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GiggleGirl

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i can honestly say i dont believe i do this to my boyfriend. the only time i really ask him to do shit around the house is when i dont feel like doing it all my fucking self. and even then, its not "can you help me" or whatever, its basically my saying, "hey this needs to be done and while im doing this, you can do that" etc.
also, i will probably ask for small favors that sort of show that you care because you just do it. just the same as when you ask me to bring you more toilet paper, get your towel because you forgot it before you got in the shower, get you a glass of water... all things one can do on their own but you ask your SO because you are A) too lazy to do it yourself or B) like to know they will do something simple for you just because you ask
 

EricMartello

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Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i can honestly say i dont believe i do this to my boyfriend. the only time i really ask him to do shit around the house is when i dont feel like doing it all my fucking self. and even then, its not "can you help me" or whatever, its basically my saying, "hey this needs to be done and while im doing this, you can do that" etc. also, i will probably ask for small favors that sort of show that you care because you just do it. just the same as when you ask me to bring you more toilet paper, get your towel because you forgot it before you got in the shower, get you a glass of water... all things one can do on their own but you ask your SO because you are A) too lazy to do it yourself or B) like to know they will do something simple for you just because you ask

So you tell him what to do to test him...yes, I can believe that. You must be really, REALLY hot...I mean like, crankin' up to 11 hot...unless your bf has zero pride & self-esteem. :eek:
 

Acanthus

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Originally posted by: nick1985
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: child of wonder
My wife has a cold. Last night we watched some TV downstairs together. After a bit she decided to call it a night early. I had some work to do from home for my job so I told her I'd be up in a couple hours.

As she got up to leave she asks me if I can come upstairs and help her set up the humidifier in our room to help clear her sinuses.

"Help?" I asked. "What do you want help with? It just needs to be filled with water."

"Then can you just do it for me? I'm going to go to the bathroom."

"OK," I say. "I'll be up in a few minutes."

5 minutes go by and I head upstairs to find her filling it up herself. I take it away from her and say I was going to do it. Now she's mad.

Fast forward to this morning. I still have a lot of work to do and have to go into work this afternoon to move some servers. We also need to mow the lawn. Earlier in the week she volunteered to do it herself which is a big help so I can get my work done.

"Will you help me move the sprinklers?" she asks.

We have a temporary irrigation system set up since we had the lawn seeded. It's just a network of rainbird sprinklers connected with garden hoses. To move one, they simply need to be lifted up and carried somewhere else.

"When I mowed the yard last time I didn't need any help moving them," I said.

"Whatever. Fine. I'll just move them."

"I don't understand why you need help to move them. It's really simple. As you mow and come up to one, just pick it up and move it."

Again, she is peeved.

Why do women ask for help for the smallest little things? My wife does this frequently.

Are they really that incapable or do they just like seeing us jump through hoops?

Last night my wife comes home from the grocery store, she comes in the house and I say to my son, "Mom's home." She walks in with a few bags of groceries and a toner cartridge for our printer and immediately gives shit about not helping her and that her arms are full. I said, well how would I know that you needed help? You didn't ask for help, I'm not a mind reader...hell, I didn't even know you were home until I heard the door to the garage shut. :roll:

Then you power-bombed her into a cactus....right?

that had me LMAO :laugh:
 

Acanthus

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: child of wonder
Originally posted by: JEDI
Originally posted by: child of wonder
My wife has a cold. Last night we watched some TV downstairs together. After a bit she decided to call it a night early. I had some work to do from home for my job so I told her I'd be up in a couple hours.

As she got up to leave she asks me if I can come upstairs and help her set up the humidifier in our room to help clear her sinuses.

"Help?" I asked. "What do you want help with? It just needs to be filled with water."

"Then can you just do it for me? I'm going to go to the bathroom."

"OK," I say. "I'll be up in a few minutes."

5 minutes go by and I head upstairs to find her filling it up herself. I take it away from her and say I was going to do it. Now she's mad.

Fast forward to this morning. I still have a lot of work to do and have to go into work this afternoon to move some servers. We also need to mow the lawn. Earlier in the week she volunteered to do it herself which is a big help so I can get my work done.

"Will you help me move the sprinklers?" she asks.

