Life goes on indeed

[skyking]

Yesterday we gathered in a hospital room, and listened to my aunt rally back to her sarcastic usual humor. She and her husband of 55 years, tough old birds, had stoically battled what they thought was the flu. It was deadly viral pneumonia, and Uncle collapsed on the way to the hospital and they never got him back.
We laughed at her humor, and cried a bit outside the room. For her the grieving had not begun.
The four of us had spend a spring week on the Big Island Hawaii off and on for many years in their timeshare. We were going in late April again.
"Do you still want to take me to Hawaii?" <Do you still love me, without uncle?>
"Of course, auntie"

Life goes on indeed.

 

[Bryophyte]

Sorry for your loss. It must be really hard to have lost two people so close to you in such a short time.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: skyking
Yesterday we gathered in a hospital room, and listened to my aunt rally back to her sarcastic usual humor. She and her husband of 55 years, tough old birds, had stoically battled what they thought was the flu. It was deadly viral pneumonia, and Uncle collapsed on the way to the hospital and they never got him back.
We laughed at her humor, and cried a bit outside the room. For her the grieving had not begun.
The four of us had spend a spring week on the Big Island Hawaii off and on for many years in their timeshare. We were going in late April again.
"Do you still want to take me to Hawaii?" <Do you still love me, without uncle?>
"Of course, auntie"

Life goes on indeed.

what a moving way of telling us about your loss.

condolences and hugs for you and your aunt.

 

[Accipiter22]

I'm sorry, you worded your OP so well though, it's amazing how distress can bring out amazing ability in people.

 

[Platypus]

Sorry for your loss, your aunt sounds like a great woman.

 

[skyking]

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Sorry for your loss. It must be really hard to have lost two people so close to you in such a short time.

Thank you Serena. Let's just say this year has a lot of room now for improvement
It is difficult but different. I dumped out so much grief with Slim. His death was so sudden and sad.
Uncle was visibly frail, had diabetes, heart attacks, bypass surgery.
You knew all the time with him was borrowed time, and we cherished it by the moment.

 

[DainBramaged]

 

[Accipiter22]

"The night is here and the day is gone
And the world spins madly on

I thought of you and where you'd gone
And the world spins madly on."

The Weepies "World Spins Madly On"

 

[skyking]

Thank you all for your kind words. They mean a great deal to me really. I make these threads to write it down, I think, and to get it out. I will be writing excerpts from my family's recollections of uncle, and would appreciate using you as a sounding board. I will likely read them in his Eulogy.

First draft, The strong helping hand

'Auntie was having a terrible time with the pregnancy with the twins, and she and her two children aged 3 1/2 and 18 months came to stay with us for three weeks. Our house was full of our 3 girls and 2 boys, her children, and Bob and I.
Uncle would come in from a day's work as a CPA wearing the standard issue of the day, a suit, tie and white shirt. He'd quietly take off his coat and tie, roll up his sleeves, and go to work. He'd cook, clean, do the dishes, change a diaper on a baby be it mine or his. He just worked at whatever needed done without question. When it got late he'd pick up his suit and go home to the empty house and do the chores there and ready for work the next day. He felt there was not enough room for him in our crowded house.'

Mom's recollections, Fall of 1958

 

[Frintin]

Wishing you peace during a hard time.

"Gather memories while you can."

 

[Toonces]

wow, amazing eulogy as is
he seems like an amazing person

 

[Perknose]

Just happened to come accross this old thread somehow in my late night wanderings.

Auntie was having a terrible time with the pregnancy with the twins, and she and her two children aged 3 1/2 and 18 months came to stay with us for three weeks. Our house was full of our 3 girls and 2 boys, her children, and Bob and I.
Uncle would come in from a day's work as a CPA wearing the standard issue of the day, a suit, tie and white shirt. He'd quietly take off his coat and tie, roll up his sleeves, and go to work. He'd cook, clean, do the dishes, change a diaper on a baby be it mine or his. He just worked at whatever needed done without question. When it got late he'd pick up his suit and go home to the empty house and do the chores there and ready for work the next day. He felt there was not enough room for him in our crowded house.'

If anyone ever needs to know the definition of a Man, of what true manhood is really all about, here it is, in spades.

 

[BoomerD]

My condolences to you and the family.

It sounds like your uncle was quite a guy. I think you're richer for having been a part of his family...and he of yours. :thumbsup:

 

[JulesMaximus]

 

[skyking]

Thank you guys. Dave had missed it the first time around and bumped it on up. It has been over a year now, but yeah, we miss him.
On a happier note, we were NOT invited to hawaii this year with auntie.
Instead my sister and her husband, and some dear friends from England are going. They will have a great time and I and happy for all of them.

 

[AlienCraft]

Well said. Uncle was a good man then.

for the Auntie.

You do have a way with the word.

 

[BoomerD]

Originally posted by: skyking
Thank you guys. Dave had missed it the first time around and bumped it on up. It has been over a year now, but yeah, we miss him.

D'oh! What a bump! Glad to see I'm not the only one who missed the date of the OP...