Lets say you are the oldest in the family and you have a younger sibling bumming off you..

[Qianglong]

Lets say you are the eldest sister/bro in the home and now moved out and have a house on your own. You have a younger sibling either brother or sister who failed school and is gonna bum off you the rest of his life or making minimum wage with no ability to be independant.

What are u gonna do?

 

[Brainonska511]

I wouldn't let them mooch off of my success.

 

[dotcom173]

swift roundhouse to the face?

 

[1sikbITCH]

Is the younger sibling a retard or just lazy?

If they were mentally unable to function at an independant level than of course I would help them. Part of that help would be to teach them to be somewhat independant, not just giving them handouts.

If they were just lazy I'd load them up with a bunch of drugs and a handgun and then drop them off in front of the police station. Might as well just get it over with and save everyone a few years of aggravation

 

[DeadByDawn]

outbum them, slack more than they do and bum their $

 

[giantpinkbunnyhead]

I'm the oldest of my siblings and I, and I live in Alaska whereas the two brothers live in CA. Last year, my youngest (20 yrs) encountered a situation in which he needed to get away from things and re-evaluate the direction he wanted to take, so I bought him a plane ticket and he's living with me up here for a year or so. I don't mind helping him out, as long as he's making progress towards something. He even got a job at my airline and he's doing real well at it.

But if he were to be a mooch, I can safely say I would NOT have helped him out, or if he becomes one then I'm buying him a one-way back to CA.

 

[CKDragon]

My fiance has an OLDER sister like this (30yo) that still lives with her parents. She's in a world of debt and has shown herself to be completely unable to help herself out of it. My fiance and I (both 24yo) are pretty darn successful. We live on our own, are getting married, & will buy a house within the next year.

If something (God forbid) ever happened to her parents then she would be welcome to live with us only if every cent she earned passed through our hands and got budgeted by us (the budgeting would lead towards the ultimate goal of saving enough for her to move out of our place, we wouldn't keep anything over normal rent charge). If she had a problem with this, she's on her own.

EDIT: In addition, my fiance (very thankfully) feels the exact same way.

CK

 

[Atheus]

If it's a brother, help him out every now and again, but I don't see why you should support him if he's making enough to survive. Minumim wage _is_ enough to survive, even if you do have to sleep in your car or on a park bench - it's not that bad once you get used to it.

If it's a sister you gotta support her.

 

[thepd7]

family is family, but there is a certain point where you aren't helping them anymore by helping them, if you know what I mean. You can't support them when they make no effort, that reinforces their behavior. but helping them get back on their feet, get an education, etc: hell yes, thats what family is for.

 

[Alex]

Originally posted by: dotcom173
swift roundhouse to the face?

that'll work

but seriously you gotta help your sibling off but make it clear that he/she's gotta contribute at some point.

 

[lokiju]

I supported my older brother for about a year straight, but at the time I could afford to do so.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

For their own good, I wouldn't allow them to. I've seen first hand what happens.

 

[TuxDave]

Family is family. Sorry to hear your family is so broken but in my family if anyone needs help, we're always going to be there to help.