kinda disheartening

[pontifex]

A few months back I posted about finding some old friends from HS via myspace and facebook. I was kinda excited because these were my best friends at the time and some went away to college and/or joined the military and we lost contact.

So I started playing WoW with 2 of them and that lasted for a few months until I got bored of WoW again and quit. I even went to their apartment (they live together) to play one day. I sent them emails that I was quitting and why. They haven't emailed me back at all. I don't know what the deal is there. Guess they didn't really care.

The other friend is out of state. We emailed once or twice and then he didn't reply back. A few days before Xmas i get an email from hi saying he was going to be back home at his parents over the Xmas break and asked if I wanted to hang out. I emailed him and said sure. Never heard back from him.

WTH? Its not like I did or said anything to these people that would make them not want to see me or talk to me again. I guess maybe they weren't the friends I thought they were.

 

[Lola]

I have found HS "friends" are like this.
It happens often that you will get to be friends with them again, and then all of a sudden they lose interest. it is not you... it happens a lot. After all the "catching Up" is done with, they stop talking with you.

 

[jman19]

Originally posted by: pontifex
A few months back I posted about finding some old friends from HS via myspace and facebook. I was kinda excited because these were my best friends at the time and some went away to college and/or joined the military and we lost contact.

So I started playing WoW with 2 of them and that lasted for a few months until I got bored of WoW again and quit. I even went to their apartment (they live together) to play one day. I sent them emails that I was quitting and why. They haven't emailed me back at all. I don't know what the deal is there. Guess they didn't really care.

The other friend is out of state. We emailed once or twice and then he didn't reply back. A few days before Xmas i get an email from hi saying he was going to be back home at his parents over the Xmas break and asked if I wanted to hang out. I emailed him and said sure. Never heard back from him.

WTH? Its not like I did or said anything to these people that would make them not want to see me or talk to me again. I guess maybe they weren't the friends I thought they were.

Stop being emo and get new friends.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I have found HS "friends" are like this.
It happens often that you will get to be friends with them again, and then all of a sudden they lose interest. it is not you... it happens a lot. After all the "catching Up" is done with, they stop talking with you.

the problem is we didn't even really catch up. all the 1st 2 seemed to be interested in was WoW.

The 2nd guy barely replied to me.

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I have found HS "friends" are like this.
It happens often that you will get to be friends with them again, and then all of a sudden they lose interest. it is not you... it happens a lot. After all the "catching Up" is done with, they stop talking with you.

the problem is we didn't even really catch up. all the 1st 2 seemed to be interested in was WoW.

The 2nd guy barely replied to me.

Then i would just take it as they are not interested in keeping in touch with old friends and leave it as that. It happens.

 

[leftyman]

People change.

 

[PricklyPete]

People move on with their lives. They are many times very different than they were in HS (if they aren't...then they likely have issues).

If they seem to have lost interest, there is nothing wrong with putting a little extra effort into hanging out with them, but don't get offended when they don't really respond to your gestures.

There are plenty of people I meet on a regular basis who I think are neat people and I'd love to hang out with...but I have so little time as it is for my current set of friends, that I rarely let someone new in and I often times lose track of old friends who I don't keep up with.

Get over it...as was said earlier...stop being EMO. Just find some new friends.

 

[gwrober]

I only have 2-3 'real' friends from HS, and we dont' talk all that much - but if I were to run into any of them on the street, you bet I'd treat them like a long - lost buddy!

You may not talk/hang out all the time,but you can still be good friends.

But for leaving you hanging, you never know - maybe he got busy, or gets so many emails that yours just got pushed to pg2, 3, etc....who knows - drop him an email and ask what's up! No need to be negative!

 

[RbSX]

There are a few people i kinda maintain contact with that I went to HS with.

Long story short my best friend in highschool I stopped talking too almost immediately, my other good friend we don't talk often.

Eventually I started talking to the first friend again, but it's really a passing interest. The only HS guys i hang out with during the summer are family friends.

The truth is it's a part of my life I want to move on from, and I'm sure is the case for most people.

One of my HS Socials teachers said that 'People that hang out with people from High School during college are trying to relive their glory years, because they realize when it comes down to growing up, they're failing.'

 

[junkiefp]

Whats WoW?

 

[Platypus]

The problem is most people who went off to school or the military after college change from who they were in HS.. hell I'm totally different now than I was in HS.

If it makes you feel better, I keep in touch with ONE out of the hundreds of people I knew from HS. Most of my real and lifelong friends came during or after college.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: junkiefp
Whats WoW?

World of Warcraft. I'm surprised people don't know what this, especially members of this forum.

also, i don't get why people are calling me emo.

 

[Koing]

Mobile numbers? Get them and you can call them.

Koing

 

[MichaelD]

I graduated HS in 1986. I kept in touch with exactly 3 people shortly thereafter. (BTW; my graduating class was 1,100+ people) They all got married and dropped off the face of the earth within 2 years.

19 years later, I couldn't find any of my classmates if my life depended on it and I couldn't care less since they don't pay my bills, nor are they sources of referrals or information.

HS is for education and the formation of basic life and social skills, not for Real Life. You'll get over your poke in the eye by people with obviously less social couth than you. They're called "your past" and they deserve to stay there.

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Have a nice day...

 

[Blazin Trav]

I'm sure there are more than two people in the world that play WoW...

go out and make an effort to meet new people. you'll thank me later.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: Blazin Trav
I'm sure there are more than two people in the world that play WoW...

go out and make an effort to meet new people. you'll thank me later.

some of you guys make no sense

 

[imported_Imp]

Fact that they seem to play so much WoW and required you to 'reconnect' pretty much answers it. They just don't care or all of you never would have lost touch. I had a bunch of 'friends' (acquaintances) in HS, kept in touch a few months after HS, haven't said a word to them since. I see one of them everyday in college, I still only say 'hi' and occasionally catch up every few months. The rest of the people in HS I seriously don't care about. Just this past summer, after quitting my 3 year job, all the people I've met I've since stopped talking to. While working there, I'd say we were usually in touch fairly often. People change, they stop giving a *hit.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

I liked my HS friends, in HS. Now, we have nothing in common. The only thing we do now is talk about stuff from the past. We all branched out and went our seperate ways. I am not interested anymore.