Just found out my wife was abused as a child

[ThePresence]

By her mother. I always knew there was something wrong with her mother, but I never realized to what extent. I knew my wife moved out of her parents house the day she turned 18, I knew she doesn't get along with her mother, but never realized what really happened. I am traumatized. She told me about getting beaten with a broomstick because she left her room to go to the bathroom at night. About coming home from school early and getting beaten because her mother did not expect her home early. etc. We are married almost a year and I never knew any of this. Thankfully, she has only one sibling, who is older than her and there are no kids at home. My kids wont have anything to do with her. She doesn't live in this country anyway. The hell is wrong with people?

UPDATE: I posted this thread a year ago, and have since found out much more. My wife was very studious, top of her class, her mother burned all her notes one day in front of her to get back at her. That was in 6th grade! Basically anything that she knew my wife took pride in, she tried to destroy. She routinely beat her for no rational reason whatsoever, if she was in the mood. Her mother had a difficult time healthwise and could not handle any kind of stress. Apparently she took it out on her kids. It seems she wants to have a relationship with my wife and our kids now, and we've let her come for a few visits. She's well behaved when she is at our place. The one time we went there was a disaster.

 

[geno]

Where is that "Mothers in Law suck" thread?

 

[Sea Moose]

Nuke from orbit?

 

[DaTT]

Is there any sort of relationship between her and her Mother?

 

[SunSamurai]

Originally posted by: DaTT
Is there any sort of relationship between her and her Mother?

Yes, a violent one, numbnuts.

 

[Sea Moose]

Originally posted by: SunSamurai

Originally posted by: DaTT
Is there any sort of relationship between her and her Mother?

Yes, a violent one, numbnuts.

Perhaps ops missus will get all kill bill on her mother...

My gf and her mother hate each other, so i kinda know where op is coming from

 

[iamwiz82]

How many years have you known your wife? And she just told you now? And you decided to post it on the Internet? Just a thought, but obviously it's something very difficult and private for your wife, I'd delete this post.

 

[Liet]

What, like we all know his wife? He's anonymous unless he posts his info.

About half of the girlfriends I've had were abused (or flat-out raped) at one point in their lives. It's disturbingly more common than people think.

 

[arcenite]

Originally posted by: ThePresence
By her mother. I always knew there was something wrong with her mother, but I never realized to what extent. I knew my wife moved out of her parents house the day she turned 18, I knew she doesn't get along with her mother, but never realized what really happened. I am traumatized. She told me about getting beaten with a broomstick because she left her room to go to the bathroom at night. About coming home from school early and getting beaten because her mother did not expect her home early. etc. We are married almost a year and I never knew any of this. Thankfully, she has only one sibling, who is older than her and there are no kids at home. My kids wont have anything to do with her. She doesn't live in this country anyway. The hell is wrong with people?

Are they catholic?

 

[SunSamurai]

Originally posted by: Sea Moose

Originally posted by: SunSamurai

Originally posted by: DaTT
Is there any sort of relationship between her and her Mother?

Yes, a violent one, numbnuts.

Perhaps ops missus will get all kill bill on her mother...

My gf and her mother hate each other, so i kinda know where op is coming from

Yes my womans mother is a bit of a drama queen but she wouldn't take any sort of abuse like that. She'd get a bigger stick.

 

[meltdown75]

The hell is wrong with people?

they suck.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: arcenite

Originally posted by: ThePresence
By her mother. I always knew there was something wrong with her mother, but I never realized to what extent. I knew my wife moved out of her parents house the day she turned 18, I knew she doesn't get along with her mother, but never realized what really happened. I am traumatized. She told me about getting beaten with a broomstick because she left her room to go to the bathroom at night. About coming home from school early and getting beaten because her mother did not expect her home early. etc. We are married almost a year and I never knew any of this. Thankfully, she has only one sibling, who is older than her and there are no kids at home. My kids wont have anything to do with her. She doesn't live in this country anyway. The hell is wrong with people?

Are they catholic?

 

[SunSamurai]

Are you seriously confused? Make sense to me.

 

[amdhunter]

Eh, my mom beat my ass all the time for dumb shit. You'd better bet that if I came home late at night, I was gonna get a whupping. I'd have gotten beat for coming early as well, since chances were good that I was cutting class. I bet your wife was too.

I bet your wife is an emo, am I right? Be honest. Divorce her now.

 

[drum]

Originally posted by: arcenite

Originally posted by: ThePresence
By her mother. I always knew there was something wrong with her mother, but I never realized to what extent. I knew my wife moved out of her parents house the day she turned 18, I knew she doesn't get along with her mother, but never realized what really happened. I am traumatized. She told me about getting beaten with a broomstick because she left her room to go to the bathroom at night. About coming home from school early and getting beaten because her mother did not expect her home early. etc. We are married almost a year and I never knew any of this. Thankfully, she has only one sibling, who is older than her and there are no kids at home. My kids wont have anything to do with her. She doesn't live in this country anyway. The hell is wrong with people?

Are they catholic?

only 2 kids?

 

[allisolm]

Originally posted by: arcenite

Are they catholic?

I don't know about his wife, but his mother-in-law isn't very broad-minded.

If you meant Catholic - what could that possibly have to do with it?

