I just read a review that said the new Highlander's 3rd row is tight. Did you notice that?
It is for kids, not adults. Plenty roomy for them, and it has childseat anchors, which IIRC is rare for 3rd row.
My wife test drove the 2014 (XLE trim) this weekend, and fell in love. Looks like I am on the hook for one. Car sites make fun of how boringly practical it is, but Toyota knows what the hell they are doing. I watched helplessly as the highlander checked off every item on her list save 30+ mpg hwy, and that fell by the wayside when she saw the sheetmetal and interior trim & features. The only thing it didnt have was the 360 camera system like the new rogue (a car that was on her list til she found out you cannot get both leather and 3rd row, it's either/or).
I just wish it had been out for a couple years so I could get her a lightly used one. I hate paying the premium for a brand new car, especially 1st model year.