- Dec 1, 2000
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For those of you who presented some advice to me a month or so ago when I was really down in the dumps about a big fight with the girlfriend... thanks.
Everything turned out alright, and we've had some discussion about what we can do to avoid fights... and we're currently in another, smaller one.
I guess what I want is a neutral opinion... I'm obviously not perfect, and neither is she.
Basically she's always doing things that get under my skin. If it were coming from a friend, it wouldn't bother me, but because we're together so often, these things start to become bigger deals than they should be. Does anyone else have problems like this with SOs?
For instance, she never carries cash with her. She pays with debit everywhere... including attempts to pay with debit at places that only take cash. Guess who always covers for her? Me. I'm not cheap -- I always buy her lots of things and often pay for things, but that's of my own free will. It's annoying that I'm always SUPPOSED to carry cash to bail her out. Often I'm only carrying a little bit, and that means I can't buy what I need because I end up paying for her things.
When she does have cash, she's always trying to pay with exact change, even if there's some huge line and a stressed out cashier in front of her. I know what it's like to have a lot of people staring at you impatiently, and I always feel sorry for the cashier when she does this to them. I guess I'm just more aware of the situation around me, and usually more eager to get out of it.
I realize it's stupid to get stressed out about these sorts of things -- don't sweat the small stuff, right? But it happens all the time and I mention it all the time -- carry cash, don't hold up long lines, know what you want before you get to the cashier, etc.
Obviously what she tells me is "don't get angry at me over nothing", etc.
So I guess I'd like people to take sides on the issue of "small things adding up"... (is that like asking to be flamed?... flame me then, if I deserve it)
Everything turned out alright, and we've had some discussion about what we can do to avoid fights... and we're currently in another, smaller one.
I guess what I want is a neutral opinion... I'm obviously not perfect, and neither is she.
Basically she's always doing things that get under my skin. If it were coming from a friend, it wouldn't bother me, but because we're together so often, these things start to become bigger deals than they should be. Does anyone else have problems like this with SOs?
For instance, she never carries cash with her. She pays with debit everywhere... including attempts to pay with debit at places that only take cash. Guess who always covers for her? Me. I'm not cheap -- I always buy her lots of things and often pay for things, but that's of my own free will. It's annoying that I'm always SUPPOSED to carry cash to bail her out. Often I'm only carrying a little bit, and that means I can't buy what I need because I end up paying for her things.
When she does have cash, she's always trying to pay with exact change, even if there's some huge line and a stressed out cashier in front of her. I know what it's like to have a lot of people staring at you impatiently, and I always feel sorry for the cashier when she does this to them. I guess I'm just more aware of the situation around me, and usually more eager to get out of it.
I realize it's stupid to get stressed out about these sorts of things -- don't sweat the small stuff, right? But it happens all the time and I mention it all the time -- carry cash, don't hold up long lines, know what you want before you get to the cashier, etc.
Obviously what she tells me is "don't get angry at me over nothing", etc.
So I guess I'd like people to take sides on the issue of "small things adding up"... (is that like asking to be flamed?... flame me then, if I deserve it)