We have a temporary irrigation system set up since we had the lawn seeded. It's just a network of rainbird sprinklers connected with garden hoses. To move one, they simply need to be lifted up and carried somewhere else.

"When I mowed the yard last time I didn't need any help moving them," I said.

"Whatever. Fine. I'll just move them."

"I don't understand why you need help to move them. It's really simple. As you mow and come up to one, just pick it up and move it."

Again, she is peeved.

Why do women ask for help for the smallest little things? My wife does this frequently.

Are they really that incapable or do they just like seeing us jump through hoops?

get a new wife.
hotter.
younger.

But this one is only a 1983 model! Are those out of date already?

We would need pics to determine that. ;)

and a test drive? :shocked:
 

Acanthus

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Originally posted by: judasmachine
just start asking her for help on tiny little things.

Get out laptop
type out "F_ck you, know your role" (underscore represent cursor position)

Call her over when she is obviously busy doing something.

Then ask her to press the "U" key.
 

yhelothar

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Originally posted by: Acanthus
Originally posted by: judasmachine
just start asking her for help on tiny little things.

Get out laptop
type out "F_ck you, know your role" (underscore represent cursor position)

Call her over when she is obviously busy doing something.

Then ask her to press the "U" key.

best advice yet!
 

meltdown75

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Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i can honestly say i dont believe i do this to my boyfriend. the only time i really ask him to do shit around the house is when i dont feel like doing it all my fucking self. and even then, its not "can you help me" or whatever, its basically my saying, "hey this needs to be done and while im doing this, you can do that" etc.

also, i will probably ask for small favors that sort of show that you care because you just do it. just the same as when you ask me to bring you more toilet paper, get your towel because you forgot it before you got in the shower, get you a glass of water... all things one can do on their own but you ask your SO because you are A) too lazy to do it yourself or B) like to know they will do something simple for you just because you ask
that's the kicker. when you get married, you'll change and he'll stay the same.

the second paragraph sounds like practice for the crap you'll be spewing on a daily basis once you tie the knot. actually, when i read the 2nd part, i heard it in a naggy voice.
 

Baltazar325

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Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i can honestly say i dont believe i do this to my boyfriend. the only time i really ask him to do shit around the house is when i dont feel like doing it all my fucking self. and even then, its not "can you help me" or whatever, its basically my saying, "hey this needs to be done and while im doing this, you can do that" etc.

also, i will probably ask for small favors that sort of show that you care because you just do it. just the same as when you ask me to bring you more toilet paper, get your towel because you forgot it before you got in the shower, get you a glass of water... all things one can do on their own but you ask your SO because you are A) too lazy to do it yourself or B) like to know they will do something simple for you just because you ask
that's the kicker. when you get married, you'll change and he'll stay the same.

the second paragraph sounds like practice for the crap you'll be spewing on a daily basis once you tie the knot. actually, when i read the 2nd part, i heard it in a naggy voice.

Hah.
 

GiggleGirl

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Originally posted by: EricMartello
Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i can honestly say i dont believe i do this to my boyfriend. the only time i really ask him to do shit around the house is when i dont feel like doing it all my fucking self. and even then, its not "can you help me" or whatever, its basically my saying, "hey this needs to be done and while im doing this, you can do that" etc. also, i will probably ask for small favors that sort of show that you care because you just do it. just the same as when you ask me to bring you more toilet paper, get your towel because you forgot it before you got in the shower, get you a glass of water... all things one can do on their own but you ask your SO because you are A) too lazy to do it yourself or B) like to know they will do something simple for you just because you ask

So you tell him what to do to test him...yes, I can believe that. You must be really, REALLY hot...I mean like, crankin' up to 11 hot...unless your bf has zero pride & self-esteem. :eek:

umm no. im not telling him what to do exactly. but when things need to be done in the house, i would not like to be the only one doing everything, therefore, we delegate. or if ive already started, i say, babe, can you do this for me. thankssss. it works out quite well. theres no hidden meanings and shit gets taken care of
 

aphex

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Heres a good one from today.

Wife and I are at the mall, I call her and say I'm hungry, gonna grab something to eat, she says wait for her, she's hungry too. 30 mind later she meets me at the food court, we walk around for 5 minutes and she's grossed out by everything and tells me, let's just eat at home (45 minutes away), she's not that hungry. Whatever, fine.

