miserable in college

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: rpbri2886

Originally posted by: Mo0o
How far are you from home.

About 90 minutes.

It is not just the home sickness, it is the fact that i am unsure of what i want to do. I dont want to sit in an office for my entire life, and that is what this school is leading me to.

ROFL my waffle. leaving for college was the first time i've really been away from my parents and im in NC right now, my parents live in WA. 90 minutes is nothing. you can atleast see your parents every weekend if you wanted to, i get to see them about 2 twice during the school year.

 

[ActuaryTm]

Originally posted by: rpbri2886
It is not just the home sickness, it is the fact that i am unsure of what i want to do. I dont want to sit in an office for my entire life, and that is what this school is leading me to.

You've deduced this in a week, but not the months (or years) prior?

 

[BHeemsoth]

Originally posted by: ActuaryTm

Originally posted by: rpbri2886
It is not just the home sickness, it is the fact that i am unsure of what i want to do. I dont want to sit in an office for my entire life, and that is what this school is leading me to.

You've deduced this in a week, but not the months (or years) prior?

No, i have been thinking about this for a good deal of time, however i felt a good amount of pressure to go to colege.


I may transfer home, go to college and work with my dad in his HVAC business since i enjoy stuff like that.
I know he will give the business to me when he retires if i want it.

 

[nageov3t]

Originally posted by: rpbri2886

Originally posted by: ActuaryTm

Originally posted by: rpbri2886
It is not just the home sickness, it is the fact that i am unsure of what i want to do. I dont want to sit in an office for my entire life, and that is what this school is leading me to.

You've deduced this in a week, but not the months (or years) prior?

No, i have been thinking about this for a good deal of time, however i felt a good amount of pressure to go to colege.


I may transfer home, go to college and work with my dad in his HVAC business since i enjoy stuff like that.
I know he will give the business to me when he retires if i want it.

major in something that would in no way lead to an office job.

I'd recomend English or anything in the fine arts :thumbsup:

 

[jyates]

I would give it a few weeks and not make any decisions this quickly.
Leaving home and everything you are used to is a big change and it's
bound to be so different that it affects you.

Make some friends at your college that you can hang out with and get into
a routine and give it some time and if you are unhappy at the end of the semester
then make the changes you propose but I wouldn't be haaty right now.

Best of luck to you....

 

[RagingBITCH]

Originally posted by: jyates
I would give it a few weeks and not make any decisions this quickly.
Leaving home and everything you are used to is a big change and it's
bound to be so different that it affects you.

Make some friends at your college that you can hang out with and get into
a routine and give it some time and if you are unhappy at the end of the semester
then make the changes you propose but I wouldn't be haaty right now.

Best of luck to you....

That's the exact jist I was going to post. Also - don't think about how you think you're unhappy or whatnot - just try to enjoy it. Go get laid. Go to some parties, etc.

 

[DaWhim]

you suck. what a loser.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: rpbri2886
I have been here in college for about a week, and I am miserable. Throughout all my childhood i was extremely close to my parents, and I have a hard time being without them. I am also second guessing my choice of major (business) and since this is a business only school, I kind of screwed myself over.

I have been talking to my mom, and have considered transferring home after the semester to attend a local community college for a while and figure out what i want to do. Is this an alright thing to do?

It seems like all my friends are having alot of fun here, however i am miserable. I have even been going to campus events and making friends, but to no avail.

Anyone have any help/suggestions?

invite a few friends over
9mm automatic
play russian roulette

 

[rgwalt]

I never went through the homesickness thing when I moved to college. I was ready to leave home and live life on my own. Think about the independence you have now that you are out of the house!!! If you want to stay up until dawn, you can. There is no one else around that has the right to tell you how to live your life. Take up some new activities and hobbies. Do things with some of the new friends you meet. Try to meet some women. Relax and enjoy college life!

College is a unique time in your life. You have a lot of new-found freedom, and not very many responsibilities. You need to keep up with your coursework, and maybe hold down a part-time job, but if you are living in the dorms, so many things are taken care of for you. There will NEVER be another time in your life where you will have less responsibility, more freedom, and be surrounded by so many people in your age group! Enjoy it while it lasts, because 4 years goes by quickly.

If you move home after this semester, you may feel more secure, and think that you will be happier being with your family, but in reality you will be giving up a lot. Do you want to get a degree from the community college? If not, you'll need to move away again to another school. Do you want to live with your parents for the rest of your life, in the same town, working a job that most likely won't be fulfilling, or do you want to make your own way in life?

