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ConstipatedVigilante

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Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

We only feel unneeded when we know you creatures are going to get pissed off because we aren't doing anything. I would be totally content if I didn't have to do anything for a female friend when I'm over and she's not going to yell at me - but I help because it makes them happy. So your logic is flawed.
 

mAdMaLuDaWg

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Originally posted by: secretanchitman
Originally posted by: ConstipatedVigilante
My mom will actually refuse help when you ask for it and then get pissed off when you don't do anything. Girls don't make sense.

my mom does the exact same thing. that fucking pisses me off. i REALLY hate when she does that.

hahaha.. this is sigworthy material.

 

Shadow Conception

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: child of wonder
My wife has a cold. Last night we watched some TV downstairs together. After a bit she decided to call it a night early. I had some work to do from home for my job so I told her I'd be up in a couple hours.

As she got up to leave she asks me if I can come upstairs and help her set up the humidifier in our room to help clear her sinuses.

"Help?" I asked. "What do you want help with? It just needs to be filled with water."

"Then can you just do it for me? I'm going to go to the bathroom."

"OK," I say. "I'll be up in a few minutes."

5 minutes go by and I head upstairs to find her filling it up herself. I take it away from her and say I was going to do it. Now she's mad.

Fast forward to this morning. I still have a lot of work to do and have to go into work this afternoon to move some servers. We also need to mow the lawn. Earlier in the week she volunteered to do it herself which is a big help so I can get my work done.

"Will you help me move the sprinklers?" she asks.

We have a temporary irrigation system set up since we had the lawn seeded. It's just a network of rainbird sprinklers connected with garden hoses. To move one, they simply need to be lifted up and carried somewhere else.

"When I mowed the yard last time I didn't need any help moving them," I said.

"Whatever. Fine. I'll just move them."

"I don't understand why you need help to move them. It's really simple. As you mow and come up to one, just pick it up and move it."

Again, she is peeved.

Why do women ask for help for the smallest little things? My wife does this frequently.

Are they really that incapable or do they just like seeing us jump through hoops?

Last night my wife comes home from the grocery store, she comes in the house and I say to my son, "Mom's home." She walks in with a few bags of groceries and a toner cartridge for our printer and immediately gives shit about not helping her and that her arms are full. I said, well how would I know that you needed help? You didn't ask for help, I'm not a mind reader...hell, I didn't even know you were home until I heard the door to the garage shut. :roll:

My parents are like that.

 

MichaelD

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Women want a dog. Really, that's what they want.

They want "a thing" that will pay constant attention to them from the moment they wake until the moment they sleep. They want "a thing" that will follow them from room to room, anticipating whatever they may want to do at any given moment. They want "a thing" that will be 101% interested in EVERYTHING they are saying. They want a happy, smiley, tail-wagging, jumpy, happy-barky, Golden Retriever.

They want "a thing" that is only interested in THEM. Not the TV. Not the computer. Not the game. Not the car *unless it's broken*. You get the point.

My wife is very considerate of my personal space. But every once in awhile (read: 4 days out of the week) she will just talk and talk and talk and ask question to which I've no answer. And if my eyes should divert from hers even for one second, then I'm not Paying Attention To Her and I get scolded.

Doesn't matter if I've got chores to do (we both work and share the housework equally) or whatever. If she's not done with me, then I'm not done.

In other words: Your wife is perfectly normal. :p
 

SagaLore

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Originally posted by: MichaelD
My wife is very considerate of my personal space. But every once in awhile (read: 4 days out of the week) she will just talk and talk and talk and ask question to which I've no answer. And if my eyes should divert from hers even for one second, then I'm not Paying Attention To Her and I get scolded.

So what you're saying is - women are self-centered, for not letting guys be self-centered. :confused:
 

Kabrinski

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Originally posted by: Jeff7
... Offering help would even sometimes garner a response hinting that you thought they were incapable of doing a simple task....

That's how my gf reacts, only she doesn't hint. It usually comes out as an almost yelling "I can do it myself!" type of thing. If she is doing something, I offer her a hand or ask if she needs any help. A lot of the time, she can do it herself, but I offer to be nice. I know she is quite capable of doing just about everything she wants to, but I consider it rude to not at least offer some assistance. But if I don't offer or do something, she gets mad at me for not helping.

Also, she is also a lot like your wife op. Always asking me to do the little stuff when she could easily do it herself, and might be quicker. And she gets angry if I don't drop everything and do it now.
 

waggy

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hahah my wife is the same way. she will ask for help on crap that is easy for her to do. hell be faster her doing it then yelling at me and makeing me do it.

i don't get it. i never crosses me mind to ask her to some of the crap and i just do it.


but then i figure if i don't do it i will be stuck jerking off and i love her so much! best damn wife in the world!


./...yes she reads these threads..
 

TallBill

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Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

Haha... :laugh:

2700 posts? WTF?

There was that post reset bug a while back. Maybe he got hit by it.
 

Jeff7181

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What's wrong with, "I'm sorry, I don't have time, I really have to get this done."

Why get snippy and argue about semantics with her? Of course she didn't need help filling the humidifier in the sense of she needs you to hold the reservoir while she manipulates the faucet. She was asking you to do it for her.

Can't believe a married person doesn't understand this stuff...
 

Steve

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www.chicagopipeband.com
Originally posted by: TallBill
Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

Haha... :laugh:

2700 posts? WTF?

