looks, how important are they in a relationship

[cucumber]

Yeah. If your guy is trying to make you look like some other girl he likes get rid of him right away. That's pretty fvcked up.

I find that if I am really into a girl , even if she didn't start off looking so hot, the more I know her and like her, the better she looks. For me it's not so much not caring about looks. It's more that I do actually find them more attractive once I fall for them.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Yeah, get rid of him. I mean, hey... I'm single!

 

[bleeb]

Good luck.

 

[nan0bug]

I can understand a guy putting up protest if you've always had long hair and wanted to cut it really short or something. Thats a huge change in appearance and I've been there. However any guy whos basically trying to tell you how to dress, how to style your hair, and doing it on a regular basis is a loser and if he can't accept you for who you are then you should kick him to the curb.

Edit:
mandatory link

 

[Gurck]

If you post pics FFMCobalt will call you ugly (you're not Lindsay Lohan), and a few of his followers might as well - I'd recommend against it. Knowing he's full of it and mentally 12 years old probably won't help; it's a very hurtful insult.

 

[DeeKnow]

i'd say dump him... let him go after whoever he's trying to make you look like

 

[vivy310]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
Yeah, get rid of him. I mean, hey... I'm single!

(wink wink)

 

[vivy310]

i am not posting pictures. I am scared to

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: vivy310
i am not posting pictures. I am scared to

C'mon! Grow a pair!


Oh wait...

 

[OCNewbie]

I'd have to say that looks have very little to do with a healthy relationship, at least once the relationship is in gear. Relationships that are to last are about having a real connection with another person. Merely being mutually attracted to someone does not equal a connection. Having a connection would require you to share common interests. Having a real interest in reinforcing the goals your significant other has set for themselves, and they the same in you. Trust, honesty, all the typical things, those are the foundations of a strong relationship.

 

[Modeps]

People that dont say that looks matter are full of it. Honestly, if you cant stand to look at your SO, then you're gonna have problems. You have to like what you see, even if it's maybe not what everyone else sees. Call me shallow or whatever, but aint no way I was gonna marry someone that I didnt want to jump every 2 seconds... and I did! and I do.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: vivy310
trust me on this, i am not bad looking.
Plus, I have seen the jokes people on anandtech made at the expense of those that post their pictures online. I feel terrible right now...maybe in the future when i have more guts

Originally posted by: Xiety
first, pics?
second, looks are important to some degree (for all of us).
third, your boyfriend sounds like an ass (he is not over that girl)
fourth, cheers! :beer:

Any gal that post pics here is a masochist because all the greasy faced dweeb virginal wankers will pick her apart. Now that's not saying all the members here are dweeb virginal greasy faced wankers, just those who seem to be very critical of the pics that women do post here of themselves .

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: Modeps
People that dont say that looks matter are full of it. Honestly, if you cant stand to look at your SO, then you're gonna have problems. You have to like what you see, even if it's maybe not what everyone else sees. Call me shallow or whatever, but aint no way I was gonna marry someone that I didnt want to jump every 2 seconds... and I did! and I do.

*nods*

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: vivy310
trust me on this, i am not bad looking.
Plus, I have seen the jokes people on anandtech made at the expense of those that post their pictures online. I feel terrible right now...maybe in the future when i have more guts

Originally posted by: Xiety
first, pics?
second, looks are important to some degree (for all of us).
third, your boyfriend sounds like an ass (he is not over that girl)
fourth, cheers! :beer:

Any gal that post pics here is a masochist because all the greasy faced dweeb virginal wankers will pick her apart. Now that's not saying all the members here are dweeb virginal greasy faced wankers, just those who seem to be very critical of the pics that women do post here of themselves .

In other words, FFMCobalt

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: cucumber
Yeah. If your guy is trying to make you look like some other girl he likes get rid of him right away. That's pretty fvcked up.

I find that if I am really into a girl , even if she didn't start off looking so hot, the more I know her and like her, the better she looks. For me it's not so much not caring about looks. It's more that I do actually find them more attractive once I fall for them.

I agree with all of that. If a chick is cool, even if she was kind of 'blah' to begin with I start thinking she's a fox. Thats why men and women can't be friends also.

 

[Geekbabe]

Get rid of him,I spent years married to somebody who prefered short,dark gals and lemmie tell you if they start out dissing you about things about yourself that you can't change it only gets worse over time and not better.

 

[TheAudit]

Originally posted by: theNEOone
well initially it's an extremely important factor - in fact, probably the only factor. but after a while looks are less and less important. unless of course, your SO becomes a complete slob.


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Agreed.

Originally posted by: oogabooga
they arn't the most important thing of the relationship. Physical attraction (or at least lack of disgust i suppose) should be there. If he's molding you to look like that other girl? i'd be worried.

So would I.