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Originally posted by: Muadib
I take it you've never been burned then.Originally posted by: NFS4
Originally posted by: Lola
Originally posted by: NFS4
Originally posted by: bozack
Originally posted by: Lola
i TOTALLY disagree... not wanting children does not mean they are not responsible. What they think life is really about could be very different than what you think it is about. You cannot say that someones way of life is WRONG because they do not have kids.
why would you want to give kids to people that really do not want them?![]()
It does mean that they are irresponsible though lola, at least they are not willing to take responsibilty and or welcome a major life changing event...I wonder what some of these people's attitudes would be should their birth control fail?
Not saying anyone's life is wrong for not having wanting kids, but it is pretty clear that they are not willing to take on the responsibility of raising a child.
If birth control fails and they have the baby:
(1) Hate the child for the rest of their life for "screwing this plans up"
(2) Fall in love with the child the instant they lay eyes on them
Most likely, I think it's going to be (2)
First off... there are MANY major life changing events that one goes through, not just having a child. , again, i stand to say that just because a couple does not want a child does not make them irresponsible. Irresponsible is not having a job, living with parents when you dont have to, blowing all ones money... i could go on and on...
You both are correct, there is always a chance that BC can fail, and honestly, i do not want to think about that at this point. I have my views and i really want them to be kept private as i have gone through certain things in my life.
But, if we did become pregnant, at this point, it would be a hard thing to do, but if we choose to not give the child up for adoption, of course I would love them more than anything.
I see many people who are almost upset at their children because they had them and they did "ruin" their lives, but each individual is different in life experiences.
You have views that you would rather stay private and I understand and appreciate that. But how a parent could be upset or mad at the child for coming into the world after not wanting any kids is beyond me. THEY are the ones that brought the child into the world. They have NO right to be pissed at anyone but themselves.
Children are just a natural occurence from having sex. Sometimes you get pregnant, sometimes you don't. Even with protection, you never know what could happen. Anytime you play with fire, you're bound to get burned...
The only difference is, I don't see getting "burned" as being a bad thing when it comes to children.
Ok, Ok, i never said i thought that when people are angry because they HAD to have the children, they were right in their thinking or feelings.
You are correct about being responsible enough to know what *could* happen when you have sex... i know what can happen, and i choose to accept that risk and have sex with my soon-to-be-husband. Things are never 100% we accept that.
I simply said, however, that i HAVE seen some people that are angry at the world for them having to have children when they knew there was risk envolved.
I saw how unhappy they are at themselves or resentful for having a baby... So, to bring it back to what was said, you should not say that "irresponsible" people are THE A, #1 people who should have kids just to make them responsible or teach them a lesson.
Personally, right now, we are only in our early/mid 20's and we are still establishing ourselves and our lives. I do not think we are selfish or irresponsible for thinking of ourselves now, i think it is better to have a secure environment before even thinking about bringing another person into this world.
In 2,3,4,5 years, maybe we will change our minds, it could happen, but right now, we are not equipt to have or handle a child... not that we do not want to, but we are in the middle of other "life changing events"
