jealous of girlfriend

[illustri]

whats the acronym, yagt?

anyways i'm sure alot of people here know, that you have basically NO LIFE when you've been a couple for more than a year, (is it the same with married couples i wonder?)

well ive been with with my girl almost 2 1/2 years, now shes studying abroad a couple quarters in germany, and its just dawning on me how little i have to do now, and how much of my time before was spent with her

its funny i always knew this would happen but its just really stings when it comes around

now i resent her for going out, partying, socializing while i'm here realizing how i have no life

the plan of course is to start going out more myself, hang out with friends more (although most my friends have their own gfs which only adds to my saddness) maybe get out there again in the scene who knows

but its hard to just start up again, after so long. oh well

anyway this is not intended as a plea for help or anything, im just pointing out whats probably true for alot of ppl. im curious to know tho how others have dealt, might be some interesting stories out here

 

[johnjohn320]

You have a life, but a significant part of it went to Germany for awhile. She'll return, and in the meantime, call up some buddies who you haven't hung out with in awhile.

 

[Feldenak]

I often refer to my fiancee as my "Social Coordinator"

I still get out with my friends though...shoot some pool, drink a few pitchers, and have a few wings.

 

[vi edit]

The number one mistake that many couples make is that they only know life WITH their S/O's and don't know how to operate without them.

 

[melly]

i agree with johnjohn.

though i resent the comment that after being together for after a year with someone implies you have no life.

but you love her, and miss her. there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[illustri]

you know whats worse (or better)
we talk everyday on aim and webcam
maybe that just holds the both of us back

 

[Deeko]

at least you're still together.
She could have said "im going to germany. we're done."

 

[huey1124]

Originally posted by: illustri
whats the acronym, yagt?

anyways i'm sure alot of people here know, that you have basically NO LIFE when you've been a couple for more than a year, (is it the same with married couples i wonder?)

well ive been with with my girl almost 2 1/2 years, now shes studying abroad a couple quarters in germany, and its just dawning on me how little i have to do now, and how much of my time before was spent with her

its funny i always knew this would happen but its just really stings when it comes around

now i resent her for going out, partying, socializing while i'm here realizing how i have no life

the plan of course is to start going out more myself, hang out with friends more (although most my friends have their own gfs which only adds to my saddness) maybe get out there again in the scene who knows

but its hard to just start up again, after so long. oh well

anyway this is not intended as a plea for help or anything, im just pointing out whats probably true for alot of ppl. im curious to know tho how others have dealt, might be some interesting stories out here

man, i know what you mean. i've been with my current gf for *gasp* almost 4 years now. before we started going out, i used to have parties at my house and hang out with my friends 7 nights a week. now all i do is maybe go to the movies, eat out, go snowboarding, watch tv.... all with my gf. all the friends i used to hang out with drifted apart, and when i do hang out with them, it's hard to go without my gf. i've gone out a few times without her, but she looks so sad when i come home and i feel bad. she does go out with her friends, but not as much either. anyways, i resorted to reading threads on Anandtech while she does her nails, hair, whatever. thank God for cable, internet, and DirecTV.

 

[DrVos]

Originally posted by: illustri
you know whats worse (or better)
we talk everyday on aim and webcam
maybe that just holds the both of us back

I dont think that is entirely true. I think that it is important to keep in consistent contact with your S/O when see so little of each other. When you don't talk to each other for large stretches of time, I think it makes you tend to grow apart since you grow accustomed to not sharing the little things that go on in your life.

Good luck with the relationship man! Be strong!

<--- Going on 7 years with the GF... 3 of which were long distance.

 

[illustri]

haha huey, your post is EXACTLY what im fighting against
my contention right now is, SHES having a good time, why arent i

the resentment comes from my thinking that she should be as lonely as i feel, which she probably is but just deals with it better
she gets new friends, a exciting time (i guess) in a country shes interested in, meets new people

and im stuck back here with the same old only missing a huge portion of what used to be normal

like i told her once, when we were here together we shared a pie that provided all the substinence we both needed to exclusivity, then when we parted, each took half the pie, but she can add to her half all the cool things there, while back here my halfs still plain and the same

 

[illustri]

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[illustri]

damn, reply twice
how do i edit?

