your wife, maybe you shouldn't have married her.

 

[Apple Of Sodom]

Falling in love with a bad stock. Have 16 (I think) more years of write offs to remind me of it.

Do share more? I am interested in this story...

For me it is more about the things I didn't do. I'm sorry I didn't start an IRA earlier; I'm sorry I didn't realize that my girlfriend + her female 2 friends wanted to have a 4 way and instead fell asleep; and I'm sorry I did focus more on getting in shape when younger; I'm sorry I didn't get into MMA much sooner than I did...

But regrets shouldn't be more than a passing thought for us... you cannot change anything in the past and regrets should only serve as reminders to do the things we know we should do right now.

 

[JimW1949]

This one. I'm the good looking one.

Is that the "Short Line" the "Reading" or the "B.O. Line"?

 

[zinfamous]

stupidly passing on much of the tail that was sitting there, waiting for me, begging (srs), because I was far, far too shy in hike school.

 

[highland145]

Is that the "Short Line" the "Reading" or the "B.O. Line"?

B.O. most definitely.

 

[Texashiker]

No offense "texashiker", but I guess if you can't trust your wife, maybe you shouldn't have married her.

Sometimes things (and relationships) change after you get married.

 

[Perknose]

A couple of years later, I found out my wife had been giving a good chunk of my check to her mother. The mother-in-law had run her family into serious credit card debt, say in the $25,000 range. So my wife being the good daughter (and naive) that she was, she was giving her mom anywhere from $200 - $400 every week to help her mom pay her bills.

I regret not taking responsibility for my pay check and the bills. I should never handed over control of the family money like that.

When you found out, how did you react? What steps did you take?

 

[JimW1949]

This may sound kind of hokey, but I don't think I made any real mistakes in my life. Don't get me wrong, if I could go back in time there are several things that I would do differently, but I don't necessarily think I made a mistake in doing what I did. It is sort of like buying shares of stock in one company, you may have made more money if you had purchased stock in a different company. That doesn't mean buying the stock you bought was a mistake, it's just that knowing what you know now you could have done better.

 

[Numenorean]

I don't make mistakes.

 

[DesiPower]

No regrets here

+1

 

[highland145]

I'm a much slower learner that I thought. OT asked if I were sure that I wanted to change a setting. Well, F me.

F-n wood peckers.

 

[fatpat268]

stupidly passing on much of the tail that was sitting there, waiting for me, begging (srs), because I was far, far too shy in hike school.

Same here... I was the dork in school who never had a gf because I was shy, but looking back, I had a shit ton of opportunities I could've capitalized on. But... I was too stupid to realize it at the time.