There would fundamentally be nothing wrong with living with your parents, or living in your hometown the rest of your life. There is a lot to be said for being close to your family, but you shouldn't give up your own potential future because of a sense of detatchment from your family.

My advice is to stick it out for the semester, preferrably the year, and then re-evaluate your situation. I bet that when you go home for thanksgiving, fall break, or winter break, you will miss school for various reasons.

Good luck!

Ryan

 

[slpaulson]

If you're going to transfer, I'd pick a fairly large univerisity if possible, since you don't know what you want to do yet. Then you'd have tons of majors to choose from, rather than just a handfull at some more specialized schools.

 

[oogabooga]

college will be the best time of your life. ITs where you're a kid AND an adult.. you don't have to be completly responsible but you arn't spoonfed everything either. If you don't finish you may end up regretting it. Don't make a decision based on how you feel after just one week. Give it time - you'll find a groove and hopefully a group you fit in with.

cheers.

 

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: rpbri2886

Originally posted by: ActuaryTm

Originally posted by: rpbri2886
It is not just the home sickness, it is the fact that i am unsure of what i want to do. I dont want to sit in an office for my entire life, and that is what this school is leading me to.

You've deduced this in a week, but not the months (or years) prior?

No, i have been thinking about this for a good deal of time, however i felt a good amount of pressure to go to colege.


I may transfer home, go to college and work with my dad in his HVAC business since i enjoy stuff like that.
I know he will give the business to me when he retires if i want it.

Finish your business degree. Your parents and the family business will be there when you get back. You can take your business knowledge and turn the family business into something more. Think of how your dad would feel if you got that business degree, came home, and turned his HVAC business into a multi-million dollar enterprise.

R

 

[Azraele]

It's only been a week. My advice would be to give it a little more time.You're still in a transition period.

As far as your college courses go, does your campus have any career advisors? If so, talk to one and see what they can offer as far as direction.

 

[esun]

You're going to have to get used to it sometime, and now is as good as any time in your life. It's my first week of prolonged stay from home as well and it's really been quite easy so far. Of course I have a few friends here with me, but even so it hasn't been a bad transition at all. I agree with the others. Just stick with it.

 

[Davegod75]

stick with it

 

[virtueixi]

A lot of people feel the same way the first weeks! Give it some time, trust me.

 

[p3z]

i wish i could be back in college again...

 

[sniperruff]

awww dammit i miss school and campus life. just be happy that you are in college and have 4 years left... mnay of us have already used up that precious 4 years for nothing much =(

 

[fyleow]

I think it would be best to stay at least a year in college because you will definitely become more independent and you will get a better idea of what you want in life.

If you still want to move back and live with your parents after a year then do so and don't let anyone tell you you'll be missing out or whatever. There is nothing wrong with wanting to maintain a strong family connection and being happy in that.

There is just too many bad connotations associated with living with your parents in our culture today. It really isn't bad and in many asian societies a large extended family living together is normal. With a setup like this it's easier for both spouses to work and still have a loving environment for their children because their parents can take care of them. It sure beats daycare and the kids seem to turn out better (at least from my observations). It's just sad to see the elderly reduced to living alone at home when their spouses have passed on or worse, living in a retirement home.

Pardon the spelling and grammar mistakes, I'm heavily jet lagged and have been up for more than 24 hrs.

 

[KLin]

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: rpbri2886
I have been here in college for about a week, and I am miserable. Throughout all my childhood i was extremely close to my parents, and I have a hard time being without them. I am also second guessing my choice of major (business) and since this is a business only school, I kind of screwed myself over.

I have been talking to my mom, and have considered transferring home after the semester to attend a local community college for a while and figure out what i want to do. Is this an alright thing to do?

It seems like all my friends are having alot of fun here, however i am miserable. I have even been going to campus events and making friends, but to no avail.

Anyone have any help/suggestions?

invite a few friends over
9mm automatic
play russian roulette

I sure wouldn't want to go first

 

[BurnItDwn]

Take up Drinking and Smoking.


EDIT: Don't take this seriously, that's what I did and it was not the best thing to do ...

 

[Triumph]

I can't empathize with you because I can go weeks at a time without speaking to family. But my advice? Don't go home every weekend, that only makes it harder.

 

[TitanDiddly]

hobby = good

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: p3z
i wish i could be back in college again...

ditto.

 

[MegaWorks]

Quit school, work in a gaz station.