Made a kid cry today

SandEagle

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some background info. due to my schedule, i get very little sleep, around 5 hours a day. i am up by 5:30 AM most days. i come home and take a power nap anywhere from 4 to 7 PM. i have a little one who naps at this time too so it works out.

now, my neighbors kid, rings my bell every frikkin day (she comes over 10 minutes after school is done, wtf, to play with my older kid). My older one studies and does homework til 7.

I told my neighbor's kid 100 times not to come over before 7. i told her today when i saw her after work. At 5, while i am in deep sleep, lo and behold the bell rings. fffuuuuu. i opened the door half asleep and angry and told the little girl 'for the 100th time, dont ring the bell 7!" i then shut the door and tried to go to sleep again. nope, my little one is up too because of the doorbell.

anyhoo, 10 minutes later my neighbor stops by and asks why his kids is crying. i tell him that his kid doesnt listen. shit, she runs around the neighborhood and darts through streets without looking sometimes. i ask him to keep a closer eye on her and tell her to come back at 7. i dont want that little 7 year old drama queen coming over anymore. am i a mean, grumpy old man or what?

cliffs:
- i made a kid cry today
 

Soundmanred

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Oct 26, 2006
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She probably didn't understand what "for the 100th time, don't ring the bell 7" meant. Most people don't have more than 1 bell.
Furthermore, you said you had already told her 100 times, then when you told her again, it was the 100th time (again).
Stop trying to confuse children.
You make as much sense in real life as you do here, that's quite an accomplishment.
She's probably as surprised as we all are that you have children of your own.
 

highland145

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Should have boiled and eaten her. That'll teach the parents that they're doing it wrong.
 

OlafSicky

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She probably can't count and tell time. Kids are impulsive and to her the right time is the time she want's to play. You were wrong in what you did. When explaining the kid to show up at 7 you should have shown her on the clock what that looks like.
 

CVSiN

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I may be a cranky asshole.. but even that makes me angry.. don't snap at a little girl that way..
 

M0RPH

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So your kids have just gotten out of school and they need to sit there in silence studying for another 3 hours just because you insist on taking a nap in the middle of the day. Seems pretty self-absorbed to me.

Why can't your kid have a friend over after school? Why do you need to be the one that answers the door? If you're a light sleeper taking naps in the middle of the day, you gotta understand you're gonna get woken up sometimes. Like someone else said, get some earplugs or something.

And yeah, yelling at the neighbors kid is a pretty dicky thing to do.
 

Wheezer

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Are you an asshole? Probably to that little dumbass but you handled it just right IMO.

It's a good thing to instill just a little bit of fear and intimidation in children...lets them know who's boss.
 

Perknose

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you have kids? that's scary

What's more, he posted here a little while ago saying he was considering adopting a special needs kid. o_O

However, I am sympathetic to the OP on this one. He acted poorly, but it's "kinda" understandable under the circumstances.

What he should have done before is now what has happened. Her parents are apprised that you sleep between 4 and 7 and they can now sit down with her and patiently make sure she understands she's not to ring your bell before 7.

But OP, I do hope you feel bad about making that little girl cry. You really shouldn't have let your robe fly open like that while you were yelling at her. She's now gonna' have . . . "questions."
 

PieIsAwesome

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So your kids have just gotten out of school and they need to sit there in silence studying for another 3 hours just because you insist on taking a nap in the middle of the day. Seems pretty self-absorbed to me.

Why can't your kid have a friend over after school? Why do you need to be the one that answers the door? If you're a light sleeper taking naps in the middle of the day, you gotta understand you're gonna get woken up sometimes. Like someone else said, get some earplugs or something.

And yeah, yelling at the neighbors kid is a pretty dicky thing to do.

Yeah, wtf, that sucks.

OP, didn't you do something similar before to some women at the mall or store or something, and you wanted to give them $100? Give the girl $100.
 

angminas

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If I tell a kid not to ring my doorbell before 7, they better not ring my doorbell before 7. The kid's not made of glass, I have a right to sleep, and it's MY doorbell. You people sound like he took a golf club to her.

He didn't make her cry- her parents made her cry by not teaching her to pay attention when an adult talks. It wasn't fifteen minutes early, it was TWO HOURS, and he'd told her many times. Seven years old and can't respect other people's property or handle extremely simple instructions? I could handle "don't do X before X" when I was three or four.

However, there are better solutions. Did you tell the kid you're sleeping during that time? Did you ever go talk to her parents? Why don't you tell your kid to go over to their place instead?
 

Lemon law

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What a simple to solve problem. Can't you think?

The kid next door does not want to wake you in any way, she just wants to hangout with one of your children.

So grow a brain and learn to think, devise a way for your neighbor to communicate with your children, such that she gets a yes no without waking you in the process. After all, your children have privacy rights too. But if they want to interact with your neighbor, you can win win sleep through it.
 
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If I tell a kid not to ring my doorbell before 7, they better not ring my doorbell before 7. The kid's not made of glass, I have a right to sleep, and it's MY doorbell. You people sound like he took a golf club to her.

He didn't make her cry- her parents made her cry by not teaching her to pay attention when an adult talks. It wasn't fifteen minutes early, it was TWO HOURS, and he'd told her many times. Seven years old and can't respect other people's property or handle extremely simple instructions? I could handle "don't do X before X" when I was three or four.

However, there are better solutions. Did you tell the kid you're sleeping during that time? Did you ever go talk to her parents? Why don't you tell your kid to go over to their place instead?

This.
 

ioni

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She probably can't count and tell time. Kids are impulsive and to her the right time is the time she want's to play. You were wrong in what you did. When explaining the kid to show up at 7 you should have shown her on the clock what that looks like.

If a 7 year old is that stupid, s/he should be wearing a helmet. 7 is 2nd grade. You learn to tell time in 1st.
 

Doppel

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Good. Some kids are straight retarded, it's ok this one will get over it.