Landlord locked GF's cat in her bedroom.

[DrPizza]

My last email to the GF (we are both at work)

Good news ATOTers! Rumor has it that a "pretty hot" 25 year old female is now available for dating. How hot? Well, she's appealing to creepy 37 year old landlords. That's the only criteria we have for judging her, as the OP has failed to provide any picture evidence... of his former girlfriend.


TechBoy... no matter how wrong your girlfriend is, you never ever correct her. When you do, you especially never tell them they're wrong in writing. I'm no expert - probably because I have y-chromosomes - but there's something in your email that's going to hang you. Words - they hear them once. But emails... they can read them over and over and over until they've finally interpreted it in the worst possible way imaginable. *Maybe* some flowers and a nice dinner would help. Plus, buy her a new mattress pad and offer to help her break it in.

 

[Brainonska511]

Why would the LL be responsible? The tenant knew the LL was coming to do work, she should have made arrangements for her pets to keep them out of the way (eg: putting them in a separate room with food/water/litter box). If pets caused such irreparable damage that no product on Earth can clean this particular incidence of cat urine, she should look to her renter's insurance, which being a responsible adult, I assume she carries (along with making sure it had a rider to cover pet damage if it wasn't explicitly included in the coverage). These are things that could have happened without the LL's interference - what would she have done if the cat just did this stuff on its own?

 

[BlitzPuppet]

Yeah...generally women don't take it well if you tell them they're wrong, or ask why they did something a certain way. No matter how nice you say it, it will always backfire.

 

[monkeydelmagico]

My last email to the GF (we are both at work)

I'd be interested to hear how that strategy works out for you...... I can't imagine any of the ladies I know responding well to "9 out of 10 netizens think you brain farted"

 

[TechBoyJK]

Good news ATOTers! Rumor has it that a "pretty hot" 25 year old female is now available for dating. How hot? Well, she's appealing to creepy 37 year old landlords. That's the only criteria we have for judging her, as the OP has failed to provide any picture evidence... of his former girlfriend.


TechBoy... no matter how wrong your girlfriend is, you never ever correct her. When you do, you especially never tell them they're wrong in writing. I'm no expert - probably because I have y-chromosomes - but there's something in your email that's going to hang you. Words - they hear them once. But emails... they can read them over and over and over until they've finally interpreted it in the worst possible way imaginable. *Maybe* some flowers and a nice dinner would help. Plus, buy her a new mattress pad and offer to help her break it in.

She gets irrational and needs to be told she's wrong. She didn't take issue with it. In fact, she's starting to come around and 'understand' why it might be her fault.

 

[NetWareHead]

TechBoy... no matter how wrong your girlfriend is, you never ever correct her. When you do, you especially never tell them they're wrong in writing. I'm no expert - probably because I have y-chromosomes - but there's something in your email that's going to hang you. Words - they hear them once. But emails... they can read them over and over and over until they've finally interpreted it in the worst possible way imaginable. *Maybe* some flowers and a nice dinner would help. Plus, buy her a new mattress pad and offer to help her break it in.

This. The Doc has some great advice and the bolded part is especially true. Doc failed to mention that when it is in writing, the GF will usually recruit an equally insane female friend(s) to "help" decipher and together will result in an even worse interpretation of your words.

 

[Carson Dyle]

what would she have done if the cat just did this stuff on its own?

Well, there wouldn't be a thread about it on ATOT, she wouldn't be blaming the landlord, and the boyfriend would clearly know how to handle the situation. (Actually, I'm not so sure about that last part).

 

[ultimatebob]

I'd be interested to hear how that strategy works out for you...... I can't imagine any of the ladies I know responding well to "9 out of 10 netizens think you brain farted"

Yeah, he screwed up there, especially since we already know that she overreacts to things.

This thread now has potential to win the ATOT self-ownage award of 2014

But, hey... it's better to learn that your girlfriend is crazy now than after you marry her.

 

[Atomic Playboy]

It's the responsibility of the pet owner to make sure the pet is secured in the event of scheduled maintenance. Lock her in the room with a litter box, food and water, put her in a cage with a litter box, food and water, whatever; it's on the owner to secure the animal. What if the cat had gotten outside and run off? Who is at fault? She knew people were coming over and she did not take the appropriate steps to assure that the cat was secured. It's an expensive life lesson, but there you go.

 

[shortylickens]

Sounds to me like the cats should have always been locked OUTSIDE the bedroom.
Yes?
No?

 

[monkeydelmagico]

She gets irrational and needs to be told she's wrong. She didn't take issue with it. In fact, she's starting to come around and 'understand' why it might be her fault.

Well done then. Dr. Pizza's advice still stands though. Oh, and don't let the landlord or workers into your home alone. Nobody cares about your pets/possessions as much as you do.

 

[Scarpozzi]

why didn't she have a dog instead?
why didn't she have a dog instead?
why didn't she have a dog instead?
why didn't she have a dog instead?
why didn't she have a dog instead?
why didn't she have a dog instead?
why didn't she have a dog instead?

FTFY. Cat people smell like cat piss. That's exactly what they get for cohabitating with those nasty animals.

OP...sorry, but if you string your gf along long enough until she reaches her 40s and leave her, you will be replaced by many, many cats.... Next thing you know, she'll have cat litter in her hair and start shopping exclusively at Kmart. It's a downward spiral.

 

[MarkXIX]

cat piss is no joke. that stuff smells horrible. best bet would be to use some type of enzyme cleaner. need to soak that stuff in and let it dry out, which could take a couple of days.

something like nature's miracle for cats
http://www.natures-miracle.com/prod...n-odor-remover-get-rid-of-cat-odor-urine.aspx

all the sheets and stuff you need to run through the wash with some vinegar otherwise the cat will piss on it again.