So were on our way out, other side of the mall, she stops by Auntie Annie and gets a pretzel and a drink while I'm taking a leak before we go and says she doesn't want to walk back to the food court now.

:|
 

GiggleGirl

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Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i can honestly say i dont believe i do this to my boyfriend. the only time i really ask him to do shit around the house is when i dont feel like doing it all my fucking self. and even then, its not "can you help me" or whatever, its basically my saying, "hey this needs to be done and while im doing this, you can do that" etc.

also, i will probably ask for small favors that sort of show that you care because you just do it. just the same as when you ask me to bring you more toilet paper, get your towel because you forgot it before you got in the shower, get you a glass of water... all things one can do on their own but you ask your SO because you are A) too lazy to do it yourself or B) like to know they will do something simple for you just because you ask
that's the kicker. when you get married, you'll change and he'll stay the same.

the second paragraph sounds like practice for the crap you'll be spewing on a daily basis once you tie the knot. actually, when i read the 2nd part, i heard it in a naggy voice.

no way. i do not nag. if i want him to do something, i say it matter of factly. same as when he would like ME to do something. we are not bullshitters. everyone wants to know their partner cares about them, helping out doing menial tasks or fulfilling a simple favor is just one of those ways.

i dont know the kind of women you all married... but i WANT to do things that please my partner and make him happy. am i going to do these things ALL the time? no, but he makes me happy just by being him and vice versa, so we are bound to want to fulfill one anothers needs as they surface. EVERYONE asks their SO to do something they could easily do themselves, but for one reason or another does not do it. thats life. it comes with the territory.

anyways, i dont like to repeat myself so if OCN has dishes in the sink that have been there for a freakin month and i say, jesus christ honey, get off your ass and take care of these nasty ass dishes.... i know hes not going to jump up immediately, so i take that in stride... but he better do it soon!

whatever, i enjoy making him happy and he enjoys when im happy. i think thats the basis here that most of you are looking past... if we all were a little less self-centered, relationships would run a little more smoothly.

otherwise, enjoy your turbulent relationships and theres always make-up sex!
 

GiggleGirl

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Originally posted by: aphex
Heres a good one from today.

Wife and I are at the mall, I call her and say I'm hungry, gonna grab something to eat, she says wait for her, she's hungry too. 30 mind later she meets me at the food court, we walk around for 5 minutes and she's grossed out by everything and tells me, let's just eat at home (45 minutes away), she's not that hungry. Whatever, fine.

So were on our way out, other side of the mall, she stops by Auntie Annie and gets a pretzel and a drink while I'm taking a leak before we go and says she doesn't want to walk back to the food court now.

:|

thats just rude. tell her to wait at the flipping car, youre getting something to eat. or stop at a place on the way home. ruuudeeee
 

dbk

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Originally posted by: aphex
Heres a good one from today.

Wife and I are at the mall, I call her and say I'm hungry, gonna grab something to eat, she says wait for her, she's hungry too. 30 mind later she meets me at the food court, we walk around for 5 minutes and she's grossed out by everything and tells me, let's just eat at home (45 minutes away), she's not that hungry. Whatever, fine.

So were on our way out, other side of the mall, she stops by Auntie Annie and gets a pretzel and a drink while I'm taking a leak before we go and says she doesn't want to walk back to the food court now.

:|

Damn, you got owned.
 

child of wonder

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Originally posted by: aphex
Heres a good one from today.

Wife and I are at the mall, I call her and say I'm hungry, gonna grab something to eat, she says wait for her, she's hungry too. 30 mind later she meets me at the food court, we walk around for 5 minutes and she's grossed out by everything and tells me, let's just eat at home (45 minutes away), she's not that hungry. Whatever, fine.

So were on our way out, other side of the mall, she stops by Auntie Annie and gets a pretzel and a drink while I'm taking a leak before we go and says she doesn't want to walk back to the food court now.

:|

This is why I refuse to go to the mall same as I would never expect my wife to come with me to an electronics store or game store.

Forcing her to endure torture is not "endearing" to me, it's downright mean.
 

RKS

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Originally posted by: aphex
Heres a good one from today.