 

[Sea Moose]

Originally posted by: iamwiz82
How many years have you known your wife? And she just told you now? And you decided to post it on the Internet? Just a thought, but obviously it's something very difficult and private for your wife, I'd delete this post.

erg for men, sometimes its best to get out the stress, and talk about it with people, majority of us don't know op personally, so we can give non biased advice.

Talking about problems is healthy. But op, you will need to help your wife open and talk about her issues. Counseling might be an option.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: ThePresence
By her mother. I always knew there was something wrong with her mother, but I never realized to what extent. I knew my wife moved out of her parents house the day she turned 18, I knew she doesn't get along with her mother, but never realized what really happened. I am traumatized. She told me about getting beaten with a broomstick because she left her room to go to the bathroom at night. About coming home from school early and getting beaten because her mother did not expect her home early. etc. We are married almost a year and I never knew any of this. Thankfully, she has only one sibling, who is older than her and there are no kids at home. My kids wont have anything to do with her. She doesn't live in this country anyway. The hell is wrong with people?

was there more to it that getting hit with a broomstick? this may be a cultural thing, not that i condone it. my mother hit us on the butt with a wooden yardstick on occasion. we learned not to tempt that fate even though it wasn't all that painful. : /

 

[Sea Moose]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: ThePresence
By her mother. I always knew there was something wrong with her mother, but I never realized to what extent. I knew my wife moved out of her parents house the day she turned 18, I knew she doesn't get along with her mother, but never realized what really happened. I am traumatized. She told me about getting beaten with a broomstick because she left her room to go to the bathroom at night. About coming home from school early and getting beaten because her mother did not expect her home early. etc. We are married almost a year and I never knew any of this. Thankfully, she has only one sibling, who is older than her and there are no kids at home. My kids wont have anything to do with her. She doesn't live in this country anyway. The hell is wrong with people?

was there more to it that getting hit with a broomstick? this may be a cultural thing, not that i condone it. my mother hit us on the butt with a wooden yardstick on occasion. we learned not to tempt that fate even though it wasn't all that painful. : /

yeah my mum broke a wooden spoon across my arse once when i broke an expensive item.

Mum= "sea moose, dont run through the house"

**sea moose runs and smashes some random expensive item**

Mum= "Your fucked"

 

[ViviTheMage]

Originally posted by: Sea Moose

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: ThePresence
By her mother. I always knew there was something wrong with her mother, but I never realized to what extent. I knew my wife moved out of her parents house the day she turned 18, I knew she doesn't get along with her mother, but never realized what really happened. I am traumatized. She told me about getting beaten with a broomstick because she left her room to go to the bathroom at night. About coming home from school early and getting beaten because her mother did not expect her home early. etc. We are married almost a year and I never knew any of this. Thankfully, she has only one sibling, who is older than her and there are no kids at home. My kids wont have anything to do with her. She doesn't live in this country anyway. The hell is wrong with people?

was there more to it that getting hit with a broomstick? this may be a cultural thing, not that i condone it. my mother hit us on the butt with a wooden yardstick on occasion. we learned not to tempt that fate even though it wasn't all that painful. : /

yeah my mum broke a wooden spoon across my arse once when i broke an expensive item.

Mum= "sea moose, dont run through the house"

**sea moose runs and smashes some random expensive item**

Mum= "Your fucked"

haha, best abuse story ever.

my dad used a slotted wiffle bat, it didn't make marks, but it hurt..a lot.

 

[mrSHEiK124]

My mom holds some sort of triple black belt or some shit in slipper tossing. I swear to God she could throw a slipper or sandal down a hallway, around a corner, and into my locked room and still hit me square in the ass. Granted, my parents only gave me a spanking/whupping when I really deserved it, like getting suspended for a week for causing some sort of untold havoc in elementary school. I don't think I'd need both hands to count the whuppings I got as a child. Never got a belt or anything, or a broomstick

 

[surfsatwerk]

If I had a child that pulled some of the shit I did as a child, I'd have beat his ass too.

 

[Sea Moose]

Originally posted by: mrSHEiK124
My mom holds some sort of triple black belt or some shit in slipper tossing. I swear to God she could throw a slipper or sandal down a hallway, around a corner, and into my locked room and still hit me square in the ass. Granted, my parents only gave me a spanking/whupping when I really deserved it, like getting suspended for a week for causing some sort of untold havoc in elementary school. I don't think I'd need both hands to count the whuppings I got as a child. Never got a belt or anything, or a broomstick

she was the stunt double

 

[rasczak]

my mom used to do the "pinch" under the arm, throw and beat us down with slippers. the only time my dad ever whipped me was with his belt. i'll never forget that day. ever. as to the OP. what ethnicity is your wife's family? i'm thinking asian of some sort.

 

[Wheezer]

first of OP you need to define the term "beaten"

in this day and age of sissy boys and girls...."beaten" takes on may forms....swat your kid on the fanny in the store?...some jack ass will report you for "beating" your kids.

Don't get me wrong but you need to be more clear of your definitions.

Both my parents were sift in their punishments....I got paddled from everything from a ping pong paddle to a 2x4 to the ass ( i was an "active" child)...and by far the MOST painful was when my mom walked outside and broke of a switch from the bush outside and whipped me with it...left welts for a few weeks.

I deserved it though.....I broke the crock pot lid into a crock pot full of soup and never told her about it....if anyone in the family had eaten any they would have gotten a mouth full of glass.... so to say she was pissed was an understatement....I would have been too.