Alphathree33
Platinum Member
We'd only been together for a month... and she was a great girl. Nothing at all wrong with her.
Unfortunately, her parents are insane. They're not just protective. We'd make plans to go out, then she'd fight with her mother about how she doesn't remember her asking, and so on.
After three weeks together, we'd been on exactly two dates.
She lives about 40 minutes away, which also didn't help.
So I saw the writing on the wall -- her parents who were always causing her emotional trouble and getting in the way of our relationship, and the distance. And I thought it better to end it after a month than after six months.
Makes sense, doesn't it?
So I got home one pensive night and sent her an email with these thoughts and told her to call me (she's difficult to get in touch with)
So this morning she calls, I pick up thinking she's read my email and wants to talk. Turns out her mother has just packed her bags and walked out, saying my ex-gf was "dead to her" and shoving her into a wall.
Now, I've never actually met her parents... second hand stories like this scared me enough. So when I heard that, I realized two things:
1. My worries about her parents had only been confirmed... I come from a loving family, and I want a girl who comes from a loving family
2. She hadn't read my email and she was calling to cry about her mother
Well I let her cry and I comforted her, but I had to tell her it was over at the same time because otherwise she'd run into my email later in the day.
So I did.
I explained what I thought about her family and the distance put together, and how I thought it would be better for both of us to end it now.
I've never broken up with a girl before... she was only my second girlfriend. I was sure to focus on the issues and not on her, and I somehow thought we could still be friends, still talk. But that's not what happened...
Instead, she went into attack mode, telling me how she's got guys lined up waiting to go out with her, how I didn't deserve her anyway, and so on and so forth.
And, surprisingly, she rose to the defense of her family.
The call ended with her sister shouting 'bastard' in the background.
This is all a bit much for me to handle. I'm a guy who (read my past ATOT posts) has only recently learned how to deal with girls, and I've had a lot of luck.
But I'm also beginning to hate myself, because I've gone from that shy, geeky guy in high school who could never get a girl but who always treated girls with respect to someone else... some other person who can get girls. But I'm not sure that I like myself anymore... does that make any sense?
Unfortunately, her parents are insane. They're not just protective. We'd make plans to go out, then she'd fight with her mother about how she doesn't remember her asking, and so on.
After three weeks together, we'd been on exactly two dates.
She lives about 40 minutes away, which also didn't help.
So I saw the writing on the wall -- her parents who were always causing her emotional trouble and getting in the way of our relationship, and the distance. And I thought it better to end it after a month than after six months.
Makes sense, doesn't it?
So I got home one pensive night and sent her an email with these thoughts and told her to call me (she's difficult to get in touch with)
So this morning she calls, I pick up thinking she's read my email and wants to talk. Turns out her mother has just packed her bags and walked out, saying my ex-gf was "dead to her" and shoving her into a wall.
Now, I've never actually met her parents... second hand stories like this scared me enough. So when I heard that, I realized two things:
1. My worries about her parents had only been confirmed... I come from a loving family, and I want a girl who comes from a loving family
2. She hadn't read my email and she was calling to cry about her mother
Well I let her cry and I comforted her, but I had to tell her it was over at the same time because otherwise she'd run into my email later in the day.
So I did.
I explained what I thought about her family and the distance put together, and how I thought it would be better for both of us to end it now.
I've never broken up with a girl before... she was only my second girlfriend. I was sure to focus on the issues and not on her, and I somehow thought we could still be friends, still talk. But that's not what happened...
Instead, she went into attack mode, telling me how she's got guys lined up waiting to go out with her, how I didn't deserve her anyway, and so on and so forth.
And, surprisingly, she rose to the defense of her family.
The call ended with her sister shouting 'bastard' in the background.
This is all a bit much for me to handle. I'm a guy who (read my past ATOT posts) has only recently learned how to deal with girls, and I've had a lot of luck.
But I'm also beginning to hate myself, because I've gone from that shy, geeky guy in high school who could never get a girl but who always treated girls with respect to someone else... some other person who can get girls. But I'm not sure that I like myself anymore... does that make any sense?
