Just turned down a job offer after accepting it and they are saying their dissapointed? Did i burn bridges?

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steppinthrax

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X, I just sent you an e-mail and tried to call you. Can you explain or tell me why you are no longer interested? I am leaving to go out of town tomorrow and need to touch base with X and the team today. Can you explain or tell me anything? I am very disappointed.

XX

First message:

Hello X

Thank you for the time and effort you spent offering me the Applications Development Analyst position. I appreciate your time and effort -- as well as those of your staff. I am grateful for your offer of employment.

In light of a new offer and after much thought and careful deliberation, I have decided to turn down my offer for employment.

I wish you and X. the best continued success. I hope our paths will cross again in the future.

Thank you again for your time and consideration.

 
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Just sounds like they're dissapointed because they lost what they thought was a good fit for their company. Take it as a compliment and leave it at that. No use in wondering if you burnt a bridge or not, IMO.

Good luck at your new job.
 
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If you tell them it was because of e.g. salary, they may come back with a counteroffer.
 
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steppinthrax

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Originally posted by: theplaidfad
Just sounds like they're dissapointed because they lost what they thought was a good fit for their company. Take it as a compliment and leave it at that. No use in wondering if you burnt a bridge or not, IMO.

Good luck at your new job.
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This was my last reply.

Yes,

My old cell phone number is not active.

The new offer that I was referring to is with the X. The pay is around 62K and the tuition benefits including other benefits are much better. The position is also within application development using .NET as well as application maintenance/administration.
 
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I don't think I would have said I turned them down for a better offer. I would just say something about due to personal issues, it's better if I stay where I am for the moment, but thank you for the opportunity......blah blah.
 
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Maybe they didn't see where you said that you received a new offer or maybe they just want to know what exaclty lured you to the other position so that they can be more competitive in the future.

We all want job satisfaction at work, but in the final analysis, we all get out of bed in the morning for the money. If you received another offer for more money shortly after accepting their offer, it is unfortunate, but it isn't like you acted unethically (better they found out now then to give 2-weeks notice in a month).

If they offered you the job, then you were the most qualified person, so of course they will be dissapointed to lose the most qualified applicant for the position. That doesn't, of course, mean they won't hold it against you if you call them back in 2-months asking if the offer is still open; I would.
 
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Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
they offered
you accepted
you reneg
they are pissed

makes sense to me
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Yeah.

It's not baseless of them to be pissed, but it's not rude of you to do what is best for numero uno, either.
 
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Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
they offered
you accepted
you reneg
they are pissed

makes sense to me
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Pretty much. Consider that bridge burned.
 
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RagingBITCH

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Is it really that hard to see that you fvcked yourself with that company forever? I don't see why it's so difficult for you to see.
 
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You burned the bridge, but so what? How is it worse than starting work, and giving them 2 weeks notice immediately?
 
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Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Is it really that hard to see that you fvcked yourself with that company forever? I don't see why it's so difficult for you to see.
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I doubt it. If they need someone with his skill set and interviews well then they will take him on in a heart beat.

Funny how people think all companies would not get the best person for the job because they turned them down in the past.
 
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I dont think you should worry much. Yeah so you burnt it with the hiring manager, so what, this happens all the time and there are millions of companies out there.

next time lie and say it's a personal issue. or you are leaving the country.
 
SparkyJJO

SparkyJJO

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Originally posted by: ivan2
I dont think you should worry much. Yeah so you burnt it with the hiring manager, so what, this happens all the time and there are millions of companies out there.

next time lie and say it's a personal issue. or you are leaving the country.
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Or how about he just stays honest like he did? Why be dishonest about it :roll:
 
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Originally posted by: SparkyJJO
Originally posted by: ivan2
I dont think you should worry much. Yeah so you burnt it with the hiring manager, so what, this happens all the time and there are millions of companies out there.

next time lie and say it's a personal issue. or you are leaving the country.
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Or how about he just stays honest like he did? Why be dishonest about it :roll:
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If he's honest, he's fucked himself with that company. If he is dishonest, the worst that can happen is that he fucked himself with that company--he may, however, receive a job offer in the future for lots more money. Which is really the better situation?
 
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RagingBITCH

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Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Is it really that hard to see that you fvcked yourself with that company forever? I don't see why it's so difficult for you to see.
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I doubt it. If they need someone with his skill set and interviews well then they will take him on in a heart beat.

Funny how people think all companies would not get the best person for the job because they turned them down in the past.
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There's a difference between turning down a job offer, and accepting an offer and then turning it down after HR probably told the other few potentials no. Granted it varies from company to company - but considering he accepted, then turned down another offer, that's bad. I don't give a crap what your skillset is - there's always someone better out there.
 
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How long from when you accepted the offer to when you contacted them back to turn it down?
 
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steppinthrax

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Well this was the asshole bank that gave me 3 job interviews until they decided to hire me. So I in a way don't feel to sorry. I think that's a little outdated. If we were living in the 50's maybe you can do that or if you were working for NASA. But they did a phone screening, a first interview with the VP and hiring manager. A second interview with two application developers and a database admin and a final interview with the president of the operations center. At the end I asked the president "what's going on from here" he was like we have to meet and of course we will pick the best. A week later they called me back for the job.

So I don't know they took too long getting me the job and I kind of think this to be a mismanaged organization
 
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