 

[huey1124]

Originally posted by: illustri
haha huey, your post is EXACTLY what im fighting against
my contention right now is, SHES having a good time, why arent i

the resentment comes from my thinking that she should be as lonely as i feel, which she probably is but just deals with it better
she gets new friends, a exciting time (i guess) in a country shes interested in, meets new people

and im stuck back here with the same old only missing a huge portion of what used to be normal

like i told her once, when we were here together we shared a pie that provided all the substinence we both needed to exclusivity, then when we parted, each took half the pie, but she can add to her half all the cool things there, while back here my halfs still plain and the same

alright, i can tell you've been with your gf too long. you're a man, and talking about pieces of pie that describes your relationship. only pie you need is another hair pie to fill your void. j/k

it's unfair to think that she should be as lonely as you feel. like you said, she's having a great time in an exciting new place, with new friends and new culture. you should take this opportunity to make some new friends (female preferred), go to the gym, take a knitting class... whatever to take your jealousy off. or you can go back to your jealousy while staying at home baking a pie on a Saturday night.

 

[Kadarin]

Get out of the house and join a bowling league... She's making friends somehow, so you should do the same.

 

[illustri]

you see this is the scene in snl skit ladies man where the caller calls and tell leon his penis is too small, leon rips him up and the guy starts crying

maybe youre right i have been with her too long, and damn i do need female friends as i have maybe two right now

 

[GermyBoy]

For maximum enjoyment, think that she's cheating on you, so you should cheat on her with as many girls as possible for a while. Then when she gets back, pretend that nothing happened and start up again.

P.S. It'll keep you busy, and save you money because international phonecalls are expensive.

 

[her209]

Once she realizes how much fun she is having being single, expect a break up letter.

 

[EvilYoda]

Yeah, it's odd how it'll just hit you one day...at least you still have a g/f, I had a pretty active life, but after my girl of 2.5 years and I broke, I just felt like someone had taken a chunk out of my life...she affected things that she didn't even have a part of.

At least if all goes well, you'll have a hell of a time when you're back together.

...I just read that you don't have many female friends? That surprises me, for some reason...definitely go make more of them, they offer things your guy friends never will. And NO, not in that way, that's for your g/f to do.

 

[huey1124]

Originally posted by: GermyBoy
For maximum enjoyment, think that she's cheating on you, so you should cheat on her with as many girls as possible for a while. Then when she gets back, pretend that nothing happened and start up again.

except that she'll be wondering where you got teh crabs.

P.S. It'll keep you busy, and save you money because international phonecalls are expensive.

not according to 10-10-987.

Q. How much does it cost to call Western Europe?
A. All calls to Western Europe are an amazing 3¢ per minute and a low 39¢ to connect -- 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Just dial 10-10-987 + 1 + the area code and the number you wish to call. Charges will appear on your local phone bill. Western Europe includes: Andorra, Austria, Belgium, Denmark, France, Finland, Germany, Gibraltar, Greece, Ireland, Italy, Liechtenstein, Luxemburg, Malta, Monaco, Netherlands, Norway, Portugal, San Marino, Sweden, Switzerland, United Kingdom, and Vatican City.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: her209
Once she realizes how much fun she is having being single, expect a break up letter.

Good point. To add on to that, you probably trust her judgement; but sometimes, when the girl goes away for so long here's what could happen:

1. She gets there and feels lost since everything is new to her.
2. She obviously meets a guy who shows her around (always happens).
3. She thinks of him as a friend, but he has other agendas (how guys think).
4. She has fun hanging out with him and his friends.
5. She realizes she's falling in love with him, he feels the same (all part of his plan, but he acts like it occurred naturally).
6. Dear John letter.

Notice I said 'sometimes', but its a recurring theme, not original or unique to one's case. Hope you're not one of the unlucky ones.

