Men have softened as women have hardened

[OneOfTheseDays]

If your like me, the thought of reading another YAGT makes you cringe. You cringe because you remember what it was like to be so weak and poor with women. To have your life decided in the hands of someone else. To let yourself go through the rollercoaster of emotions because you believed you were in love, only to be left all alone when it was over.

Am I saying we should go back to the caveman days and rape whatever women we please......not quite. But we shouldn't allow any woman to dictate our own happiness in life. If your happiness depends on having a woman in your life validating your status, then you will never be happy. It sounds cheesy, but happiness does come from within.

I think too many guys have a scarcity mentality when it comes to women. If I had a penny for every time I heard a guy say "I'll never find someone like her"........I'd have like 5 bucks. While it is true, you'll never find another one exactly like her, to foolishly believe you'll never find someone you really connect with on a deep level is just stupid. There are some 6 billion people on this planet, your odds are pretty good of finding many people you can really click with. If you can really adopt this mentality and internalize it as a belief you will be amazed at how much less reactive you will be towards women. And this is precisely what attracts women......guys that are unreactive to them.

I could go on, but that would require me writing cliffs so I'll stop here. For those wondering, this is what I think everytime I see another YAGT and I felt compelled to write this.

 

[jdoggg12]

6 billion people

3 billion women

500million aren't ugly

400million don't have serious STD

25 million you'd get along with

2.5 million you could be with

1 million you're compatible with in bed

100,000 you're willing to have a long term relationship

1000 you could have kids with

100 that think you're all the above

5 that you will ever meet.


So you get about 5 chances in your life to meet the ONE lol

 

[KnickNut3]

Forgot to narrow to a 5 year age window... I'm beginning to think you made those numbers up.

 

[Beev]

I agree with the OP. I'm single (been that way for 10 years) and I have no desire to even date, let alone "settle down." Haven't been on a single date in those 10 years. I'm 100% happy.

 

[chuckywang]

poontang rules all

 

[Agentbolt]

I don't think you can judge the state of Men from what's written in the Internet's biggest nerd circle jerk (i.e. the Anandtech forums) Most guys are comfortable enough with themselves to be happy and single simultaneously.

At least, man.... I really hope this place isn't indicative of the male gender in total.

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

Originally posted by: Agentbolt
I don't think you can judge the state of Men from what's written in the Internet's biggest nerd circle jerk (i.e. the Anandtech forums) Most guys are comfortable enough with themselves to be happy and single simultaneously.

At least, man.... I really hope this place isn't indicative of the male gender in total.

Unfortunately it is, by and large. While this place probably represents the worst of it....it is by no means an exception.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

I had numerous very attractive and intelligent girls hitting on my all throughout my life, but I never initiated anything simply because I was waiting for my one true love. So my guess is that lots of guys want what I wanted, but they lack the self control or self confidence to wait for it and sell out early and invest those "true love" emotions prematurely or errantly.

 

[ForumMaster]

Originally posted by: jdoggg12
6 billion people

3 billion women

500 million aren't ugly

400 million don't have serious STD

25 million you'd get along with

2.5 million you could be with

1 million you're compatible with in bed

100,000 you're willing to have a long term relationship

1000 you could have kids with

100 that think you're all the above

5 that you will ever meet.


So you get about 5 chances in your life to meet the ONE lol

\thread.

not too many woman that are both attractive but more importantly have a good personality.

not much of a choice then if you wanna ever get laid, huh op?

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
I had numerous very attractive and intelligent girls hitting on my all throughout my life, but I never initiated anything simply because I was waiting for my one true love. So my guess is that lots of guys want what I wanted, but they lack the self control or self confidence to wait for it and sell out early and invest those "true love" emotions prematurely or errantly.

That's complete BS. I'm going to be harsh, but you didn't initiate anything because you were scared. You were scared of being rejected and of your own sense of self-worth being tarnished.

Our ego does amazing things to protect ourselves from the truth.

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: jdoggg12
6 billion people

3 billion women

500 million aren't ugly

400 million don't have serious STD

25 million you'd get along with

2.5 million you could be with

1 million you're compatible with in bed

100,000 you're willing to have a long term relationship

1000 you could have kids with

100 that think you're all the above

5 that you will ever meet.


So you get about 5 chances in your life to meet the ONE lol

\thread.

not too many woman that are both attractive but more importantly have a good personality.

not much of a choice then if you wanna ever get laid, huh op?

That's because your not actively looking for women. Your expecting them to come to you fortuitously. Of course that's how your life is going to pan out if you just set there and let circumstances dictate what you get out of life. But if you actively seek the quality women you want you will find yourself surprised with the results.

 

[jdoggg12]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: jdoggg12
6 billion people

3 billion women

500 million aren't ugly

400 million don't have serious STD

25 million you'd get along with

2.5 million you could be with

1 million you're compatible with in bed

100,000 you're willing to have a long term relationship

1000 you could have kids with

100 that think you're all the above

5 that you will ever meet.


So you get about 5 chances in your life to meet the ONE lol

\thread.

not too many woman that are both attractive but more importantly have a good personality.

not much of a choice then if you wanna ever get laid, huh op?

That's because your not actively looking for women. Your expecting them to come to you fortuitously. Of course that's how your life is going to pan out if you just set there and let circumstances dictate what you get out of life. But if you actively seek the quality women you want you will find yourself surprised with the results.

None of those numbers are hard numbers... just pulling them out of my butt. I don't NEED to look b/c i have a GF i'll probably marry, she's amazing. But yes... if you actively look, you probably increase your odds

 

[Miramonti]

Men talk to men about women all the time, so why does it surprise anyone that members here post about them?

