Met a guy

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Wow, how many guys have you dated in the last....say three months. It seems to me that each thread you create about this subject involves a different guy. If that's the case then you need to ask your self what the common denominator in these failed relationships is.......that would be you if you're having trouble figuring it out.

I'm not trying to be a smart ass, I'm just making an honest observation based on what facts you present.

Get yourself right before you try to get right with someone else.

BTW, the girl I'm with now, she and I had what you call "sexual relations" the first night we met. We did so because it felt right and we both are mature enough to know what we want and not pvssyfoot around it. This relationship has lasted three months so far and only seems to be getting stronger.....my point is, I don't know if it's a problem of "things moving too fast" with you necessarily, as much as it is you seem to like a bit of drama in your life.

my college room mate is prolly going to marry a girl he had 'relaaations' with the first night

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

If it's just the sex that's bothering you, don't let it. I did the same thing, and have been with my BF for over 6 months now. I felt the same way, but it didn't fsck anything up.

What do you mean? How did you feel?

I had all of the social stigma about sex - feeling like a slut, thinking I had ruined any chance of a future relationship. I was wrong, it's lasted.

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: gigapet
vague post of the day.

Would you like details?

yeah what makes you think you ruined things........

Because it happened way too fast without us getting to know each other. I am finding out now that we don't have lots in common, but saying so is that much harder because we have had sexual relations.

You're saying "sexual relations" too much. Reminds me of Bill Clinton. LOL

 

[gigapet]

so whats the big deal keep him as a booty call and continue searching for the mate that is right for you relationship wise.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: gigapet
vague post of the day.

Would you like details?

yeah what makes you think you ruined things........

Because it happened way too fast without us getting to know each other. I am finding out now that we don't have lots in common, but saying so is that much harder because we have had sexual relations.

You're saying "sexual relations" too much. Reminds me of Bill Clinton. LOL

Or the grandma character on "Dr. Doolittle"

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Wow, how many guys have you dated in the last....say three months. It seems to me that each thread you create about this subject involves a different guy. If that's the case then you need to ask your self what the common denominator in these failed relationships is.......that would be you if you're having trouble figuring it out.

I'm not trying to be a smart ass, I'm just making an honest observation based on what facts you present.

Get yourself right before you try to get right with someone else.

BTW, the girl I'm with now, she and I had what you call "sexual relations" the first night we met. We did so because it felt right and we both are mature enough to know what we want and not pvssyfoot around it. This relationship has lasted three months so far and only seems to be getting stronger.....my point is, I don't know if it's a problem of "things moving too fast" with you necessarily, as much as it is you seem to like a bit of drama in your life.

2. This guy, and 1 guy before him in January. The other guy before him lasted a month, but he broke up with me because he was still in love with his ex bf. He and I did not have any type of sex for a good portion of the time we were together. We waited, and it was nice.
I did not intend to find someone else for a long time.

 

[FelixDeCat]

:laugh:

 

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

such a thing is possible, ryan

 

[Cruisin1]

Gigapet, you don't want details. This is a guy on guy relationship, thats why he asked if you REALLY want details.

 

[DigDug]

ohh, so its *that* type of thread.

 

[Atheus]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I feel like a slut.

This is because society tells us it's OK for a guy to sleep with a lot of girls but not the other way round. Don't listen too hard to society.

 

[shortspanishguy]

Originally posted by: Atheus

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I feel like a slut.

This is because society tells us it's OK for a guy to sleep with a lot of girls but not the other way round. Don't listen too hard to society.

He is a guy

 

[PimpJuice]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: PimpJuice

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Now I am having second thoughts. I think I ruined the possible relationship by allowing us to move so fast. It's only been a week though. But I am starting to feel like it's probably not gonna work. Should I just end it, or ignore those feelings and see where things go?

make your own damn decision. You havent given enough information for anybody to help you out. The only advice I can give from the above is stop being a slut.

I feel like a slut. I never intended to feel differently though.

Well good luck with it. Seems to me you just need to wait until it feels right especially if you would like something meaningful to come out of it. Otherwise, have you fun i guess and dont let it get to you. Sounds like he has issues with it, so its really his problem not yours.

 

[oddyager]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Now I am having second thoughts. I think I ruined the possible relationship by allowing us to move so fast. It's only been a week though. But I am starting to feel like it's probably not gonna work. Should I just end it, or ignore those feelings and see where things go?

You already stated that you found alot of things between you two that you don't share or have common interest in. If you feel this relationship isn't going to jive, then chalk it up as just a booty call and move on! That's what I say.

 

[ondarkness]

Originally posted by: DainBramaged

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

Well that cleared things up.

including my sinuses.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: oddyager

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Now I am having second thoughts. I think I ruined the possible relationship by allowing us to move so fast. It's only been a week though. But I am starting to feel like it's probably not gonna work. Should I just end it, or ignore those feelings and see where things go?

You already stated that you found alot of things between you two that you don't share or have common interest in. If you feel this relationship isn't going to jive, then chalk it up as just a booty call and move on! That's what I say.

I dont think I am ready for a relationship. I thought I was, I thought I was ready, but now I feel that I am not. I never intended nor wanted to have sex with anyone, it just happened. But it's too late now. I am a slut now.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: oddyager

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Now I am having second thoughts. I think I ruined the possible relationship by allowing us to move so fast. It's only been a week though. But I am starting to feel like it's probably not gonna work. Should I just end it, or ignore those feelings and see where things go?

You already stated that you found alot of things between you two that you don't share or have common interest in. If you feel this relationship isn't going to jive, then chalk it up as just a booty call and move on! That's what I say.

I dont think I am ready for a relationship. I thought I was, I thought I was ready, but now I feel that I am not. I never intended nor wanted to have sex with anyone, it just happened. But it's too late now. I am a slut now.

you have some personal issues if you really feel that way.

 

[Train]

Hit it and Quit it

 

[FelixDeCat]

Originally posted by: Train
Hit it and Quit it

That or just keep surfing for sagger vids on youtube. :shocked:

 

[OrByte]

sounds like you need to talk to someone about that guilt you have.

If you feel like it was a mistake then nothing anyone here is going to change that. Let this guy know and stop doing something that you feel is destructive.

then get some help. You shouldnt be feeling so guilty over somethng like secs.

 

[Nebor]

To paraphrase Broken Hearts Club:
Dennis: You can't have a relationship based on sex!
Cole: Just like you can't have one based on a cup of coffee and a conversation, but it works just fine for a first date, doesn't it?

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

Isn't that common among gay men?

 

[shortspanishguy]

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

Isn't that common among gay men?

Its hard to tell. I have 3 gay friends and they go through guys like I change my undies. Then I remember that they are still guys and guys like to bang. So put 2 guys together and what do you get? A whole lotta bangin. This is just from my experience. Im not trying to be a smartass.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

Isn't that common among gay men?

Its hard to tell. I have 3 gay friends and they go through guys like I change my undies. Then I remember that they are still guys and guys like to bang. So put 2 guys together and what do you get? A whole lotta bangin. This is just from my experience. Im not trying to be a smartass.

Yes, it is. But not for me.

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

Isn't that common among gay men?

Its hard to tell. I have 3 gay friends and they go through guys like I change my undies. Then I remember that they are still guys and guys like to bang. So put 2 guys together and what do you get? A whole lotta bangin. This is just from my experience. Im not trying to be a smartass.

Exactly - all straight guys would be in the same situation if women wanted sex as much as men. Not to say that I'm that way though - just the reasoning behind it's occurance in the gay community.