Male Intimacy: how many of you are comfortable with male physical intimacy?

[PlatinumGold]

It has been a contention of mine for a long time that the lack of intimacy in the lives of the average male makes him more of a horn dog and more likely to objectify women.

how many of you here are comfortable holding another guys hands, walking hand in hand or putting your arms around a guys shoulder?

the biggest negative effect of homophobia isn't how you treats gays but what it does to your own psychy.

 

[her209]

If I french another dude, does that still make me straight?

 

[sillymofo]

As long as you stay on that side of the monitor... we'll be fine. :thumbsup:

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: her209
If I french another dude, does that still make me straight?

you are confusing intimacy with eroticism.

intimacy is physical reassurance and contact. erotic is sexually arousing.

for me, putting my arms around a person (same or opposite sex) is not sexually arousing, frenching a woman to me is sexually arousing.

 

[Platypus]

everyone's afraid of being labled :roll:

 

[hevnsnt]

Um.. I wouldn't hold my friends hand.

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
everyone's afraid of being labled :roll:

Nah, I enjoy being labeled. It fuels me and my ultra left wing pink fascists war machine which will one day take over this world, and subvert your ideals and morals. By the way, we've come up with a name for our militia, "Hate Straight."

 

[AFB]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
everyone's afraid of being labled :roll:

Resistance is futile.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
everyone's afraid of being labled :roll:

they can call me gay if they like. i know my sexual orientation and they can believe what they want.

the fact that we can't even post thoughts like this is really telling.

it says volumes about how we feel about expressing desires for male intimacy.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
everyone's afraid of being labled :roll:

True.

Sexual orientation is not defined by the actions a person performs, but instead by the relative gender of people he or she is sexually attracted to.

 

[Atrail]

Arm around the shoulder and hug don't bother me for close friends and family, but hold hands... For no reason... Why? Only time that has happend is during a prayer or something and no that doesn't bother me in those circumstances.

 

[hevnsnt]

I don't think that males are really that intimate to begin with.

 

[shimsham]

ive never met a straight guy that would walk around holding hands with another man that wasnt his father/son/brother. if its a family member, i have no problem with it. i hug and put my arms aroung my good friends also. but you just dont hold hands with another man; too much intimacy to be purely platonic.

 

[Bulk Beef]

Would you give a guy a foot massage?

 

[monk3y]

I have no problems doing things like holding hands and putting my hand around friends in India but that's because it's almost like it's 'allowed' there. It's fine for both parties. I know the other person would probably be really uncomfortable if I did that here.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: hevnsnt
I don't think that males are really that intimate to begin with.

males have a resistance with intimacy that's true because it shows weakness and we are inbred not to show weakness.

BUT that does not mean that men don't desire or need intimacy. all humans need and desire intimacy.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: hevnsnt
I don't think that males are really that intimate to begin with.

bingo. we dont need or want that type of intimacy with another man. thats why we(hetero men) like women.

 

[jjones]

I have no problem putting a hand on a friend or family, putting an arm around their shoulder, or giving them a hug upon greeting them, but I draw the line at holding hands and walking hand in hand. That's a bit too much for me; might as well be spooning with them too.

 

[Bowmaster]

dude - are you coming on to me?

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold

Originally posted by: hevnsnt
I don't think that males are really that intimate to begin with.

males have a resistance with intimacy that's true because it shows weakness and we are inbred not to show weakness.

BUT that does not mean that men don't desire or need intimacy. all humans need and desire intimacy.

You're inbred?

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: sward666
Would you give a guy a foot massage?

yes, if he needed it.

i've given guys massages. back, shoulders, hands, head.

i'm wasn't aroused by it and neither were they.

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: jjones
I have no problem putting a hand on a friend or family, putting an arm around their shoulder, or giving them a hug upon greeting them, but I draw the line at holding hands and walking hand in hand. That's a bit too much for me; might as well be spooning with them too.

You don't ever have trouble going to sleep and just want someone to snuggle?

 

[FuZoR]

arms around shoulder.. hug fine.. if they are really good friends and family...

hold hands??? umm no sorry.

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: sward666
Would you give a guy a foot massage?

Fvck you.


Just keeping the quote train rollin'.

 

[hjo3]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
how many of you here are comfortable holding another guys hands, walking hand in hand or putting your arms around a guys shoulder?

I don't think even gay guys would do that unless they were flirting with or dating the other guy (or maybe if they were super-flamboyant). It's just weird.