or (3) They have made contact, just not with you, or maybe they have, but you are not capable of comprehending it.
Most people have a very narrow view of what life is, especially when it comes to intelligent life. Just imagine what life would be like if you didnt have eyes or ears. Well, that is how we are to advanced forms of life. How exactly does an advanced form of life interface with us when when from their point of view we do not have eyes or ears? The answer is simply: very carefully. Again, imagine trying to communicate with someone who is deaf and blind. You may both be very intelligent, but you are extremely limited in your methods of communication. They would have to be built up over time, and by time I mean possibly several generations or even millenia.
You have to imagine what it would be like to live on what we would think of as a different plane or spectrum of existence. Imagine if you were an advanced form of life and all your "eyes" could see is neurons. You have traveled the galaxy searching for neural activity, and you come across a planet that contains several trillion isolated pockets of neural activity, some larger, some smaller. That is all your senses tell you. You dont see the world the way we see it, with herds of animals migrating or herds of humans gathered in cities. All you are capable of sensing and interfacing with is the neural activity. How would you communicate? Well, you might find the most advanced cluster of neurons, say an Albert Einstein, and you might begin tapping out the prime number sequence inside their neural net. What effect would this have on Albert Einstein? Who knows. You might conduct all sorts of different experiments and then wait hundreds of our years for any results. Eventually, a blind and deaf person could create a mental construct of our visual reality, but it would take a long time and a good deal of intelligence. The point is that you have to have that mental construct in order to communicate.