Me & the GF Broke up of 5 years..

[clarkey01]

We broke up after 5 years about two weeks ago. I try to blank her out and she still rings and sends me texts. Then yesterday she found I pulled a fit girl down at a club, she then sent me picture messages to hurt me of guys in her bed.


Apart from sh*ging the world and getting drunk, what else can i do ? Im stuck in alot and i wll be for the next month with work, but after that Im free.

I still love her, but it's not like I can switch off these feelings, hope Im not moaning.

I feel quite down, chest pains and I feel quite weak, so much so I didnt bother with the gym yesterday, when she sent me the photo's of the other guys laying on her bed, I must of had a heart rate of 200. I knew it would be going on and I too have pulled some nice girls, but its only out of me being drunk and open. Im usually quiet and reserved.

Any help of ways you can think to make me feel better, then I owe you

 

[DaTT]

Send her pics of all the guys in your bed?

 

[Taejin]

Well, I'm not married..

But why is she trying to hurt you? If you guys broke up, there shouldn't be such hard feelings. It would seem she's jealous, and you returning that jealousy (with pics of your own) would simply expand that gulf..

If she causes you such needless grief, I would suggest just blocking her from your cell somehow. Change your number, get away from her. I can't really offer up how to console your grief, but grief is something we all go through, and I am familiar with your somatic symptoms.

Just try to forget it, I guess, take physician approved drugs as a last resort, and GET OUT THERE. If you don't go out you will only become more depressed.

 

[clarkey01]

Want to avoid conflict

 

[Tbirdkid]

lose the cell number...

 

[DaTT]

Yes...ignore her. And if you want her back. treat her like shit. Not kidding, this has worked for several times in the past. Just act like you don't have time for her....or even care for her. She may just come crawling back.

 

[DivideBYZero]

Drop it like it's hot.

 

[mrrman]

block her calls

 

[Modeps]

Married people dont break up, teenagers do. Married people get divorces and seperate.

 

[Landroval]

Originally posted by: clarkey01
Want to avoid conflict

 

[clarkey01]

Originally posted by: DaTT
Yes...ignore her. And if you want her back. treat her like shit. Not kidding, this has worked for several times in the past. Just act like you don't have time for her....or even care for her. She may just come crawling back.

we broke up for a year about 2 years ago...I never rang or text her, and she came slowly back (after I dumped her). She would ring me up telling me about her BF and how great he is. I'd laugh and put down the phone. Then she tried being nice and cofessed she wanted me back, I had things on the side at that time so I played god and told her to wait her turn ( even though I really wanted her, I found it hard to give, so I made her wait). I think this time if she does try and come back Im going to have act cold bond style, no feelings etc.

 

[DivideBYZero]

Bond style.

 

[Modeps]

Yeah, you were not married, so why are you calling her the Mrs?

 

[MaxDepth]

Originally posted by: mrrman
block her calls

Yup. That'll work

 

[clarkey01]

I'v got so much work to do, which means sitting my study and starring a screen..


I wont be out for about a month, and I'm going through chest pains and Im not eating like I used to.

A double vodka with lime sounds good, but I need to focus with work, then I'll get some big £££

 

[isekii]

have her pay for the picture messages and the text messages.

They add up over time.
Maybe that'll keep her from Text and pic messaging you

 

[Fritzo]

It'll hurt, but you'll get over it in a couple of weeks. You need to break off all contact, because anytime you'll see her the healing starts all over again.

The best thing to do (this worked wonders for me) is to think of all the things you HATED about her that you don't have to deal with anymore. YOU'RE FREE!!!

Go work out, get some muscle tone, and you'll get by fine.

 

[J Heartless Slick]

Possible solutions:

1. Talk to her about what she is doing.

2. Ask her to not contact you.

3. Do not read or listen to the email and other messages she sends you.


She obviously is trying to hurt you. Do not give her the opportunity by completely ignoring her.

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: clarkey01
I'v got so much work to do, which means sitting my study and starring a screen..


I wont be out for about a month, and I'm going through chest pains and Im not eating like I used to.

A double vodka with lime sounds good, but I need to focus with work, then I'll get some big £££

but won't you lose some big $$$ with a divorce/ separation? She can take 50% of your assets if you've been together for 5 years.

 

[piroroadkill]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
It'll hurt, but you'll get over it in a couple of weeks.

Untrue. This is lies unless you never actually cared about that person in the first place.

 

[clarkey01]

Originally posted by: aidanjm

Originally posted by: clarkey01
I'v got so much work to do, which means sitting my study and starring a screen..


I wont be out for about a month, and I'm going through chest pains and Im not eating like I used to.

A double vodka with lime sounds good, but I need to focus with work, then I'll get some big £££

but won't you lose some big $$$ with a divorce/ separation? She can take 50% of your assets if you've been together for 5 years.

No we'r not married, sorry I called her the "Mrs"..

 

[otispunkmeyer]

Originally posted by: clarkey01
I'v got so much work to do, which means sitting my study and starring a screen..


I wont be out for about a month, and I'm going through chest pains and Im not eating like I used to.

A double vodka with lime sounds good, but I need to focus with work, then I'll get some big £££

ahh dude your in england, where abouts?

 

[edro]

Originally posted by: DaTT
Send her pics of all the guys in your bed?

LOL!

 

[clarkey01]

Originally posted by: otispunkmeyer

Originally posted by: clarkey01
I'v got so much work to do, which means sitting my study and starring a screen..


I wont be out for about a month, and I'm going through chest pains and Im not eating like I used to.

A double vodka with lime sounds good, but I need to focus with work, then I'll get some big £££

ahh dude your in england, where abouts?

Leeds

 

[otispunkmeyer]

Originally posted by: clarkey01

Originally posted by: otispunkmeyer

Originally posted by: clarkey01
I'v got so much work to do, which means sitting my study and starring a screen..


I wont be out for about a month, and I'm going through chest pains and Im not eating like I used to.

A double vodka with lime sounds good, but I need to focus with work, then I'll get some big £££

ahh dude your in england, where abouts?

Leeds

ahhh quality im about 45min (depending how fast you drive) up the A1/A19 in middlesbrough

only place i been in leeds is the olympic pool but thats it...leeds isnt the nicest place to look at at times. and that pool needs knocking down...slowest 50m pool in britain im sure. everyone always swims at least 1sec slower than their best time.....no idea why

if u have no intentions of gettin back with her, then blocking her out is the best way. i remember i had a gf in Yr11 and she decided to end it coz i couldnt see her as much as she wanted ( i was swimming 8-10 times a week, training)

she completely ignored me for the most part of the rest of the year. it hurt alot coz i proper liked her. but i got over it, i ignored her back. when she realised she didnt havemy attention anymore she also kind of realised that she was wrong about what she did. she wished she'd never broke up with me...and by then it was too late. she told me she should of being more understanding bout the whole swimming thing, shed been a bit insensitive and immature.

but 5yrs is a damn long time mate, i find keeping your self occupied leaves little time for you to sit and stew over what could have been, or what you can do about it.

so keep busy, do your work, get to the gym, enjoy nights down the pub with your mates. if you ever find yourself with nothing to do....find something. play xbox or something daft like that to waste time....its time you wont spend thinking about her.