I'm a freshman in college, and I've been living here, with my roommate, for almost two months now. I love school, but I'm having some problems with my roommate and I'm looking for advice.
Him and I definitely do not get along. I'm social, and like to go out, and he stays to himself, and goes home (he lives ~30 min away) EVERY single weekend. Recently, he's been going home during the week as well. Not my business, though. What really bugs me about him is how rude he is to me. Doesn't say hi when he walks in, never acknowledges me. Two nights ago, I come into the room at around 11 and he's in bed watching TV. I ask him if having my desk light on would distract him. He says that even just having my laptop SCREEN on (lowest brightness) prevents him from sleeping. I can't really control needing to stay up later to study, so his attitude is unnecessary.
That's not the real issue, though. The biggest thing is that I'm an asshole. I'm just going to go ahead and say it. Two nights ago, my friends and I were in the hallway, and we were all making fun of him. Mean stuff, and completely unnecessary. High-school level kind of stuff. Stuff that we should have gotten over when we got to college...making fun of his weight (man tits), having no friends, etc. Really fvcked up.
I walked into my room later that night, and he said "you shouldn't make fun of me so loudly." I apologized the next morning, but obviously, and understandably, he didn't accept, and walked out of the room upset. We haven't talked since, and he slept at home last night.
Where do I go from here? A friend of mine told me a few weeks ago that he wanted to switch dorms (before anything happened), because the quad outside our window was too loud for him to sleep. I'm not sure if he is still trying to switch though. I've been trying to get in touch with my RD (resident director), but he's kind of hard to find, and my RA didn't help much at all. When I went to him after I found out my roommate heard what we said, he said "just say you were drunk."
Long story for something trivial, but I honestly feel we may have really upset this kid to the point where he might want to transfer/drop out/etc. Is there anything I can do at this point?
Oh, and save the "you're an asshole" comments. I get it.
UPDATE: He's moving out tomorrow to another dorm. Problem solved.
Him and I definitely do not get along. I'm social, and like to go out, and he stays to himself, and goes home (he lives ~30 min away) EVERY single weekend. Recently, he's been going home during the week as well. Not my business, though. What really bugs me about him is how rude he is to me. Doesn't say hi when he walks in, never acknowledges me. Two nights ago, I come into the room at around 11 and he's in bed watching TV. I ask him if having my desk light on would distract him. He says that even just having my laptop SCREEN on (lowest brightness) prevents him from sleeping. I can't really control needing to stay up later to study, so his attitude is unnecessary.
That's not the real issue, though. The biggest thing is that I'm an asshole. I'm just going to go ahead and say it. Two nights ago, my friends and I were in the hallway, and we were all making fun of him. Mean stuff, and completely unnecessary. High-school level kind of stuff. Stuff that we should have gotten over when we got to college...making fun of his weight (man tits), having no friends, etc. Really fvcked up.
I walked into my room later that night, and he said "you shouldn't make fun of me so loudly." I apologized the next morning, but obviously, and understandably, he didn't accept, and walked out of the room upset. We haven't talked since, and he slept at home last night.
Where do I go from here? A friend of mine told me a few weeks ago that he wanted to switch dorms (before anything happened), because the quad outside our window was too loud for him to sleep. I'm not sure if he is still trying to switch though. I've been trying to get in touch with my RD (resident director), but he's kind of hard to find, and my RA didn't help much at all. When I went to him after I found out my roommate heard what we said, he said "just say you were drunk."
Long story for something trivial, but I honestly feel we may have really upset this kid to the point where he might want to transfer/drop out/etc. Is there anything I can do at this point?
Oh, and save the "you're an asshole" comments. I get it.
UPDATE: He's moving out tomorrow to another dorm. Problem solved.
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