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married folks how much money do u give yr folks?

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Originally posted by: SammyBoy
Originally posted by: PipBoy
Originally posted by: sygyzy
Totally cultural thing. Can you guess what cultures would give their parents money?
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the ones that equate love with money.
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Some ownage just happened here but I can't quite pinpoint it...can someone scoot me in the right direction?
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Is this a joke or are you serious, I can't quite pinpoint it. 😛
 
Originally posted by: Hardcore
I'm Chinese, and my family certainly doesn't ask me for money. But then again i'm a bum.
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if you are a bum you must not be chinese, probably cambodian.












hahaha, just kidding!
 
Originally posted by: waylman
u give your parents money? 😕
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wth are you talking about? why would i give them money? they are retired and my dad's net worth is so many times more than mine , i don't get this, why are people giving money to their parents?

i would be happy to have my parents live with me if they were poor , but my dad saved a major crap load of his salary while we were growing up, so he is doing just fine now in retirement
 
None. My dad probably has a thousand times the money I have. He's happy and doesn't need the money.

If he did, I'd gladly give him what I have.

I wouldn't let my kids randomly give me money if I didn't really, really need it. It's their money, if I'm low on funds, it's my own fault.
 
Originally posted by: waylman
u give your parents money? 😕
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i sure dont
my dad runs two businesses and has a $250k home....i do not, i give him hugs at times, and occassionally take him out to lunch
 
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
My parents would never want me to do this. They worked hard for ME to succeed and have a family of my own, not to support them. It sounds very selfish for parents to expect they kids to give them a monthly fee for raising them. I would rather see my own children grow to be successful in their own right and now have to have the burden of me over their heads.
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I agree fully. Like I said, I'd help my parents out IF they needed it, but child rearing is a downwards investment in my eyes. Parents invest in their kids. Those kids invest downwards into their kids. Unless there is some critical problem nobody I know would be expected to pay upwards back to their parents. As I mentioned above, having children is a bad investment if you're in it for money.

 
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
My parents would never want me to do this. They worked hard for ME to succeed and have a family of my own, not to support them. It sounds very selfish for parents to expect they kids to give them a monthly fee for raising them. I would rather see my own children grow to be successful in their own right and now have to have the burden of me over their heads.
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It has nothing to do with being selfish. It's the culture. You realize not all society have pension plans, right? The culture is that you give your children the best life you can, then in return, they'll provide what they can for you when you no longer work. I don't see how that can be selfish.
 
It has nothing to do with being selfish. It's the culture. You realize not all society have pension plans, right? The culture is that you give your children the best life you can, then in return, they'll provide what they can for you when you no longer work. I don't see how that can be selfish.
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Anybody in the US working legally has access to a 401k, and it's sure as hell more reliable than hoping that your kids have a good enough job to support themselves and you 🙂 I never really understood how some people can move to a country and not grasp some of what it has to offer. A guy at work from India has tens of thousands of dollars saved up in a chequing account, for instance. Just let it go, man, you're not in India anymore!
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
It has nothing to do with being selfish. It's the culture. You realize not all society have pension plans, right? The culture is that you give your children the best life you can, then in return, they'll provide what they can for you when you no longer work. I don't see how that can be selfish.
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Anybody in the US working legally has access to a 401k, and it's sure as hell more reliable than hoping that your kids have a good enough job to support themselves and you 🙂 I never really understood how some people can move to a country and not grasp some of what it has to offer. A guy at work from India has tens of thousands of dollars saved up in a chequing account, for instance. Just let it go, man, you're not in India anymore!
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Because it's a foreign idea to them. Not all societies have banks, atms, creditcards, investment firms, etc. For a lot of these people, the idea of putting money in somebody elses hands to save up is a foreign idea. They want to see hard results from their money... a lot of times this is in their kids, other times it's in businesses (that's why so many asians own businesses... almost every single asian family i know own some sort of business). But asians are a lot more communal than westerners. You will never hear of an asian person being put into a retirement home... to be abandoned by their kids like that. Or even living on their own when their significant other dies. These things are common here, but to asians, that's just unheard of to treat your parents like that.