Wife and I are at the mall, I call her and say I'm hungry, gonna grab something to eat, she says wait for her, she's hungry too. 30 mind later she meets me at the food court, we walk around for 5 minutes and she's grossed out by everything and tells me, let's just eat at home (45 minutes away), she's not that hungry. Whatever, fine.

So were on our way out, other side of the mall, she stops by Auntie Annie and gets a pretzel and a drink while I'm taking a leak before we go and says she doesn't want to walk back to the food court now.

:|


lol

Before we got married I told my wife I only had two main rules:

Don't fuck with my food.
Don't fuck with my sleep.

If I tired and hungry she stays clear.

Of course there were some compromises, I can't get a motorcycle or smoke cigarettes. I'd love to get a bike but with two kids I just can't take the risk. At least I have the green light on a nice sports car within the next few years.
 

meltdown75

Lifer
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Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i can honestly say i dont believe i do this to my boyfriend. the only time i really ask him to do shit around the house is when i dont feel like doing it all my fucking self. and even then, its not "can you help me" or whatever, its basically my saying, "hey this needs to be done and while im doing this, you can do that" etc.

also, i will probably ask for small favors that sort of show that you care because you just do it. just the same as when you ask me to bring you more toilet paper, get your towel because you forgot it before you got in the shower, get you a glass of water... all things one can do on their own but you ask your SO because you are A) too lazy to do it yourself or B) like to know they will do something simple for you just because you ask
that's the kicker. when you get married, you'll change and he'll stay the same.

the second paragraph sounds like practice for the crap you'll be spewing on a daily basis once you tie the knot. actually, when i read the 2nd part, i heard it in a naggy voice.

no way. i do not nag. if i want him to do something, i say it matter of factly. same as when he would like ME to do something. we are not bullshitters. everyone wants to know their partner cares about them, helping out doing menial tasks or fulfilling a simple favor is just one of those ways.

i dont know the kind of women you all married... but i WANT to do things that please my partner and make him happy. am i going to do these things ALL the time? no, but he makes me happy just by being him and vice versa, so we are bound to want to fulfill one anothers needs as they surface. EVERYONE asks their SO to do something they could easily do themselves, but for one reason or another does not do it. thats life. it comes with the territory.

anyways, i dont like to repeat myself so if OCN has dishes in the sink that have been there for a freakin month and i say, jesus christ honey, get off your ass and take care of these nasty ass dishes.... i know hes not going to jump up immediately, so i take that in stride... but he better do it soon!

whatever, i enjoy making him happy and he enjoys when im happy. i think thats the basis here that most of you are looking past... if we all were a little less self-centered, relationships would run a little more smoothly.

otherwise, enjoy your turbulent relationships and theres always make-up sex!
whatever, come back after 5 years of dating and another 5+ years of marriage.
 

waggy

No Lifer
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Originally posted by: aphex
Heres a good one from today.

Wife and I are at the mall, I call her and say I'm hungry, gonna grab something to eat, she says wait for her, she's hungry too. 30 mind later she meets me at the food court, we walk around for 5 minutes and she's grossed out by everything and tells me, let's just eat at home (45 minutes away), she's not that hungry. Whatever, fine.

So were on our way out, other side of the mall, she stops by Auntie Annie and gets a pretzel and a drink while I'm taking a leak before we go and says she doesn't want to walk back to the food court now.

:|

hahah my wife has done that. i just say ok and stop at the nearest drive through i like to eat.
 

GiggleGirl

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Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i can honestly say i dont believe i do this to my boyfriend. the only time i really ask him to do shit around the house is when i dont feel like doing it all my fucking self. and even then, its not "can you help me" or whatever, its basically my saying, "hey this needs to be done and while im doing this, you can do that" etc.

also, i will probably ask for small favors that sort of show that you care because you just do it. just the same as when you ask me to bring you more toilet paper, get your towel because you forgot it before you got in the shower, get you a glass of water... all things one can do on their own but you ask your SO because you are A) too lazy to do it yourself or B) like to know they will do something simple for you just because you ask
that's the kicker. when you get married, you'll change and he'll stay the same.

the second paragraph sounds like practice for the crap you'll be spewing on a daily basis once you tie the knot. actually, when i read the 2nd part, i heard it in a naggy voice.

