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Marriage Falling apart

K

Kenazo

Lifer
First off, not my marriage. One of the bridesmaid's in our wedding this summer got married about 2 months after us (august) and my wife was her maid of honour, and thus signed for her as her witness. Seems that since then this girl has been working 13 hour days 6 days a week and has decided she doesn't love her hubbie anymore, and she thus decided to move out on him. She's now w/ her parents and my wife has become a bit crazy... I think b/c she signed for this girl she feels responsible to keep her on the straight and narrow, which of course is partially true, but what do you say to someone that has decided they don't love their hubbie after 6 months? They've been together as a couple for about 4 years, so it's not like they just up and decided out of nowhere to get married.

What are your views on marriage, To me marriage is not only a commitment to be w/ someone when it feels like we're happy bubbly in love, but also when life sucks and i'm annoyed w/ my woman. At those times the contractual part of the marriage should kick in until whatever disagreement you had is gone.
Anyway, what are your thoughts, any suggestions as to what i can suggest to my wife?
 
My views are similar to yours, but this girl obviously doesn't see it that way. Maybe she just wanted to get married because her friends were doing it. I know people who are having children for no other reason, as sad as that is.
 
She sounds immature and young.

Young marriages don't work. Period.

Men and women need to get all the craziness out of their system to form a more stable marriage. Marriage is about ups and downs. If this girl can't handle it, then she definitely doesn't deserve her hubby.

I'd toss here back into the ocean if I was her hubby--no question--no regrets!
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A true marriage is when things are absolutely at their lowest, you want to kill and/or maim your spouse, and yet you stick with your spouse and know that they will be there for you. "For better or worse" should mean something.
Your wife is in no way responsible, although the guilt may be there. Her friend just had a momentary lapse of reason and got married when she shouldn't have.
 
One of my cousins got married to her boyfriend (they had dated 3 years) after she was in my sister's wedding.
The marriage lasted about 8 months.

Both of them are now remarried and have kids with their second spouses.
"Rushing into marriage" has nothing to do with the amount of time you have known/dated/whatever someone
If both people aren't ready to honest-to-God stick it out NO MATTER WHAT, then you are "rushing into marriage."
 
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