Marriage

[RadioHead84]

Ok I want some peoples opinions on this. I have two seprate friends that are both getting married. I am currently a Junior in college and both of them are Seniors. The one couple have been dating since I think Soph year of high school, and the other for about 5 years.

I serioulsy think 21/22/23 is way to young to get married.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Too young.....but stay the fvck out of it.

 

[Mo0o]

I would say when both party's financial and living situations are solidified

 

[Blayze]

I've known a few people that got married when they were 18, and before. By the time they were 21 they had a few kids. Its probably too young, but stay out of it. Who knows it could work out great for them.

 

[RadioHead84]

Oh yeah..I am not going to break in and tell them what to do. Just wondering if I am the only one that thinks its a bit too early.

 

[Chode Messiah]

Marriage is a beatifaul thing

 

[slurmsmackenzie]

an age doesn't equal a level of maturity. i was 23 and my wife and i have two children already and i'm 25. i'm not as grounded as i'd like to be from a professional standpoint, but having a family and going to school has yet to pose a problem.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
an age doesn't equal a level of maturity. i was 23 and my wife and i have two children already and i'm 25. i'm not as grounded as i'd like to be from a professional standpoint, but having a family and going to school has yet to pose a problem.

obviously it doesn't equal a level of wisdom either....

 

[slurmsmackenzie]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
an age doesn't equal a level of maturity. i was 23 and my wife and i have two children already and i'm 25. i'm not as grounded as i'd like to be from a professional standpoint, but having a family and going to school has yet to pose a problem.

obviously it doesn't equal a level of wisdom either....

:roll:

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
Too young.....but stay the fvck out of it.

:thumbsup:

Two couples (four close friends) got married last summer. One couple I think is mature enough to make it a lifetime affair, the other I'm not so sure of. I've resolved that unless my (male) friend comes to me for help or advice I'm keeping my trap shut; while I realize he's probably frustrated and in some ways feeling trapped (long story, no kids yet), it's not my place to get involved between them.

 

[notfred]

People have been marrying at that age or earlier since the concept of marriage was conceived of thousands of years ago. Only since the 1960s have people started thinking that mid-20s is too young to be married.

 

[skim milk]

Since I'm asian, I won't be marrying until I'm 30. This is after I experienced everything, had numerous relationships, etc.

I think 30 is about the right age... 21 is way too freaking young.

 

[Tbirdkid]

obviously it doesn't equal a level of wisdom either....

Obviously, your not too smart. A relationship no matter how old, or how trying it comes to be is all about work. You have to want to make it work out. Financial reasons are stupid because you never know when or if you may have a child, and they may get leukemia and need every dime you could ever provide for them. Its all about how much you love each other. I dont believe an age can be a factor at all. If they love each other enough, they can and will make it work.

People that run their relationships based on money, have no respect for the word love. Even if they say they do.

Im 30, been married for 4 years. I had a kid when i was 23. I loved her mom with all my heart. However, she didnt feel the same about me after the child. So, we split. To this day, i could never see my life without my child. Now, my newborn son, has a big sister to play with.

I have a beautiful, healthy wife. Im as lucky as it gets. Im not by any means totally financially wealthy. I am however, wealthy in ways only someone that has felt feelings like myself can imagine.

 

[Nebben]

I don't think people should marry until they are at least 50 and have a retirement fund set up.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
an age doesn't equal a level of maturity. i was 23 and my wife and i have two children already and i'm 25. i'm not as grounded as i'd like to be from a professional standpoint, but having a family and going to school has yet to pose a problem.

obviously it doesn't equal a level of wisdom either....

:roll:

Oh yeah...sorry about that. You are mature because you and your wife have been married for two years. Add to that you have managed to have wtwo kids. Maturity++.


Anyway maturity has nothing to do with a relationship lasting after a certain point especially since everyone thinks they are mature.

 

[slurmsmackenzie]

Originally posted by: fritolays
Since I'm asian, I won't be marrying until I'm 30. This is after I experienced everything, had numerous relationships, etc.

I think 30 is about the right age... 21 is way too freaking young.

numerous relationships? to what gain/end? an ability to make a lifelong commitment is not gained by epiphany one day. it's an arduous learning process molded from upbringing and a desire to love someone wholly. without proper discipline, it would be ill advised at any age.... see elizabeth taylor.

 

[GeekDrew]

My adopted parents got married when mom was 18 and dad was 21... they're still very happy together.

My biological parents got married when dad was 32 and mom was 27 (IIRC)... and they should have gotten divorced years ago.

A lot of people say that getting married in your early twenties is too young... but actually, aside from only a couple of examples, the people that I know that got married in their early 20s overall appears to be happier and more comfortable in their marriage than those that waited until their late 20s / early 30s (this concluded from my observations, and by talking to many couples).

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: Chode Messiah
Marriage is a beatifaul thing

Stop posting that. It isn't funny. Also learn how to spell 'beautiful'.