Yep. When we were house hunting our real estate agent took us to a beautiful house in the $400k range, but price was well below that because of cat piss.

The previous owner had several cats and they had pissed all throughout the house. They had pissed so often in the basement that the concrete was soaked in it and no matter what was done to it she said they couldn't get rid of the smell short of having those several square feet of the basement concrete cut out and re-poured.

Shame, it was a gorgeous house with beautiful wood floors (also piss soaked in areas). House was damn near half price when we looked at it, but just couldn't risk potentially NEVER getting rid of that smell. Someone finally bought it, but we noticed that they're now selling and moving out.

 

[Carson Dyle]

It's the responsibility of the pet owner to make sure the pet is secured in the event of scheduled maintenance.

Bullshit. We're talking about house cats, not a fucking pitbull. The chances of the cats getting in the way are insignificant. And nobody should be expected to have to secure them from the actions of idiots.

 

[Wuzup101]

Bullshit. We're talking about house cats, not a fucking pitbull. The chances of the cats getting in the way are insignificant. And nobody should be expected to have to secure them from the actions of idiots.

If you don't want to deal with this issue buy a house. Otherwise... be responsible for your own pets.

 

[nageov3t]

Bullshit. We're talking about house cats, not a fucking pitbull. The chances of the cats getting in the way are insignificant. And nobody should be expected to have to secure them from the actions of idiots.

that reads like someone who doesn't own cats.

my cat would be all up in whatever shit was going down if he was allowed to roam loose when he had a plumber or electrician doing work... I can see him already nipping on loose plastic wires, jumping into the plumber's lap while he's laying on the floor, finding his way into everything, etc.

 

[Ichinisan]

This. The Doc has some great advice and the bolded part is especially true. Doc failed to mention that when it is in writing, the GF will usually recruit an equally insane female friend(s) to "help" decipher and together will result in an even worse interpretation of your words.

This. My sister has done this sooo many times...

 

[Ichinisan]

Bullshit. We're talking about house cats, not a fucking pitbull. The chances of the cats getting in the way are insignificant. And nobody should be expected to have to secure them from the actions of idiots.

You gotta be kidding. Don't pretend that all cats are the same.

My cat deliberately entangles himself with your feet. He does this *while* I'm walking, regardless of my speed or urgency. It's his way of begging for food / attention. He's a huge hazard for people that don't expect it. They might accidentally step on him, or they might trip and injure themselves or break something.

I know my cat isn't the only one like this.

 

[Ichinisan]

that reads like someone who doesn't own cats.

my cat would be all up in whatever shit was going down if he was allowed to roam loose when he had a plumber or electrician doing work... I can see him already nipping on loose plastic wires, jumping into the plumber's lap while he's laying on the floor, finding his way into everything, etc.

Yeah. My cat is one that *needs* companionship. If there's a human being in my apartment, my cat is all over that person at all times.

 

[Jaskalas]

Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

If someone can walk in and disturb your cat... they need to be aware. A sign, post-it, whatever. Even then, you're still at the mercy of whatever they decide to do.

Sounds like the bedroom door is shut a lot? To purposefully keep the cat out? Cat has made it their mission in life to get past that door. Anyone who opens it has to deal with the issue.

Imagine how none of this would have happened if the door wasn't shut, or everyone involved knew. It's a costly innocent mistake. The sheets can be washed, twice if needed. The mattress...

 

[skull]

As an HVAC guy that does a lot of apartment work. I could easily shut a door and not know its in there. If I'm going in and out of the apartment all day I might lock it in there to keep it from getting out because the last thing on my mind is your stupid cat. I've accidentally let cats out before not knowing I did it so I try not to do that. You should thank me, not get mad I put it in the bedroom.

Your girlfriend sounds annoying but I bet the hotness makes up for it.

 

[midwestfisherman]

This is a prime reason as to why no one should own a cat!

 

[AznAnarchy99]

that reads like someone who doesn't own cats.

my cat would be all up in whatever shit was going down if he was allowed to roam loose when he had a plumber or electrician doing work... I can see him already nipping on loose plastic wires, jumping into the plumber's lap while he's laying on the floor, finding his way into everything, etc.

Definitely this. I house sat for my friend who went on vacation. As cute as his kitten was, little guy liked to be up on everywhere. Playing WoW? Sits on computer and then the keyboard. Playing XBox? Jump onto lap and claws at controller. Sleeping on the couch? Woke up with a cat on top of my face.

 

[Carson Dyle]

that reads like someone who doesn't own cats.

I grew up with a succession of cats as pets. But I admit ... they weren't house cats, so you could be right. The cats we had came and went as they pleased. Sometimes we wouldn't see one for two or three days at at time. Around the house they could usually give a fuck about people unless they wanted to be fed.

 

[Atomic Playboy]

Bullshit. We're talking about house cats, not a fucking pitbull. The chances of the cats getting in the way are insignificant. And nobody should be expected to have to secure them from the actions of idiots.

It isn't for the safety of the person performing maintenance, it's because you're introducing an unknown element into the home with absolutely no guarantee of how the animal will respond. And it's doubly important to secure them if the owner is not going to be around when the maintenance happens. What if the cat freaks out, runs outside and gets hit by a car? A responsible pet owner controls the situation to the best of their ability. That means when an unknown variable is introduced (strangers doing work) and you know you aren't going to be there to ensure the cat behaves, you secure the animal so nothing can happen to it. And I say that as a cat owner who has had to crate our cat three separate times in the last year for maintenance people.