Jiu jitsu training and being EXTREMELY SHAME/SHY

[Nocturnal]

ok, i really want to train jiu jitsu, but i am extremely shy and shame. i guess you could call it anxiety, because when im there i always think that the people there are looking at me funny and just laughing.

can anyone recommend any advice for this? i really want to train, badly. but i get really anxious and start sweating because i think everyone is just staring right at me while i look like a fool doing this martial art.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
ok, i really want to train jiu jitsu, but i am extremely shy and shame. i guess you could call it anxiety, because when im there i always think that the people there are looking at me funny and just laughing.

can anyone recommend any advice for this? i really want to train, badly. but i get really anxious and start sweating because i think everyone is just staring right at me while i look like a fool doing this martial art.

You will look more silly if you are getting your a$$ beat down on the street.

Edit: for correct grammar.

 

[HamSupLo]

slap a triangle choke on those fools laughing at you...that'll teach them

 

[notfred]

You are shame.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Most of the other people there probably feel the same way. You are psyching yourself out. Forget that others are there or else imagine yourself kicking their arses.

 

[teqwiz]

What is so shameful about you? Shyness would help you in more ways than one in this Art.

 

[peter584]

Do you think Karate Kid felt cool standing on that stump? The Pelicans even thought he was a chump.
Miagi was a good sinse though. He had a black belt. From JCPenny.
If that doesn't help go see your psychiatrist and ask about social anxiety,and or depression. Then get hopped up on zoloft or paxil and kick someones azz!

 

[ThreeLeggedGnome]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
ok, i really want to train jiu jitsu, but i am extremely shy and shame. i guess you could call it anxiety, because when im there i always think that the people there are looking at me funny and just laughing.

can anyone recommend any advice for this? i really want to train, badly. but i get really anxious and start sweating because i think everyone is just staring right at me while i look like a fool doing this martial art.

For some reason the way you describe yourself is very disturbing to me. I hope you are a girl, otherwise, well it would be too disturbing for a guy to have such low self esteem.

 

[Beau]

Originally posted by: ThreeLeggedGnome

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
ok, i really want to train jiu jitsu, but i am extremely shy and shame. i guess you could call it anxiety, because when im there i always think that the people there are looking at me funny and just laughing.

can anyone recommend any advice for this? i really want to train, badly. but i get really anxious and start sweating because i think everyone is just staring right at me while i look like a fool doing this martial art.

For some reason the way you describe yourself is very disturbing to me. I hope you are a girl, otherwise, well it would be too disturbing for a guy to have such low self esteem.

But it's okay for a girl to think of herself like that?

 

[ThreeLeggedGnome]

Originally posted by: Beau

Originally posted by: ThreeLeggedGnome

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
ok, i really want to train jiu jitsu, but i am extremely shy and shame. i guess you could call it anxiety, because when im there i always think that the people there are looking at me funny and just laughing.

can anyone recommend any advice for this? i really want to train, badly. but i get really anxious and start sweating because i think everyone is just staring right at me while i look like a fool doing this martial art.

For some reason the way you describe yourself is very disturbing to me. I hope you are a girl, otherwise, well it would be too disturbing for a guy to have such low self esteem.

But it's okay for a girl to think of herself like that?

Well that's how it works (in America) we say girly girls and manly men. Who knows, maybe it's the opposite wherever the hell you are from.

 

[Beau]

Originally posted by: ThreeLeggedGnome

Originally posted by: Beau

Originally posted by: ThreeLeggedGnome

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
ok, i really want to train jiu jitsu, but i am extremely shy and shame. i guess you could call it anxiety, because when im there i always think that the people there are looking at me funny and just laughing.

can anyone recommend any advice for this? i really want to train, badly. but i get really anxious and start sweating because i think everyone is just staring right at me while i look like a fool doing this martial art.

For some reason the way you describe yourself is very disturbing to me. I hope you are a girl, otherwise, well it would be too disturbing for a guy to have such low self esteem.

But it's okay for a girl to think of herself like that?

Well that's how it works (in America) we say girly girls and manly men. Who knows, maybe it's the opposite wherever the hell you are from.

I'm from America, you asshat. What the hell does being girly or manly have to do with self esteem? Some of the most many men I know are only that way because they are insecure in their manhood.

 

[KGB1]

ok, i really want to train jiu jitsu, but i am extremely shy and shame. i guess you could call it anxiety, because when im there i always think that the people there are looking at me funny and just laughing. Can anyone recommend any advice for this? i really want to train, badly. but i get really anxious and start sweating because i think everyone is just staring right at me while i look like a fool doing this martial art.

I've taken Judo since 6th grade, and thats one tough sport. But I did notice one thing when every body sat down and the sensai would teach we all listened and stayed attentive. Nobody felt "stupid" because no of us were professionals, of course we stare like robots at the kid the sensai would bring up to demonstrate with. But we learned from the mistakes he made and we all progressed together. In martial arts there is no I. We learned as a team and grew up that way. That is how you have to see it.

