- Oct 11, 1999
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I'm set for final orders (11-22-02) on my 13 year old daughter's custody-I've had custody for the last 4+ years, ex wife lost it & tried to leave the emmigrate to the UK with our child & I ended up with custody, (one of the 1% of men in TX granted custody of their children under the age of 10).
Was expecting a slam dunk (threw her in jail for 3 days & 2 nights 2 years ago for non-payment of child support, and she hasn't dared to come back to the US since.
Last night after she talked to our daughter on the phone, the kid says that Mom's planning on coming back for the hearing. FVCK...
I spent the morning @ the courthouse getting another record of non-payment (no child support for 7 months & counting, & she refuses to pay medical bills), stopping by the attny's office (had to show her how Windows XP supports CD burning, she was having a problem with Roxio's latest upgrade) and wrote her a big check for enforcement of contempt, 8 counts...
Lawyer says with this, she'll probably never dare to come to the US again:|
She's an unfit parent, evidenced by her 2 visits with our daughter over the last 4+ years.
Not sure if she'll really come, or if it's a ploy to make me crazy (crazier?).
& yes I'll post pics if she shows up
Update:
Ex didn't show up, her attny had to settle for grilling me for 45 minutes.
Outcome was one of the options I'd put on the table, and all my other requests were honored.
1.) Visitation overseas allowed with a $20K bond, deposited to my attny's trust fund.
2.) Airfare paid entirely by ex, ticket must be round trip, delivered to me.
3.) child support bumped up to a whopping $246/month (from $157, I had to do the math for the attny's & judge to convert pounds to dollars & calculate what she needed to pay, & the judge agreed with my figures)
4.) Any visitation in the states, and Ex must give me her passport for the duration of the visit
5.) Ex (or her agents cannot contact me @ work, call my employer, or ask to speak to child @ school)
6.) Medical expenses to be split.
7.) Ex can call child on phone up to 3X per week, (we don't have to be @ home, but must have cell phone available-ex didn't want to call our cell phone & demanded we be physically @ home before, a serious PITA, 2X a week)
8.) Continued her obligation of child support (currently unpaid, that's another case) from the temporary orders.
9.) Assessed her court costs $300, and $1K of my attny fees.
I wasn't supportive of any visitation, but had offered to allow if the cash bond was paid.
I have to respect the judge, she left a door open for my ex, but she'll have to jump through some hoops to exercise visitation, there are some good safeguards in place, and we probably won't have any more hearings about custody/visitation ever again (unless we have a bench warrant for her, I'll have to ask the courts to vacate the current visitation schedule, till the bench warrant is cleared.
Phase 2
We filed contempt charges against her (the ex); she blew through the $1K limit I set on unpaid child support this month, & are looking @ actually sending a process server to England (I can get a $350 fare round trip through Orbitz.com) and have her served for contempt. If she fails to show, there'll be a bench warrant issued, and she'll automatically go to jail if she presents to the US & I call the police.
Anyone want to become an officer of the court & stalk her in England for me?
Whew, now how to figure out how to explain to my daughter all the "If your mom does this, and if you mom agrees to that..."
Since she didn't show up, no pics, sorry. Mentioned to my wife that I could just take a photo of her attny, you-all would be happy, but she threatened to kick my a$$ if I took one of him...
Was expecting a slam dunk (threw her in jail for 3 days & 2 nights 2 years ago for non-payment of child support, and she hasn't dared to come back to the US since.
Last night after she talked to our daughter on the phone, the kid says that Mom's planning on coming back for the hearing. FVCK...
I spent the morning @ the courthouse getting another record of non-payment (no child support for 7 months & counting, & she refuses to pay medical bills), stopping by the attny's office (had to show her how Windows XP supports CD burning, she was having a problem with Roxio's latest upgrade) and wrote her a big check for enforcement of contempt, 8 counts...
Lawyer says with this, she'll probably never dare to come to the US again:|
She's an unfit parent, evidenced by her 2 visits with our daughter over the last 4+ years.
Not sure if she'll really come, or if it's a ploy to make me crazy (crazier?).
& yes I'll post pics if she shows up
Update:
Ex didn't show up, her attny had to settle for grilling me for 45 minutes.
Outcome was one of the options I'd put on the table, and all my other requests were honored.
1.) Visitation overseas allowed with a $20K bond, deposited to my attny's trust fund.
2.) Airfare paid entirely by ex, ticket must be round trip, delivered to me.
3.) child support bumped up to a whopping $246/month (from $157, I had to do the math for the attny's & judge to convert pounds to dollars & calculate what she needed to pay, & the judge agreed with my figures)
4.) Any visitation in the states, and Ex must give me her passport for the duration of the visit
5.) Ex (or her agents cannot contact me @ work, call my employer, or ask to speak to child @ school)
6.) Medical expenses to be split.
7.) Ex can call child on phone up to 3X per week, (we don't have to be @ home, but must have cell phone available-ex didn't want to call our cell phone & demanded we be physically @ home before, a serious PITA, 2X a week)
8.) Continued her obligation of child support (currently unpaid, that's another case) from the temporary orders.
9.) Assessed her court costs $300, and $1K of my attny fees.
I wasn't supportive of any visitation, but had offered to allow if the cash bond was paid.
I have to respect the judge, she left a door open for my ex, but she'll have to jump through some hoops to exercise visitation, there are some good safeguards in place, and we probably won't have any more hearings about custody/visitation ever again (unless we have a bench warrant for her, I'll have to ask the courts to vacate the current visitation schedule, till the bench warrant is cleared.
Phase 2
We filed contempt charges against her (the ex); she blew through the $1K limit I set on unpaid child support this month, & are looking @ actually sending a process server to England (I can get a $350 fare round trip through Orbitz.com) and have her served for contempt. If she fails to show, there'll be a bench warrant issued, and she'll automatically go to jail if she presents to the US & I call the police.
Anyone want to become an officer of the court & stalk her in England for me?
Whew, now how to figure out how to explain to my daughter all the "If your mom does this, and if you mom agrees to that..."
Since she didn't show up, no pics, sorry. Mentioned to my wife that I could just take a photo of her attny, you-all would be happy, but she threatened to kick my a$$ if I took one of him...
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