Life still a bit of a mess, still need some advice

[Yax]

Well, hang out with the new chick. Turn down the ex. Hanging out with the ex as friends would just suck for you and be awkward, but invite her over to your place on the weekend for some booty call though. Keep her satisfied so she doesn't have to go elsewhere for it.

 

[dabuddha]

Why does she want to hang out with you? To make herself feel better for dumping you because she cheated on you behind your back and never told you about it?
*looks both ways*

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Why does she want to hang out with you? To make herself feel better for dumping you because she cheated on you behind your back and never told you about it?
*looks both ways*

Oh, we were talking and she said that she was very stressed out and needed to relax during the weekend (she's in columbia and midterms week is torture there, supposedly).. she asked what I was doing and I said the usual "nada" and she asked if I wanted to see a movie with her on friday.. She didn't cheat on me- she wouldn't have the time..

 

[kermalou]

you do not eat something you have thrown up, unless you are sick like that.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: kermalou
you do not eat something you have thrown up, unless you are sick like that.

huh?

 

[stonecold3169]

Honestly? I'm going to give the opposite response of everyone else and say hang with the ex. 7 years is a long, long time, in my opinion, to throw away over what may have been just a few stressed out months on BOTH your parts. Now, don't just give in to whatever sort of deal she might offer you, but be receptive if you guys start to fall back into something, and keep trying to build relations with the friend too.

 

[slackerinabox]

*Update*
So now I had a falling out with my best friend as well.. Sheesh, it's not my month... We were always writing partners since highschool and I let him be my co-director on the shorts I film for the longest time. Lately he's just been hanging out and complained everytime he needed to do anywork so I explained that I'd like to try someone else (Joyce, my film school partner).. He was fine with it until all of a sudden.. Now, as the first shoot that he's not a part of comes up, he said that I'm doing sh1t behind his back and being rude... I don't know where his anger comes from - I still like hanging out with him and get drunk but do I have to work with him, even if he's totally lazy???

To be clear, I've tried time and again to explain that he has to put 110% if he wants to work with me and that our friendship is seperate from our shoots.. I told him to only help if he wants to and that I could easily find another co-director (I didn't say it in a rude way, I just said that he's not obligated to do this)... For 4 straight productions he's either fallen asleep or went out to drinks during the shoot.. I never got mad at him, I just looked for another co-director.. and now he's furious... am i in the wrong here?

 

[kermalou]

clear something up here
1. your gf dumps you
2. your best friend (not lover) dumps you?

if that is the case, maybe you should be looking at yourself.....not others.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: kermalou
clear something up here
1. your gf dumps you
2. your best friend (not lover) dumps you?

if that is the case, maybe you should be looking at yourself.....not others.

If you read my thread I admit to being on edge and stressed and admit that I need to change a bit and relax.. My problem with my friend is directly work related.. He's pissed that I won't accept his laziness because he's my friend... I don't expect it of him - everyone has their different desires.. but he asked me to co-direct and has consistantly flaked out on me.. I've never yelled, never gotten mean about it.. I'm just picking someone who i know can deliver.. Is that really wrong?

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: kermalou
clear something up here
1. your gf dumps you
2. your best friend (not lover) dumps you?

if that is the case, maybe you should be looking at yourself.....not others.

If you read my thread I admit to being on edge and stressed and admit that I need to change a bit and relax.. My problem with my friend is directly work related.. He's pissed that I won't accept his laziness because he's my friend... I don't expect it of him - everyone has their different desires.. but he asked me to co-direct and has consistantly flaked out on me.. I've never yelled, never gotten mean about it.. I'm just picking someone who i know can deliver.. Is that really wrong?

Never hire friends, you should've known that. Keep the lesson to heart and move on. Your best friend will forgive you in time. The ex thing, don't become friends with her as the friend zone is very hard to get out of. If you're gonna be friends with her, make sure you're still gettin it, otherwise, you'd be better off lettin it cool so later you can reignite the sparks.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
This thread outlines my miserable life lately... The quick summary is that after nearly 7 years together my gf dumps me because I've been stressed out and on edge lately. I deserved it, yes, but I felt dumping me was a bit drastic.... Anyway, so one week later and I'm getting very close to a friend of mine -I don't see any sparks and there never may be, but I do feel an emotional connection. I've hung out with her twice since getting dumped and want to again this friday - but my ex wants to hang out with me as well. What should I do? Should I attempt to patch things up with my ex or should I give her a little more time to just chill out? Should I hang out with my friend or with my ex? Since my ex wants to hang out as "friends" should i invite my other friend? I figured that would be pretty awkward... Well, any advice, wise wizards?

The girl you have the new "emotional attachment" to....she's a rebound. Dont fool yourself.
As far as your ex, seven years is a long time. So I'd say to meet up with her and see whats going on.
I do think that her reaction to your being stressed out lately was a bit harsh, considering that you have been together for 7 years.