Making a move on the dance floor

[slackerinabox]

Yeah, i'm pathetic and am 25 and don't know how to do it. I was dancing with this very cute girl at a party during the weekend and I wasn't sure how to make a move without making her feel weird. we were dancing for over an hour and having a great time, but i didn't feel right putting my hands on her - should I have just done it or is there a slicker way to go about such?

yeah, yeah - tease away. but i never would dance in public before so i'm getting there, slowly, but getting there.

 

[fustercluck]

I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: jacktackle
I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

i danced for like 5 hours that night - was insanely fun.. you gotta be kinda drunk and the music has to be fast.. i never got it until I just let go and danced, not caring if anyone laughs at me... it's also a great work out - 400 calories an hour x 5 - 400 calories worth of drinks.. well, it's a good way to get my sunday work outs out of the way..

 

[swtethan]

dude its a club, feel her up

 

[Hammerhead]

Originally posted by: jacktackle
I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

Paul Van Dyk in D.C. - We danced from 1:00 am to 5:00 a.m.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: jacktackle
I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

In real ballroom dancing, you press your body (anywhere from thighs to chest, depending on body shape) up close to the body of an attractive woman (anywhere from thighs to chest, depending on body shape) for an extended period of time. Heck, the women WANT you to share with other women. So, when you go dancing, you press your body intimately close to a half dozen attractive women. Thus, I've never understood why men DON'T want to dance (especially the computer nerds around ATOT).

Sorry for hijacking your thread, freedomsbeat212. I can't answer your question since it sounds like you are talking about nightclub dancing which is completely different. My best guess is that if she was dancing with you for more than an hour, she WANTS you to be closer (how far she wants you to go will of course depend on the woman).

 

[mercanucaribe]

Originally posted by: jacktackle
I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

I've been to one dance party, and it's pretty cool when you're drunk and high (on life of course) and grinding on onion booties.

 

[Atheus]

Originally posted by: jacktackle
I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

MDMA dude, one little pill will change your mind

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Atheus

Originally posted by: jacktackle
I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

MDMA dude, one little pill will change your mind

hahahahahhahahahahahahaha.. so true.. very illegal and very, very bad (shame on you!) but soooo true...

 

[gigapet]

your job as a man is to take control.

Grab her hand and pull her gently to you, wrap hands around waste commence grinding or dancing or whatever.

Then calibrate from their. If she isnt pulling herself away that means you can kick it up a notch. Give it 5 minutes of heated gyrating then go for the kiss.

 

[notfred]

If you're drunk, this should be easy. Just do whatever it is you feel like doing. Reach around her and put your hand on her back. It's not really that hard, she's not going to think you're some kind of pervert because you touched her while dancing.

Once your hand is on her back, pull her close to you.

 

[purbeast0]

Originally posted by: jacktackle
I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

this statement definitely doesn't surprise me coming from these forums and someone who has their computer specs in their signature.

 

[BigToque]

I'm going to be the first to say, congrats on actually getting on the dance floor.

That said, don't worry about the "when to do this" / "how do i do this" stuff. Everyone talks about dating/relationships/talking to the opposite sex as a game that needs to be played out. That's BS.

If you want to touch the girl on the hips or back, go for it. You'll either get rejected or accepted. If you want to impress her, try to do it with a little style. Find a way to incorporate the touching into the music.

 

[CStan]

Dancing at a club is great. What I do is usually I find a group of girls and start dancing around them, wait for someone to show interest, and then isolate them on the dance floor. I prefer hip hop to dance, since its slower beats, and usually more interesting and irregular beats to dance to. THe key is vibing to the beat with small movements in your shoulders feet and hips. Nothing to crazy. then look at the girl you're interested in, guage her reaction and go from there. She'll move in closer (if she backs in to me, i'll grind with her, then try to turn her around, if she fronts you, then its gravy.) WHen dancing with a girl, do subtle movements, kinda shadowing/supporting her rhythm. THere should be plenty of body contact in this stage. with your arms, move them to the beat, in front of you, so youre brushing against the girls, toucing her arms and hips. REemeber not to do this too fast. you should be able to read the girl to see if she's interested. My favourite move: when you're facing her, and have plenty of kino going, grab her armsand put them around your neck, all while dacning to the beat. THen a kiss close is usually < 1min away from that point.

Of course the more rhythm you have, and the more "experience" you have the better you will be. But basically you have to use your whole body to move sublty to the music. If you suck, take some latin ballroom classes, it should teach you to use your hips and follow the music.

 

[Mr Pickles]

You could just say you are tired and sit down with her and then work the mojo.

 

[kyzen]

Originally posted by: MrLee
You could just say you are tired and sit down with her and then work the mojo.

Exactly. Say you're thirsty, offer to buy her a drink. At that point she knows you're not some lame guy who just sits and watches everybody else; and that she can either talk with you at the bar, or drag you back out to dance.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: gigapet
your job as a man is to take control.

Grab her hand and pull her gently to you, wrap hands around waste commence grinding or dancing or whatever.

Then calibrate from their. If she isnt pulling herself away that means you can kick it up a notch. Give it 5 minutes of heated gyrating then go for the kiss.

Notes taken - will apply on Saturday.

THANKS!

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: jacktackle
I've never understood why people dance anyways, especially for over an hour...is it really that fun? I've never been interested. Unless you count Dance Dance revolution, which you shouldn't.

:thumbsup:

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: BigToque
I'm going to be the first to say, congrats on actually getting on the dance floor.

That said, don't worry about the "when to do this" / "how do i do this" stuff. Everyone talks about dating/relationships/talking to the opposite sex as a game that needs to be played out. That's BS.

If you want to touch the girl on the hips or back, go for it. You'll either get rejected or accepted. If you want to impress her, try to do it with a little style. Find a way to incorporate the touching into the music.

thanks man... You know, my dad nearly died a few weeks ago and it really changed my perspective... I lost 30 pounds since then, started dancing even though I used to be terrified of being mocked, and last week I had the balls to even start dancing with a stranger... though i'm still so behind, i gotta get the balls to make "take control" as gigapet said.... baby steps, baby steps i appreciate the kind words!

 

[Atlantean]

A lot of girls will just put your hands on them... if they do that then take it as a sign and do whatever you want... if they put your hands on them then you know they want you and the very least you will get is a date and a phone number (if you are so inclined).