It's just different ideas. You may think it's selfish for the parents to believe that their children should take care of them, but i can tell you that asians thinks it's selfish NOT to want to take care of the parents. I know i will eventually help out my parents... not out of any obligation, but because i want to. My parents gave me one of the best childhood i could ever want, and i'm going to make sure they're going to have one of the best retirement thye could ever want. Am i going to give them a weekly allowance? No, i know for a fact my parents wouldn't take it even if i gave that, but i'll hopefully be able to buy them a summer/winter home in Vietnam or Hong Kong, or wherever they want to spend some of their time at.

It's funny how ignorant some of you are, to think that there's only one way to think.
 
Originally posted by: Hardcore
Originally posted by: Skoorb
It has nothing to do with being selfish. It's the culture. You realize not all society have pension plans, right? The culture is that you give your children the best life you can, then in return, they'll provide what they can for you when you no longer work. I don't see how that can be selfish.
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Anybody in the US working legally has access to a 401k, and it's sure as hell more reliable than hoping that your kids have a good enough job to support themselves and you 🙂 I never really understood how some people can move to a country and not grasp some of what it has to offer. A guy at work from India has tens of thousands of dollars saved up in a chequing account, for instance. Just let it go, man, you're not in India anymore!
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Because it's a foreign idea to them. Not all societies have banks, atms, creditcards, investment firms, etc. For a lot of these people, the idea of putting money in somebody elses hands to save up is a foreign idea. They want to see hard results from their money... a lot of times this is in their kids, other times it's in businesses (that's why so many asians own businesses... almost every single asian family i know own some sort of business). But asians are a lot more communal than westerners. You will never hear of an asian person being put into a retirement home... to be abandoned by their kids like that. Or even living on their own when their significant other dies. These things are common here, but to asians, that's just unheard of to treat your parents like that.

It's just different ideas. You may think it's selfish for the parents to believe that their children should take care of them, but i can tell you that asians thinks it's selfish NOT to want to take care of the parents. I know i will eventually help out my parents... not out of any obligation, but because i want to. My parents gave me one of the best childhood i could ever want, and i'm going to make sure they're going to have one of the best retirement thye could ever want. Am i going to give them a weekly allowance? No, i know for a fact my parents wouldn't take it even if i gave that, but i'll hopefully be able to buy them a summer/winter home in Vietnam or Hong Kong, or wherever they want to spend some of their time at.

It's funny how ignorant some of you are, to think that there's only one way to think.
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Actually, I gotta friend whose dad is a total bum. He doesn't work an all he does is play starcraft all day on some 500mhz pc while his mom works 24/7 and even told him NOT to go to college even tho he promised he would way if he could get in. His idea of "Screwing him over" wouldn't be to severe ties though (regardless of how american he is), it is to stick him in an old man's home and just leave him there
 
if i wanted to "return the favor" of them raising me right, i certainly wouldnt do it in checks. my parents woudlnt accept money from me unless they needed it. absolutly needed it.
 
I make three times as much as my dad and more then everyone else in my family combined..

How much do I send them a month?

A big fat $0!
 
Zilch. My parents have way more $$$ than me. Wy wife parents could use the cash and we give them some occasionally. But there are to many weasely brothers in laws that leech and let their kids leech. So it would be like me supporting that leeching. Mainly aid comes in the form of home improvements or new appliances.
 
It's funny how ignorant some of you are, to think that there's only one way to think.
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I don't know if that was directed at me or as a general statement. If it's the latter I agree, and if the former, well I appreciate that some people have different ways of things, but specifically in regards to keeping money under mattresses and not in bank accounts, that's not just a different way of thinking, but it's a wrong way of thinking in our society. Unlike some nations we know that if our money is in the bank it's in the bank. It's as good as in your hands - in fact better because it's a lot safer. That's the luxury of living in certain countries, and I am surprised that a lot of immigrants can't appreciate it.
 
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