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Ladies of AT please help!!!

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gregshin

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Okay i'll keep the story short...we were together for over a year and then broke up. During that break up time (a few weeks) i dated someone else and slept with her. I never talked to or seen my ex-girl for about a month and a half. When we reconciled she asked me if ever saw or talked to anyone....fearing that things would start off on a bad note - i lied...which was wrong...but i had my reasons...later on i confessed the truth and even told her i slept with another girl while we were seperated. Now my girl can't get the image out of her head - of me and that one another girl. How can I help her get that image out of her head? Please help guys and girls!!!
 
I wish I knew a solution, but looks like you really don't care for her if you sleep with someone else over the period of a month without the same gf. If you can switch back and forth so easily, what makes you think you will stay with her this time?
 
Originally posted by: AgaBooga
I wish I knew a solution, but looks like you really don't care for her if you sleep with someone else over the period of a month without the same gf. If you can switch back and forth so easily, what makes you think you will stay with her this time?
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meh, if he felt there was no chance of reconciliation, why wouldn't he go out and get some rebound sex? i know i would.
 
you're screwed.

seriously if my bf did that i'd kick him in the nads. its a very difficult image to get rid of.

although you were broken up during that time. in theory, not your fault, but the image will still be in her head. just be prepared to have it used against you for the longest time.

it all depends on your girlfriend though. i sorta take back the whole kicking my bf in the nads bit, but i'd be disturbed for QUITE some time. you'd have to prove that you're not going to run off AGAIN with any other girl that comes your way whenever you sense there is trouble.
 
Originally posted by: freesia39
you're screwed.

seriously if my bf did that i'd kick him in the nads. its a very difficult image to get rid of.

although you were broken up during that time. in theory, not your fault, but the image will still be in her head. just be prepared to have it used against you for the longest time.

it all depends on your girlfriend though. i sorta take back the whole kicking my bf in the nads bit, but i'd be disturbed for QUITE some time. you'd have to prove that you're not going to run off AGAIN with any other girl that comes your way whenever you sense there is trouble.
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thanks....right now we're trying to work things out together. if you have anymore advice it would be appreciated.
 
if you guys were broken up...then i don't see what the problem is. you had to move on and didn't know you guys were going to get back together. if she won't get over it now, you're gonna have a real tough time trying to get that image out of her head.

edit for advice: buy her some flowers and remind her everyday how much you care for her.
 
Instead of an image of you and another woman in her head, put the image of you and her in her head ;P

- Kevin
 
Originally posted by: freesia39
you're screwed.

seriously if my bf did that i'd kick him in the nads. its a very difficult image to get rid of.

although you were broken up during that time. in theory, not your fault, but the image will still be in her head. just be prepared to have it used against you for the longest time.

it all depends on your girlfriend though. i sorta take back the whole kicking my bf in the nads bit, but i'd be disturbed for QUITE some time. you'd have to prove that you're not going to run off AGAIN with any other girl that comes your way whenever you sense there is trouble.
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Hello there, controlling, manipulative bitch. What's your name?
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They were broken up. Sleeping with other girls is fair game - she's probably just upset that she missed out on a few weeks of getting good nookie on her own.

- M4H
 
I am not flaming, but this sounds a young relationship. These kinds of things a plagued with jealousy that exists from thinking sex is this holy grail type of thing...the more you are experienced with dating (not necessarily intercourse) the less each relationship matters and the less another's relationships matter.

You learn you were not together during these times and that 'stuff' happens and that 'stuff' is forgotten.

I love sex and sure there are certain nights with ex's I remember, but they are not dwelled upon at all...and there are tons I have forgotten, even women I have forgotten....it just not important to remember.

Good luck with it though, however I think you have a hard battle ahead and this will be just one of the war.
 
you'd have to prove that you're not going to run off AGAIN with any other girl that comes your way whenever you sense there is trouble.
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Now you're just making stuff up.

He never said he ran off to another girl when the going got tough. He just went on a date and slept with a girl while THE BOTH OF THEM were broken up.
 
Good for you for being up front/honest (the second time around, anyway).

Unfortunately, all you can do is wait at this point. Nothing will automatically remove the image from her head... all you can hope is that eventually time will.
 
Did you break up with her or did she break up with you?

It is a tough image to get out of your head.. (just imagine if she'd had sex with someone while you didn't) However, there's not a whole lot you can do about it now other than do the best you can to make the relationship work. Just prepare to roll with the inevitable ongoing emotional backlash.
 
She just wants to know she's "special", the most important person in your life. Sleeping with another person so soon after your breaskup (in her mind) made her feel like she was just another girl. In her mind, you probably should have been lamenting her loss rather than getting it on. I know that sounds corny, but that is likely how she interpreted this information. So your job now is to convince her that she is different and far more important that any other woman and that if you lost her. you would be too devasted to screw with another woman 😛
 
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