There was that post reset bug a while back. Maybe he got hit by it.

No, his old account exists under the name NikPreviousAcct or something like that. The account he's on now used to be called GuideBot.
 

shelaby

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Ay gf does this too. We were out to dinner with my parents once and she asked me to "dip her bread in the olive oil" which was not out of her reach at all. I gave her this look like are you serious, you're a big girl you can do it. I don't know why she does it, but she does it for the simplest things that I know she is very capable of handling herself. But even so, i still love her
 

nakedfrog

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Look, the sooner you guys accept that this will happen and develop a coping method, the easier life will be for you. Pick your battles, these usually aren't worth it. You do shit that bugs the hell out of her, too.
 

ConstipatedVigilante

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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Look, the sooner you guys accept that this will happen and develop a coping method, the easier life will be for you. Pick your battles, these usually aren't worth it. You do shit that bugs the hell out of her, too.

Come to think of it, maybe I joke about rape too much (not me of course)...nah!
 

paulxcook

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Originally posted by: SagaLore
Originally posted by: MichaelD
My wife is very considerate of my personal space. But every once in awhile (read: 4 days out of the week) she will just talk and talk and talk and ask question to which I've no answer. And if my eyes should divert from hers even for one second, then I'm not Paying Attention To Her and I get scolded.

So what you're saying is - women are self-centered, for not letting guys be self-centered. :confused:

So doing what you want to do instead of what someone else wants to manipulate you into doing is self-centered?

It is not a wife/girlfriend's right to "let" her husband/bf be self-centered or anything else.
 

nakedfrog

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Originally posted by: MichaelD
My wife is very considerate of my personal space. But every once in awhile (read: 4 days out of the week) she will just talk and talk and talk and ask question to which I've no answer. And if my eyes should divert from hers even for one second, then I'm not Paying Attention To Her and I get scolded.

You broke the cardinal rule, don't make eye contact during those conversations. That's what TV or a laptop are for. Just flick your eyes over sometimes. Being previously married I'll assume you've already got the audio buffer to prove that you were listening.
 

ja1484

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Originally posted by: child of wonder
Why do women ask for help for the smallest little things? My wife does this frequently.

Are they really that incapable or do they just like seeing us jump through hoops?


lol, and you're married?


Originally posted by: nick1985
Originally posted by: WingZero94
Women love the feeling that somebody is taking care of them. Do it - there may be plenty of nights where you need some "help" and she doesn't necessarily feel like "helping" but does anyways.... if you get my drift.

ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT WIENER HELP?


Best response ever? Maybe.
 

Baltazar325

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I get this all of the time too. She always waits until I'm doing something I want to do and than asks me to do some kind of trivial shit like change a light bulb. Like she cant change the fucking thing on her own

She also will not attempt to do something that she doesnt know how to do and instead expects me to do it even though I may not know how to either. Most of the things I learned to do by just messing around with them, I'm not quite sure why she cant figure out how to use a screwdriver or a hammer.

I also get that, "Well I've been asking you for weeks to do this!" and I always give her the, "If its so important to you, why have you not done it instead of waiting on me."

I dont understand it.
 

RKS

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I guess I got lucky. My wife is very independent, she does most 'domestic' chores (except iron, I have to buy non-iron shirts). She also takes care of the yard. I do certain things like gutters, garbage, garage and snow removal.

She at least tries to do something before asking for assistance. I really appreciate her self-sufficiency; it gives me a lot of time to play. :laugh:
 

Pacfanweb

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My wife does that thing OP mentioned, where I tell her I'll do something in a minute and if it's not fast enough for her, she'll do it herself and get mad about it.

Then I tell her to get her bitch-ass back in the kitchen and make me some pie.
 

aphex

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Wow. The OP is almost verbatim what I hear quite often.

Me: "I'll be there in just a min"
<3 minutes pass> I get up and go to do what my asked, she's already there, doing it, telling me how I never help out.

We can never win.
 
Dec 30, 2004
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Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

Men know that women need to be beaten, so we beat them. If we never beat them, they would get crazy attitudes like yours.
 
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Originally posted by: SagaLore
Originally posted by: MichaelD
My wife is very considerate of my personal space. But every once in awhile (read: 4 days out of the week) she will just talk and talk and talk and ask question to which I've no answer. And if my eyes should divert from hers even for one second, then I'm not Paying Attention To Her and I get scolded.

So what you're saying is - women are self-centered, for not letting guys be self-centered. :confused:

r u serius?
 

Jeff7

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Originally posted by: Kabrinski
Also, she is also a lot like your wife op. Always asking me to do the little stuff when she could easily do it herself, and might be quicker. And she gets angry if I don't drop everything and do it now.
I'd get that from my parents:
"Sometime today, could you do blah blah blah?"

"Ok, I'll get to it."

"Well?.........are you....going to get up and do it?"


I eventually learned that "sometime today" = "right now."

 

EricMartello

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The lesson of this thread is...don't get married. :) Think about it, how did getting married benefit YOU in any way, shape or form? It did not. All it did do was give your girlfriend a tighter clinch on your nuts, because now if you leave her she takes 1/2 or more of everything and you get left with child support (if you have kids) or 1/2 or less of whatever you used to have.

Marriage, over all, is probably the biggest mistake most guys make. The only valid reason for marrying a woman is if you're trying to import her from another country - even then, better sign a prenuptial agreement.