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Love does not last longer than one year

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ROME (Reuters) - Your heartbeat accelerates, you have butterflies in the stomach, you feel euphoric and a bit silly. It's all part of falling passionately in love -- and scientists now tell us the feeling won't last more than a year.

The powerful emotions that bowl over new lovers are triggered by a molecule known as nerve growth factor (NGF), according to Pavia University researchers.

The Italian scientists found far higher levels of NGF in the blood of 58 people who had recently fallen madly in love than in that of a group of singles and people in long-term relationships.

But after a year with the same lover, the quantity of the 'love molecule' in their blood had fallen to the same level as that of the other groups.

The Italian researchers, publishing their study in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology, said it was not clear how falling in love triggers higher levels of NGF, but the molecule clearly has an important role in the "social chemistry" between people at the start of a relationship.
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Love lasts more than a year. Falling in love may not, but love itself does. You can only fall so far before you are there.
 
Yep the initial chemical rush is over in a yr but I read another study that shows a different type of chemical reaction occurs in long term love.
It's why a lot of older people die in a relatively short time of their long term partner passing.
 
Originally posted by: sixone
"Familiarity breeds contempt." I think Ben Franklin said that, and it's true. 🙁
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It's just an idiom. A quick google search finds no specific author... Mark Twain commented on it.
 
Originally posted by: desy
Yep the initial chemical rush is over in a yr but I read another study that shows a different type of chemical reaction occurs in long term love.
It's why a lot of older people die in a relatively short time of their long term partner passing.
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That's so sad. When people give up when they lose someone.
But after that long, It's really like losing a part of yourself.
Ahhh love.
 
Yeah, I'd have to say that's pretty much true, actually. I admit that the *first* girl I ever fell in love with sometimes still makes me get all pitter-pattery when I think of her (odd given that we had an unpleasant breakup), but not a single one since has given me that same sense for more than a few months.

It's like Scotty said in that episode of Next Generation:

"It's like the first time you fall in love; you don't ever love a woman quite like that again. When it's gone...it's gone."

Sad, but true.

Jason
 
scientifically the feeling you get when you're first in love is from an adrenaline like substance that your brain releases. However after a whilethe brain starts to release an opiate like compound. That's why breaking up can literally hurt so much. Being in love after a long time is literally an addiction.
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
a good book on the topic. explains why all you fools constanstly feel that one girl is SOOOOOOOOO Special.


http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/067100...9428-1831824?s=books&v=glance&n=283155
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LOL, I remember thinking that the first time...the second...the third...and then I realized you know, there are certain "special" things about any girl you're with, but in the end there are always other fish in the sea. I have yet to meet a woman that I couldn't live without, though I admit that the first couple I did feel that way for. Turned out I was wrong!

Jason
 
Originally posted by: loic2003
love != infatuation
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Infatuation = unreasoned love.
Love = infatuation with added reasons.

Experience shows that you are only "in love" for up to 1-2 years. After that period, you choose to love. Many books have been written about this.
 
I love my kids just as much, if not more now - one is 5 the other 9. This is talking about romantic 'love', which we all know is fleeting anyway. True love lasts.
 
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