no way. i do not nag. if i want him to do something, i say it matter of factly. same as when he would like ME to do something. we are not bullshitters. everyone wants to know their partner cares about them, helping out doing menial tasks or fulfilling a simple favor is just one of those ways.

i dont know the kind of women you all married... but i WANT to do things that please my partner and make him happy. am i going to do these things ALL the time? no, but he makes me happy just by being him and vice versa, so we are bound to want to fulfill one anothers needs as they surface. EVERYONE asks their SO to do something they could easily do themselves, but for one reason or another does not do it. thats life. it comes with the territory.

anyways, i dont like to repeat myself so if OCN has dishes in the sink that have been there for a freakin month and i say, jesus christ honey, get off your ass and take care of these nasty ass dishes.... i know hes not going to jump up immediately, so i take that in stride... but he better do it soon!

whatever, i enjoy making him happy and he enjoys when im happy. i think thats the basis here that most of you are looking past... if we all were a little less self-centered, relationships would run a little more smoothly.

otherwise, enjoy your turbulent relationships and theres always make-up sex!
whatever, come back after 5 years of dating and another 5+ years of marriage.

LOL if you are genuinely compatible people, time isnt going to make you less so. i think people need to really think about the person they are choosing to marry. i cant imagine being happier. :p
 

jjones

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Oct 9, 2001
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Ha ha ha, this thread is full of win.

Yesterday evening, the wife goes out with my daughter and I'm at home playing UT. Well, our front door has a deadbolt and a regular lock on the door handle. We never use the door handle lock, just the deadbolt when leaving the house, and since she knows I'm playing UT and oblivious to the world, she locks the front door when she leaves yesterday.

Well, a little later I'm out on the balcony looking at the sky because hurricane Gustav is passing by to the east. I see her drive up and know she's home and everything's cool. I go back to my game and in a bit the phone rings. I hate answering the phone and she's been after me to answer the phone when she's out because she could have got sucked up by a tornado and taken to the land of Oz or something. Now I know she's home so I figure I'll let her get the phone and soon enough it stops ringing. Phone rings again in a bit and then stops again. I figure she's got her friends or family calling her so I'm in my happy little world playing UT. About 10 minutes later all the power goes off in the house and I'm like WTF? I take off my headphones and I hear this yelling and pounding on the front door and car horn blasting. Again, I'm like WTF?

Well, it turns out she was the one calling because she had locked herself out of the house. When she left she had locked the regular door handle lock, the one we never use, and didn't have the key with her. After phoning and pounding and whatnot, the only way she could figure out to get my attention was to pull the main breaker to the house.

She's mad about it and of course this was all my fault, so now I'm hiding out at my office today because she was in psycho bitch mode when she woke up this morning. Married life is grand sometimes. :D
 

MichaelD

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She's mad about it and of course this was all my fault, so now I'm hiding out at my office today because she was in psycho bitch mode when she woke up this morning. Married life is grand sometimes.

:laugh: This thread truly delivers. I've been laughing for two minutes straight at the responses! Some things just hit home: I.E. I also hide out in my office when the wife is in "I'm mad at you" mode.

Reading all the responses, particularly the "how I deal with it" strategies...it's just astounding how much similarity there is amongst the Hunter Gatherers.

I've gotten pretty good at the

"Uh huh. Mmm-hmm. Great. Super. Awesome idea, honey. Go for it. You the woman! Oh, wow! She said that? What a bitch! You were right, honey...she shouldn't have said that!

replies. She hasn't quite caught on yet. As long as she's under the illusion that I'm actually listening, I'm golden. :cool:
 

MrDudeMan

Lifer
Jan 15, 2001
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It sounds to me like the OP is just lazy. Sure you had work to do, but honestly would it have killed you to get up and take care of the humidifier? By telling her to wait 5 minutes, you are putting her somewhere other than your top priority. If you are married and your wife isn't your top priority, then you fail. Next time just take the 1 or 2 minutes (at the most) and put water in the humidifier. She's happy, you're a hero, and all is well. Or, do what you did this time and be a stubborn moron and treat her less than what she deserves and cause problems. Your choice. Yes, I'm married.