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01

Originally posted by: her209
Once she realizes how much fun she is having being single, expect a break up letter.

Good point. To add on to that, you probably trust her judgement; but sometimes, when the girl goes away for so long here's what could happen:

1. She gets there and feels lost since everything is new to her.
2. She obviously meets a guy who shows her around (always happens).
3. She thinks of him as a friend, but he has other agendas (how guys think).
4. She has fun hanging out with him and his friends.
5. She realizes she's falling in love with him, he feels the same (all part of his plan, but he acts like it occurred naturally).
6. Dear John letter.

Notice I said 'sometimes', but its a recurring theme, not original or unique to one's case. Hope you're not one of the unlucky ones.

you watch way too many movies.

 

[huey1124]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01

Originally posted by: her209
Once she realizes how much fun she is having being single, expect a break up letter.

Good point. To add on to that, you probably trust her judgement; but sometimes, when the girl goes away for so long here's what could happen:

1. She gets there and feels lost since everything is new to her.
2. She obviously meets a guy who shows her around (always happens).
3. She thinks of him as a friend, but he has other agendas (how guys think).
4. She has fun hanging out with him and his friends.
5. She realizes she's falling in love with him, he feels the same (all part of his plan, but he acts like it occurred naturally).
6. Dear John letter.

Notice I said 'sometimes', but its a recurring theme, not original or unique to one's case. Hope you're not one of the unlucky ones.

yeah trust me, she's having the time of her life right now. with no one who can rat on her when she comes back. she'll be having a kilbasa or two when all is said and done.

 

[huey1124]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01

Originally posted by: her209
Once she realizes how much fun she is having being single, expect a break up letter.

Good point. To add on to that, you probably trust her judgement; but sometimes, when the girl goes away for so long here's what could happen:

1. She gets there and feels lost since everything is new to her.
2. She obviously meets a guy who shows her around (always happens).
3. She thinks of him as a friend, but he has other agendas (how guys think).
4. She has fun hanging out with him and his friends.
5. She realizes she's falling in love with him, he feels the same (all part of his plan, but he acts like it occurred naturally).
6. Dear John letter.

Notice I said 'sometimes', but its a recurring theme, not original or unique to one's case. Hope you're not one of the unlucky ones.

you watch way too many movies.

i remember the same plot from watching Illustri's Girlfriend Does Germany.

 

[pulse8]

Originally posted by: huey1124

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01

Originally posted by: her209
Once she realizes how much fun she is having being single, expect a break up letter.

Good point. To add on to that, you probably trust her judgement; but sometimes, when the girl goes away for so long here's what could happen:

1. She gets there and feels lost since everything is new to her.
2. She obviously meets a guy who shows her around (always happens).
3. She thinks of him as a friend, but he has other agendas (how guys think).
4. She has fun hanging out with him and his friends.
5. She realizes she's falling in love with him, he feels the same (all part of his plan, but he acts like it occurred naturally).
6. Dear John letter.

Notice I said 'sometimes', but its a recurring theme, not original or unique to one's case. Hope you're not one of the unlucky ones.

yeah trust me, she's having the time of her life right now. with no one who can rat on her when she comes back. she'll be having a kilbasa or two when all is said and done.

So many jaded males on this forum...

 

[Looney]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01

Originally posted by: her209
Once she realizes how much fun she is having being single, expect a break up letter.

Good point. To add on to that, you probably trust her judgement; but sometimes, when the girl goes away for so long here's what could happen:

1. She gets there and feels lost since everything is new to her.
2. She obviously meets a guy who shows her around (always happens).
3. She thinks of him as a friend, but he has other agendas (how guys think).
4. She has fun hanging out with him and his friends.
5. She realizes she's falling in love with him, he feels the same (all part of his plan, but he acts like it occurred naturally).
6. Dear John letter.

Notice I said 'sometimes', but its a recurring theme, not original or unique to one's case. Hope you're not one of the unlucky ones.