man, could you tell someone that a loved one is gone?

[James3shin]

I couldn't fathom telling a family or anyone that a loved one of theirs is gone. I want to be a pediatrician/pediatric surgeon and am terrified of the day that I go and tell someone that I wasn't able to help. /wussyness

*thanks to the mods for deleting the thread i posted under my gf's account

 

[bradruth]

I haven't had to yet, but the day that I'll have to deliver a death notification is inevitible.

 

[her209]

Unless you specifically caused it, I just don't see what the problem is.

 

[totalcommand]

Originally posted by: James3shin
I couldn't fathom telling a family or anyone that a loved one of theirs is gone. I want to be a pediatrician/pediatric surgeon and am terrified of the day that I go and tell someone that I wasn't able to help. /wussyness

*thanks to the mods for deleting the thread i posted under my gf's account

i have similar plans, but probably will not be dealing with kids. THAT, my friend, is going to be extremely tough. I hope you have a good outlet for your stress.

 

[James3shin]

Originally posted by: her209
Unless you specifically caused it, I just don't see what the problem is.

wow, you're either much tougher then I or you know something i don't. stranger or not, and whether or not it was the messengers fault or not, i can only see it as being tough. I couldn't do this:

me: Um, your mother has passed away, we did everything we can but her trauma's were beyond repair. I'm sorry...

leave room

I couldn't do that w/out bawling like a baby.

 

[tranceport]

I think I could do it.. I'm cold hearted enough not to get caught up in it. Just do my job. Let them know and head out.

 

[totalcommand]

Originally posted by: James3shin

Originally posted by: her209
Unless you specifically caused it, I just don't see what the problem is.

wow, you're either much tougher then I or you know something i don't. stranger or not, and whether or not it was the messengers fault or not, i can only see it as being tough. I couldn't do this:

me: Um, your mother has passed away, we did everything we can but her trauma's were beyond repair. I'm sorry...

leave room

I couldn't do that w/out bawling like a baby.

except for you it will be: I'm sorry, we did everything we could but your 5 year old daughter didn't make it through.

 

[James3shin]

Originally posted by: totalcommand

Originally posted by: James3shin

Originally posted by: her209
Unless you specifically caused it, I just don't see what the problem is.

wow, you're either much tougher then I or you know something i don't. stranger or not, and whether or not it was the messengers fault or not, i can only see it as being tough. I couldn't do this:

me: Um, your mother has passed away, we did everything we can but her trauma's were beyond repair. I'm sorry...

leave room

I couldn't do that w/out bawling like a baby.

except for you it will be: I'm sorry, we did everything we could but your 5 year old daughter didn't make it through.

🙁

 

[djheater]

I had the duty of telling my mother, brother, siter, grandmother and aunt, that my father had died suddenly and unexpectedly.

It's a difficult duty, but it is a duty and one must fulfill it.

 

[ni4ni]

I had to tell my neighbor last week that his father had died while in the hospital.

Hard thing to do.

 

[skyking]

Originally posted by: djheater
I had the duty of telling my mother, brother, siter, grandmother and aunt, that my father had died suddenly and unexpectedly.

It's a difficult duty, but it is a duty and one must fulfill it.

Ditto for me too. He died on my arms, and he and I lived several hours away from the rest of the family.
Bradruth, I don't envy you your first time with that duty. I answered the door to a couple of state patrolmen, there to tell us my brother had died. I can recall the look on thier faces clearly, it tore them both up. I honestly think they came together for moral support.

 

[purepolly]

I'm not sure if I could. But I could have killed the arrogant a**hole of a doctor when I had my first pt death. She wanted to pawn it off to the next shift Dr to deal with (death occurred just after midnight and the next shift would have been in at breakfast time). Yeah, lets just let that body grow cold for seven hours and then call the family in. Idiot.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: James3shin
I couldn't fathom telling a family or anyone that a loved one of theirs is gone. I want to be a pediatrician/pediatric surgeon and am terrified of the day that I go and tell someone that I wasn't able to help. /wussyness

*thanks to the mods for deleting the thread i posted under my gf's account

like anything in that realm it's tough doing it for the first time, but with experience you will get more skilled and less nervous about having to do it.

you have to do... what you have to do. it will become second nature eventually.