Is someone that posts a YAGT weaker than the OP in this thread? I don't think that's a judgment you can make...so go back to your porn collection - atleast some people actually have real women in their lives.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
I had numerous very attractive and intelligent girls hitting on my all throughout my life, but I never initiated anything simply because I was waiting for my one true love. So my guess is that lots of guys want what I wanted, but they lack the self control or self confidence to wait for it and sell out early and invest those "true love" emotions prematurely or errantly.

That's complete BS. I'm going to be harsh, but you didn't initiate anything because you were scared. You were scared of being rejected and of your own sense of self-worth being tarnished.

Our ego does amazing things to protect ourselves from the truth.

Riiiiight. I finally did initiate something with my now wife and she was the most intimidating woman I've ever met.

But, uh, ya, you can let your ego tell you you're still right if you like.

 

[olds]

Topic Title: Men have softened as women have hardened

Ya think? Read ATOT more often and you'll know it's true.

 

[RaynorWolfcastle]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Topic Title: Men have softened as women have hardened

Ya think? Read ATOT more often and you'll know it's true.

I don't think that reading more ATOT is something I'd recommend to anyone

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: jdoggg12
6 billion people

3 billion women

500million aren't ugly

400million don't have serious STD

25 million you'd get along with

2.5 million you could be with

1 million you're compatible with in bed

100,000 you're willing to have a long term relationship

1000 you could have kids with

100 that think you're all the above

5 that you will ever meet.


So you get about 5 chances in your life to meet the ONE lol

And if you don't want kids, you raise those odds to:

50 you will ever meet.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

And, FWIW, I do believe in True Love. Sicky sweet fairy tale true love and, frankly, would hate having your mentality. Why would you ever settle down with anyone? Just pick one of the ones you connect with at random? How freaking miserable. Waking up next to a woman who could have been one of 3 billion woman, but that you settled on because of proximity or convenience. Do you put that in the wedding vows? :thumbsup:

Or you can be a mad pimp player until you turn 70. I guess if you have enough money you can keep scoring 20 year old chicks and not have to deal with any emotional ties or true intimacy or have someone to completely share your life with.

Either way, your life sucks. And I think you know that and that's why you start a thread like this. I'm sure you did the same thing.........thought you were in love and got jilted and rather than admit to yourself that you either failed at the relationship, weren't good enough for her, or chose poorly; you tell yourself woman just aren't of enough value to fret over. That's called a callous. Good luck with it.

 

[Quasmo]

I don't know, when I see a soft woman, I get pretty hard.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Topic Title: Men have softened as women have hardened

Ya think? Read ATOT more often and you'll know it's true.

People who post on message boards and spill their guts are people with some likely social issues so they aren't likely to be very successful in relationships.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
And, FWIW, I do believe in True Love. Sicky sweet fairy tale true love and, frankly, would hate having your mentality. Why would you ever settle down with anyone? Just pick one of the ones you connect with at random? How freaking miserable. Waking up next to a woman who could have been one of 3 billion woman, but that you settled on because of proximity or convenience. Do you put that in the wedding vows? :thumbsup:

Or you can be a mad pimp player until you turn 70. I guess if you have enough money you can keep scoring 20 year old chicks and not have to deal with any emotional ties or true intimacy or have someone to completely share your life with.

Either way, your life sucks. And I think you know that and that's why you start a thread like this. I'm sure you did the same thing.........thought you were in love and got jilted and rather than admit to yourself that you either failed at the relationship, weren't good enough for her, or chose poorly; you tell yourself woman just aren't of enough value to fret over. That's called a callous. Good luck with it.

Is your username from LOTR?

 

[bersl2]

Gender roles suck! I will not conform to the norms of society unless I decide to!

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
And, FWIW, I do believe in True Love. Sicky sweet fairy tale true love and, frankly, would hate having your mentality. Why would you ever settle down with anyone? Just pick one of the ones you connect with at random? How freaking miserable. Waking up next to a woman who could have been one of 3 billion woman, but that you settled on because of proximity or convenience. Do you put that in the wedding vows? :thumbsup:

Or you can be a mad pimp player until you turn 70. I guess if you have enough money you can keep scoring 20 year old chicks and not have to deal with any emotional ties or true intimacy or have someone to completely share your life with.

Either way, your life sucks. And I think you know that and that's why you start a thread like this. I'm sure you did the same thing.........thought you were in love and got jilted and rather than admit to yourself that you either failed at the relationship, weren't good enough for her, or chose poorly; you tell yourself woman just aren't of enough value to fret over. That's called a callous. Good luck with it.

Who said I didn't believe in love? I think that you misunderstand what I am saying on so many levels. I personally believe the idea that we each have ONE soul-mate on this planet is utter bullshit. How do you know your wife is the only woman on this planet you'll ever connect with....have you personally met all women? We humans are lazy by nature, so when we find something we like and that's good to us we hold onto it. I'm not saying that's a bad thing. I'm saying what is bad is to believe that you'll never ever find something that good again. Appreciate what you have today, but never put so much value into it that it defines your happiness.

And I have no idea where you get this idea that I'm some bitter misogynistic person who hates women. I love women, I adore them. I just don't let them define who I am. If that makes me "callous" then so be it.

 

[doze]

I often ask myself if a girlfriend or wife would be nice to have, and the answer is ....Sometimes.

My married friends and those in relationships have to schedule in advance, ask permission, balance the budget, clean the kitchen, cut the grass etc... before heading out to grab some wings and a few beers with the guys. Then there are the phone calls while they are out and the curfew.

 

[sandorski]

One day Irony will strike, this thread will come back to life to haunt the OP.