 

[slurmsmackenzie]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
an age doesn't equal a level of maturity. i was 23 and my wife and i have two children already and i'm 25. i'm not as grounded as i'd like to be from a professional standpoint, but having a family and going to school has yet to pose a problem.

obviously it doesn't equal a level of wisdom either....

:roll:

Oh yeah...sorry about that. You are mature because you and your wife have been married for two years. Add to that you have managed to have wtwo kids. Maturity++.


Anyway maturity has nothing to do with a relationship lasting after a certain point especially since everyone thinks they are mature.

my experience as a married man isn't what i base my expectations of my marriage on, but rather my desire to maintain a heathy family life and rooted moral structure for the sake of my children. i know with the utmost certainty that my wife shares my feelings on that, and many other aspects of what responsibilities a family entails. do i have your blessing now?

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: GeekDrew
My adopted parents got married when mom was 18 and dad was 21... they're still very happy together.

My biological parents got married when dad was 32 and mom was 27 (IIRC)... and they should have gotten divorced years ago.

A lot of people say that getting married in your early twenties is too young... but actually, aside from only a couple of examples, the people that I know that got married in their early 20s overall appears to be happier and more comfortable in their marriage than those that waited until their late 20s / early 30s (this concluded from my observations, and by talking to many couples).

I've wondered about this for the last few years. Some of the thoughts I've had:

1. Friendships. If you get married young, you're more likely to have friends (either single or couples) who know both of you as a complete entity, are comfortable with both of you, etc. If you get married later (late 20s) it seems likely that you both would have built up separate friendship circles that may or may not be compatible.
2. Finances. Same reasoning as before, if you marry young you're more likely to have intertwined finances, joint accounts, and all the pluses and negatives that go with it. If you get married in your late 20s you're more like to have separate finances, houses, cars, etc, and more of an individual ownership attitude toward your possessions.

That's actually all I can think of right now. It's been a long day.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
an age doesn't equal a level of maturity. i was 23 and my wife and i have two children already and i'm 25. i'm not as grounded as i'd like to be from a professional standpoint, but having a family and going to school has yet to pose a problem.

obviously it doesn't equal a level of wisdom either....

:roll:

Oh yeah...sorry about that. You are mature because you and your wife have been married for two years. Add to that you have managed to have wtwo kids. Maturity++.


Anyway maturity has nothing to do with a relationship lasting after a certain point especially since everyone thinks they are mature.

my experience as a married man isn't what i base my expectations of my marriage on, but rather my desire to maintain a heathy family life and rooted moral structure for the sake of my children. i know with the utmost certainty that my wife shares my feelings on that, and many other aspects of what responsibilities a family entails. do i have your blessing now?

no but you have my money on you thinking differently by the age of 30.5 (Median age for first marriage divorce).
Until then....................

 

[slurmsmackenzie]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
an age doesn't equal a level of maturity. i was 23 and my wife and i have two children already and i'm 25. i'm not as grounded as i'd like to be from a professional standpoint, but having a family and going to school has yet to pose a problem.

obviously it doesn't equal a level of wisdom either....

:roll:

Oh yeah...sorry about that. You are mature because you and your wife have been married for two years. Add to that you have managed to have wtwo kids. Maturity++.


Anyway maturity has nothing to do with a relationship lasting after a certain point especially since everyone thinks they are mature.

my experience as a married man isn't what i base my expectations of my marriage on, but rather my desire to maintain a heathy family life and rooted moral structure for the sake of my children. i know with the utmost certainty that my wife shares my feelings on that, and many other aspects of what responsibilities a family entails. do i have your blessing now?

no but you have my money on you thinking differently by the age of 30.5 (Median age for first marriage divorce).
Until then....................

vague statistics..... i was wondering when you'd flash that badge. i'll send you an invitation to our 10th if you give me your address.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
an age doesn't equal a level of maturity. i was 23 and my wife and i have two children already and i'm 25. i'm not as grounded as i'd like to be from a professional standpoint, but having a family and going to school has yet to pose a problem.

obviously it doesn't equal a level of wisdom either....

:roll:

Oh yeah...sorry about that. You are mature because you and your wife have been married for two years. Add to that you have managed to have wtwo kids. Maturity++.


Anyway maturity has nothing to do with a relationship lasting after a certain point especially since everyone thinks they are mature.

my experience as a married man isn't what i base my expectations of my marriage on, but rather my desire to maintain a heathy family life and rooted moral structure for the sake of my children. i know with the utmost certainty that my wife shares my feelings on that, and many other aspects of what responsibilities a family entails. do i have your blessing now?

no but you have my money on you thinking differently by the age of 30.5 (Median age for first marriage divorce).
Until then....................

vague statistics..... i was wondering when you'd flash that badge. i'll send you an invitation to our 10th if you give me your address.

Ask for it again in 5 years.......

 

[Tbirdkid]

nothing like basing a relationship with your wife/wives, on statistics. this is funny...

 

[notfred]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
Bunch of mostly unfounded crap...

What are your qualifactions that make you such an expert? How old were you for your first marriage and divorce? Did you study this in college? Did you watch a special on Fox?