This is one of the weird things to me with the conservative delusion about the cities. As I often tell people, I live in Portland, supposedly a hotbed of lawlessness and leftist violence. And yet one of my fav pasttimes is urban hiking. I'm one of those people who happen to love walking at a steady 4mph pace. There are trails all over the city (especially on my side of town), and I enjoy hiking them. I also walk just to get groceries at the store. And I've been doing this for years. I even walked downtown and watched the 2020 protests.
And the one thing that has never happened to me in all this walking about in this 'dangerous' city is anything that would make feel unsafe. In fact, if there's any time or place I might unsafe, it's from some entitled road raging prick while I'm driving (and I'm admittedly an aggressive driver).
I've also visited a lot of small towns. And my experience there has been far less glorious than this rosy we-all-love-our-neighbors bullshit. More like petty bickering, corrupt small town cops, and big-fish-in-a-small-town bullies. I recall once trying to help a friend set up a business in a small town on the WA coast, and the local official hostility to outside small business investment was just insane. They were either local money or major corporations or get out.
From my perspective, everything conservatives say about big cities and small towns are baldfaced lies that, for some bizarre reason, we choose to entertain. And we need to stop doing that.
Their beloved small town is a corrupt shit hole with no jobs where half the population lives in trailer parks even though the real estate market collapsed long ago. Even conservatives know this. It's why they all want to move to the suburbs.