Not like, ohh well I hope I don't make an a$$ out of myself while doing a toss. As long as your focused and want to learn for yourself. Not to show off to others. Who cares what others think about how you bend someones arm around, as long as he's on the floor crying "uncle". Don't over think a simple matter, go have fun. Thats what its all about.

(I had a friend like that joined Judo a year after me, he had a weight problem. Are you in the same category he was in? If so; after 6 months of training your parents wont recognize you )

 

[jamesbond007]

I'd say if you're having troubles, throw in some street-fighting tactics and do whatever it takes to bring them down. J/K

Maybe it's really part of the lesson...to see how well you stand up to peer pressure and if you can ignore them starring at you...just do what I did when we did dancing in school...just point and laugh at others because you're not the only person who is making mistakes, I'm sure.

Look at it this way. You're already there, you're signed up and attending. That's the hardest part man! Now learn some arse-kicking techniques!!!

Have fun too!

 

[Bleep]

That is amazing, I trained in jiu jitsu for several years a long time ago and as far as I know jiu jitsu and Judo are not the same.

Bleep

 

[axelfox]

Hey, I guess you don't want it badly enough if you have anxiety....

 

[KGB1]

Originally posted by: Bleep
That is amazing, I trained in jiu jitsu for several years a long time ago and as far as I know jiu jitsu and Judo are not the same.

Bleep

WTH are you talking about man?? I KNOW ITS NOT THE SAME ::vein in middle of forehead visible:: I was talking about getting some balls and going to jiu jitsu class. WTH is the matter with you??

 

[Schadenfreude]

Originally posted by: KGB

Originally posted by: Bleep
That is amazing, I trained in jiu jitsu for several years a long time ago and as far as I know jiu jitsu and Judo are not the same.

Bleep

WTH are you talking about man?? I KNOW ITS NOT THE SAME ::vein in middle of forehead visible:: I was talking about getting some balls and going to jiu jitsu class. WTH is the matter with you??

I think he was talking about joining a martial arts class in general - and Nocturnal, don't worry - I've been in Judo, Wing Tsun, and TaeKwonDo and each time, I had to start over as a complete beginner - there's no shame in not knowing something you've not yet learned. Don't worry about looking goofy - you're not going there to look good, you're there to have fun (and [maybe] kick butt on the side)!

Once you go there and work out with other white belts, you won't feel so self-conscious. One advice if I may - whatever the instructor tells you, EXAGGERATE each movement. The problem with a lot of beginners is that they don't quite do it enough - their "low" stance isn't quite low enough, their "side"step lunges too forward, their "forward" steps propel them about ~6 inches, etc. (with the obvious exception of stuff like chokes/joint locks/anything involving a partner) . . .. Like I said, the most important thing . . . have fun!

 

[thomsbrain]

you are teh shame.

just remember: wax on, wax off.

 

[bolido2000]

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
you are teh shame.

just remember: wax on, wax off.

Wax who and where??

I remember I once talked to a guy who does bikini waxes in UCLA and he was telling me the number pu$$ies he usually sees in a day

 

[Schadenfreude]

Originally posted by: bolido2000

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
you are teh shame.

just remember: wax on, wax off.

Wax who and where??

I remember I once talked to a guy who does bikini waxes in UCLA and he was telling me the number pu$$ies he usually sees in a day

That's what's usually implied with "bikini waxes" . . . you thought they did them on their armpits or something?

 

[HamSupLo]

judo is pretty bad ass. The japanese olympic and world champion Yoshida beat Don Frye by armbar at Pride 23. he also beat royce gracie, but under kinda fishy circumstances, but nevertheless, Yoshida gave Royce more than he can handle.

Hey KGB, did they teach you a lot of groundwork and submissions in your judo class?

 

[bolido2000]

Originally posted by: Jehovah

Originally posted by: bolido2000

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
you are teh shame.

just remember: wax on, wax off.

Wax who and where??

I remember I once talked to a guy who does bikini waxes in UCLA and he was telling me the number pu$$ies he usually sees in a day

That's what's usually implied with "bikini waxes" . . . you thought they did them on their armpits or something?

Of course not

I did thought that they would hire a woman for that kind of job.

 

[HamSupLo]

that must be one of the best jobs in the world

 

[KGB1]

Originally posted by: jooksing
judo is pretty bad ass. The japanese olympic and world champion Yoshida beat Don Frye by armbar at Pride 23. he also beat royce gracie, but under kinda fishy circumstances, but nevertheless, Yoshida gave Royce more than he can handle.

Hey KGB, did they teach you a lot of groundwork and submissions in your judo class?

Fyre had it coming, but I'm more into the european scene when it comes to judo.

My sensai was no holds bard with me. I kinda acted like a show off, (i was taller than the rest at our age) so he constantly picked on me for demostrations. I had a tough time in Judo, but it did pay off. I guess the "extra" attention I received, got me to kick some ass. I had taken Wrestling in Turkey before I started Judo. I had a pretty good background in groundwork because of the matches I had done in greece and turkey. Mostly I practiced flipping and grappling. I hate submissions moves, especially in matches so cheasy in my book. Be a man and throw him around like a sissy doll. But in real life situations I have no problem taking down an attacker with a leg triangle head lock.